Rants And Advice

Ok, anyway. Now, I’ve been given the talk about puberty, periods, and all the good stuff about transitioning into an adult. I’m not saying I’ve been exposed to everything but I know what I need to know and not many things surprise me anymore when it it comes to more “grown up” or s*xual topics.

But no one warned me how strong s*xual feelings could get bruh! Like I was told the basic stuff like “oH! You’ll start feElIng ‘things’ toward BoyS” OK? AND WHAT DOES SAID FEELING FEEL LIKE? I had NO idea what “feelings toward boys” meant. I had no idea what it meant to be h0rny , like actually h0rny until I turned 15.

For some context, I was and still am raised in a very Christian household, and can proudly call myself a Christian. I hold my religion at a very high level because I have chosen too.

But when I began to feel tingles in the Uh ✨kitty✨ area, I legit thought I was sinning, I mean granted I didn’t know what that feeling was, but it seemed to be heightened by thinking about s*x (I knew what it was and I knew how people did it) or seeing an attractive man. So, I knew it was some kind of s*xual attraction happening.

BUT MY GOODNESS I LEGIT THOUGHT I WAS BEING S*XUALLY IMMORAL OR SOMETHING I HAD NO IDEA WHAT IT WAS, BUT BY PUTTING TWO AND TWO TOGETHER I EVENTUALLY FIGURED IT OUT.

However, I denied that I was feeling h0rniness for the first time and went about my life with that worry still in the back of my head.

BUT! They didn’t go away, in fact they got STRONGER. I was able to track when they happened and began noticing patterns in when I began to feel h0rny.

I started noticing that I didn’t need to have a picture of a hot guy in front of me. It kinda just happened. And I wasn’t going to lie to myself.

It felt good, gentle, tiny tingles starting from my palms down to my stomach and finally reaching my ahem.. ✨kitty area✨

And bruh, they weren’t just TINGLES! They left butterflies in my stomach, they felt good, satisfying, and make me crave for more.

Eventually I got so worried that I talked to me best friend about it. And she and I were able to figure it out “oh! Your h0rny!” She said. And then I was able to find closure.

I don’t feel shame when I feel a normal human sensation. And I have ways to deal with it.

But for anyone, who has had the talk but has yet to feel “it” it feels good, you’ll probably like it. But it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

And therefore both persons should apologize. But some people are too immature to apologize. They want to think they are right. Even if they also did things to hurt you.

However. You need to be the bigger person. You need to learn to apologize for what you did, whether they apologize or not. Then you can at least say you have conducted yourself the right way.

•Trigger warning: topic of r*pe.

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I’ve been scrolling around Instagram and even Pinterest looking at feminist and sexism awareness posts. And after looking at a good chunk of them, I can see why feminists are sometimes hated and loved.

On one side you’ll see the whole-

“Oh all men do is r*pe and k*ll and try to dominate, their worthless and wemon are better!”

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And on the other side you’ll see-

“Wemon diserve to feel safe, and not have to worry about men taking advantage. We diserve to be seen as equal, and should support each other instead of bring others down!”

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So, I can understand why feminists can be hated and loved.

I don’t like how some basically accuse all men of r*pe and steyotype men into this “gross, degusting, useless, and dominat-obsessed” gender. It’s rude and uncalled for. Men are needed just as much a wemon.

Like it’s not sexist to say that a man is typically (key word being typically) stronger than a female. Cause that’s literally biology it’s how our bodies are made, get over it.

That’s like tying to be sexist towards a man for saying “ha! Females can have babies and you can’t!” See what I mean?

I’m tired of these feminists (not all of course) just constantly beraiding the male gender. And then saying their fighting for equal rights. Sweetie...if your fighting for equal rights then you wouldn’t be treating someone who’s not your gender like crap alright?

But on the plus side. (Aka the good feminists)

Feminism also supports wemon, advocates for the ones who are less advocated for

They make posts about r*pe awareness. And help educate how wemon have been treated badly in the past and are still being treated badly today, but understand that the world is and has become much more inclusive when it comes to gender (mostly)

These feminists believe that both men and wemon (or who ever you identify as) are equally valid, and both are necessary. These feminists don’t accuse every single man of r*pe, and acknowledge that boy and men and also be a victim.

•In short a good feminist will say: “men and women are equal. Both are valid. But also, we need to advocate for female rights as those are still lacking to an extent in our society. But I do not see men as the gender that can’t control their urdges. I don’t see them as r*pe machines. Instead I see all genders as equal. But I am fighting for the rights wemon currenly do not have.

•And a bad feminist will say: “all men do is lie and r*pe and cheat! Their useless hunks of meat who don’t diserve to be on this planet. Wemon are better! Wemon are more valid and all men are worthless!”

See the difference?

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Nothing wrong with it.

If you can afford it and it’s not hurting you or anyone else, then do it

Bling out your car in Rhine stones

Make your bedroom the goth queen vibe room of your dreams

Get matching stationary just because it looks pretty

Keep your skin care products in a tiny fridge just because you want to.

Just do you.

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•Trigger Warning: do not read if you cannot handle Pedos or MAPs (minor attracted person) Along with other topics.

I stumbled upon the subreddit R/gatchalifecringe bejng featured on YouTube. So the majority of this info is coming from ItsBen on YouTube.

So, I’m not against the Gatcha community, but their are some extremely sketchy parts of it.

For example, People support incest have risen to the point that other decent people in the community had to make videos addressing the clear issue. LIKE BRUH! Imagine some like 10 year old, making Vids on this app, going around supporting something as horrible as incest????like you all kids on that app need to chill.

Next up is the MAP’s (minor attracted person) who slip though the cracks of Gatcha life.

Not to mention in an article titled ‘A girl as young at ten was asked to send topless picture to “verify her age” on Gatcha life app’ posted by Hanna Carter on July 26, 2019. (Article posted on thesun.com) The young girl was sent messages on Amino asking her to send a photo of her bare chest to “verify her age” to be added to the Amino chat. Saying that the chat was a “safe place for girls” Luckily the girl’s mom had educated her daughter on internet safety and the girl showed this to her mom.

Another issue are the MAPS that will set up accounts to look like normal Gatcha accounts (sometimes they look normal) but then will pray on small children. And ask them to send pics. Often times when the children don’t share the pedo’s will make threats at the children saying they will take them away, or hurt them. It’s sad and horrifying.

Anyway here are some photos supporting my arguments

To all you young people on any kind of social media, please be careful! Do NOT reply to ANY messages you get if their from someone if you dont know and trust them in real life. If you see any messages your unsure about talk to a parent or guardian. I know you hear this advice all the time I get it! I got those lectures as well when I was younger! They can be annoying. But you have no idea how real and scary those pedos and MAPS can get. So please please please be wise on the internet and NEVER send any photos to anyone you don’t know and trust in real life.

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The website girls go games is just a website where you play a bunch of dress up games that often feature Disney princesses (which were probably illegally used, I wouldn’t be surprised) and do other girly stuff.

•First off, the (assumed) illegal use of characters that are copyrighted is well wrong..no duh...

And second, it’s kinda a sketchy website, able to download virus to your computer and stuff.

But things I find most rediclous on this website targeted TO YOUNG GIRLS! Is that well there’s first off, no diversity in that game, not with body types, ways of life, sexualities, or ethnicity. Representation is extremely important, like you all have no idea how important it is especially to young people to show representation! Like bruh!

•Second, alright look at this screen shot

17 search results for pregnant....on a website...for young girls...right...

“Um hey girls go games! Children in kindergarten play these games! Maybe wait until they have THE TALK with their parents before giving them multiple games featuring (mostly underage) pregnant women...just saying”

•Third, was watching Somone on YouTube play these games for fun and stuff, and no hate to her cuz she’s awesome. But there was a game literally about this girl (Elsa) breaking up with her boyfriend.

First off, if you wanna break up with someone, go ahead. But do it respectfully! This game literally had Elsa throw frankly pretty rude insults at her “boyfriend.” Is that what u wanna teach young girls OR ANYONE to do??? To act like a petty brat while breaking up with someone???? Bruh... unless the relationship was toxic or abusive, break up respectfully, it’s just common sense.

•Fourth, wtf is this????

....THIS 👏🏻GAME👏🏻IS👏🏻FOR👏🏻CHILDREN👏🏻IN👏🏻KINDERGARTEN👏🏻

They called me the sexualizer....

Um what????

😂

•Here’s her username (on Pinterest): AnimuFreek

•(If your gonna do anything only report her, do not harass, bully, or threaten) •

•But on a serious note. She called me the sexualizer. While this is her profile pic

Boo boo, what??? She’s gonna call me a sexualizer, when this is her profile pic???? Alright honey....

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It doesn’t just come from being able to take the biggest guy you know in a fight. We all have different strengths and they are all necessary. Some of us are the pillars of support, others are the physical fighters, some are the influencers, the advocates,

heck your strength could be:

-having a level head

-intellect

-people smart

-social skills

-good grades

-being influential

Like bro! That list goes on and on!

Fighting or punching isn’t the only thing that takes strength in life and frankly, the easiest strength to master is probably your physical strength. But mental strength, oh boy, that’s the true battle. All strengths are necessary and none are better then the other.

Just because you might not be able to necessarily “fight” doesn’t mean your weak. There are so many other ways to be strong. Heck walking away from an unnecessary fight takes more strength. Also, don’t underestimate having an underrated strength, that just means you can blow people away when it comes time to truely use it.

The main reason I’m sharing this with you, is because, I’m a very feisty person, whether that’s for better or for worse, but I have a very dainty body (think ballet dancer body, just with less muscle) and that can be challenging to have to understand that I probably won’t be able to take someone down in a physical fight despite my fighting personality. And it....sucks....

I had this talk with my best friend a couple nights ago and we figured out that there are so many more ways to be strong, and that it’s ok to not have much physical strength. Some people (feisty people like me) can take someone’s ego WAY down WAY fast, that Itself is dangerous, when confidence is lowered it can be so mentally deadly for the victim. But on the flip side every strength can be used in a positive sense. Feisty people can also be advocates, influencers, and the voice of the people. Having an influence on people is also SO freaking powerful!

When it comes to physical strength, you can either use it to hurt others, or defend others. In short

“Retaliate in a way that you are comfortable with”

-rantsandadvice

I’ll share an experience with you that showed me that I am strong espically when I use it correctly and in a way I’m comfortable with.

My strength I feel is my ability to understand people mixed with an extremely feisty personality.

I was sitting in class and this kid that was always kinda as a*s to people who weren’t his idea of popular was sitting in front of me. Now I was drawing not bothering anyone and he decides to try and talk to me. Now I know this kid well enough to know that he’s doing this to #1 annoy me (you do not annoy me when I’m drawing) and #2 probably to get me to make a fool out of myself. So I already know this is bad news. He begins talking with a hint of mockery behind his words. So (I forget what he was saying) I responded with an appropriate response (again I don’t remember what I said) but I do remember him asking me “wait, did you just wink....aRe yOu FlIrtIng wIth Me?” He asks, first off, I had blinked...second I’m not an idiot, I don’t flirt, I’m not smooth when it comes to flirting and third, why the heck would i wanna flirt with that a*shole? So, already I’m pretty annoyed. Then this idiot, decided to slam his hand down on my desk while I was drawing. So you know what I did? I took my pencil. Graphite side down, and brought it down full force on his hand. Now, I kinda held back at the last second (so I wouldn’t make him bleed cuz that would definitely get me in trouble and he isn’t worth getting in trouble over) but either way I stabbed him hard enough that he jerked his hand away and with the most dumb founded and surprised face he says to his equally a*shole friend “SHE STABBED ME!!!” And guess what? He didn’t bother me for the rest of the year. He even stopped sitting in front of me and decided to move to the opposite side of the dang class room 😂.

I won that battle! I tiny noodle armed girl won a battle against a stronger popular boy..and frankly I was so freaking proud of myself. I won bc I retaliated in a way I felt comfortable, I was perfectly fine with stabbing the idiot in the hand. A full on fight? No thx, I’m no idiot, I know I’ll probably loose a fight, but my strengh, the ability to understand people combined with feistiness allowed me to win that battle.

Use your strengths wisely because they are all so powerful.

Your not weak, you just have your own strength.

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• Don’t make any big moves in your life just for a guy or romantic partner, unles they are your spouse or something like that, don’t make any big life changes for JUST them, make sure those life chances that will effect YOUR life are for you!

•For my girls, Be a baddie with a good heart, enough said

• “I feel like a girl often loves a guy more than she loves herself” -Cristina Villegas (YouTube)

•Take your own advice

•Stop doing something because YOU wanna stop doing it not because anyone else tells you to stop doing it

•don’t assume, it makes you look like a fool when you are wrong.

•every kind of relationship should involve BOTH of you growing.

•If only one of you is making all the sacrifices in a relationship, that’s not fair...

•don’t make someone feel stupid for getting back with someone (unless that person was toxic or abusive or something like that, then help that person leave the relationship) some times friends, couples, family, fight and sometimes you just gotta vent. So if that person vented to you they trust you. So don’t make them feel dumb for getting back with that person. We are human, we make mistakes, we fight, but if the realationship is healthy then the people in whatever kind of relationship will do the’re best to fix it. So don’t make someone feel dumb for getting back with someone.

-don’t put all your effort into him gurl! Take time for yourself!

-be with someone who supports you and what you love, even if they don’t agree with it, as long as they respect it and support YOU, that’s what matters

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I can guarantee you as a straight girl, if your looking for a gf then being a polite and respectful gentleman is the best freaking way to do it! Like honestly.

Now before you say “oh people will call me a simp” then first off, is your masculinity really that fragile? And second. There’s a difference between a simp and a gentleman.

•Gentleman: Respect for women, but not to the point of sacrificing self-respect

•Simp: Sacrificing self -respect thinking they are respecting women when I reality they just end up disdrespecting and degreading both.

-a comment I saw on YouTube.

Another way of describing it is

•Gentleman: respect for wemon, and therefore uses manners, etiquette, and genuine love.

•Simp: pretends to be a gentleman only to get p*ssy.

See the difference? As long as you ain’t clingy and desperate for female attention your all good.

I can promise you, as a straight girl, the BEST way to get a girl friend is to be a gentleman, not a simp.

the MAP community...

(Btw the majority of this info is coming from HartyMcSmarty on YouTube)

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Ok, so essentially here is the definition of someone who is MAP

It’s. Someone. Who. Is. Attracted. To. Kids. Under. The. Age. Of. Consent.

WHAT?!??!!!????!!!???!!??

Also, these people wanna be included in the LGBTQ+ community. Like I’m straight and all, but I’m also ok with people who are in the community, like “ok my dude, like who you wanna like, it’s all cool”

But....are they just gonna let anyone in at this point?!??!! You gotta draw the line somewhere!

This is essentially an excuse to be a pedophile...

Just wait until someone who loves a toaster want to be in the LGBTQ+ community, oh wait those nut-jobs already exists! ItS cAllEd ObJecTum SeXuAliTy!!! And I though sexualities have to do with gender and people, not people and objects. But that’s another rant...

Either way, this “MAP” sh*t is morally wrong, and clearly just an excuse for creeps to try and have sex with children, and ITS NOT OK...

To any children on tumblr, be safe and be wise about what you do. If you see anything your concerned or confused about, then ask a parent or TRUSTED adult! Also beware of the. MAP flag

This was a reply to someone on YouTube that a wrote addressing the topic, but im gonna copy and paste it here bc I brought up some good points

“[Unsername of person I am repling to] so your saying it’s ok for some creepy ass dude to be walking around looking for a kid to rape? Raise your standards man. I’m sorry, but you have to draw the line somewhere. These people ARE pedophiles, and they are using this term to make it seem like a sexuality, ITS NOT A SEXUALITY! People need to learn to keep it in their pants and leave it there, Again, children should not have to give consent, chances are they don’t even know what consent is. This MAP stuff is just an excuse for pedophiles to get away with their actions and not face any consequences. Do you really think that’s ok? If they are getting help, then great, but it’s not a sexuality, it’s a morally unhealthy and freaking messed up mind to wanna rape a kid...or anyone for that matter, even if they aren’t minors....consent exists even in married couples....”

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As a skinny girl, I’ve heard it all. (For me it wasn’t necessarily shaming bc I could tell those girls were jealous. Hate me if you want for saying that but it was true so)

“Oh don’t you eat?”

*grabs wrists* “GUYS LOOK ITS SO SMALL!”

“I bet your always cold”

“Are you anorexic?”

“Oh don’t get offended, you have no idea what it’s like to be discontent with your body!”

Um yes I do, all people will occasionally have issues with their body. And that’s ok, if you never had any issues with how your body looks for whatever reason then...your too egotistical, get off your high horse cuz your not perfect.

Skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming, believe it or not. Skinny girls have insecurities too and you shaming them isn’t helping.