i am not a failure

no one hates me

no one wants me to die

i am skilled and smart

people appreciate my kindness

no one can actually put themselves in your shoes because they'll never have the experiences that shape you. 100% similarity is way too far from possibility. that is why, everyone is always quick to judge rather than to understand.

the post is directed more towards the people who are quick to judge the ones who're struggling with their mental health. i won't lie, i used to be one of them. i had a really difficult time in my life where i can say i lost myself. but i tried my best, all alone. then also started talking about it with my friends and started feeling good. after a bit of feeling better, i forgot about the struggles i had faced. those times started feeling like stupidity to my head and i started judging people who were dealing with similar circumstances. my head used to go like they should get help, they can just fix themselves like i did.

then i learnt about ug subliminals. there i learnt about how people actually listen to subliminals to stay in their depressive phase and i was like what why. (p. s. i am not saying this is a healthy thing to do) i started reading youtube comments and reddit posts about why people do that & i learnt that some people become so comfortable with their depression that they just do not want to leave it and yes, it is a choice. but there were also stories about people who were like that and then they got "better".

so it got me thinking. and yes, some of you might think again that this thing is just an excuse and people can just get better if they want to, like magically or something. but my dear, no. that's really not how things work.

their traumas shaped them through years and years, we can't just expect people to "get better" in the blink of an eye. actually we can if we look at it in a spiritual way but still we can't unless there's willingness. you cannot force someone to just "get better".

you don't have to but what they want is for someone to accept their darkness because it has become a part of them. they might/might not grow out of it but that doesn't mean you have to stop living your life for their sake. just be kind.

correct me if i am wrong but from what i have read, depression and other mental issues play with your brain chemistry. like literally with the chemicals inside your brain, the hormones and such. the neural networks are shaped so tightly by the traumas that they become almost impossible to be rewritten (yes, please correct me if i am wrong). some people even seem to forget what their traumas were so yeah when people say they don't know why they're sad, they might actually not know. it might seem like an excuse (and yes, sometimes it might be) or even a lie. but what if it isn't? what if they're struggling so bad that they don't even know what is wrong with them?

we can still choose to be kind with them. it'll not be a big thing for you but it might help them. and it won't be even about them but about you. because it'll say more about you than them.

p. s. no one is saying that you have to stay in an environment created by the person who's struggling mentally which is abusive towards you. don't. stay.

also, they don't want you to actually suffer unless they're actually abusive.