Idk who needs to hear this but liking frogs or rats and having a unique hairstyle and doing your makeup ânot for men but for [insert other group here] to think youâre cool,â wearing weird mismatched earrings, having an androgynous sense of style and being popular on tiktok for your videos about gender dysphoria and even having pronouns in your bio doesnât make you an âenby sapphic/ he-him they-them dykeâ or whatever youâre just a woman who has really cool interests but who has internalized the misogynist idea that women canât be interesting. I feel like so many young women correctly identify certain forms of femininity as oppressive, but then instead of actually dealing with the root of it they just replicate another, more fashionable kind of femininity in the form of seeking male approval, competition with other women, shame at being women, while wearing big boots and a silk slip instead of high heels and a silk slip etc. itâs like these young women are so desperate to prove that they arenât Cizz Women because âcis womenâ arenât even considered human beings much less interesting or nuanced or complex. That desperation informs every facet of these womenâs personalities to the point where they have to pathologize normal parts of their personalities as âqueerâ or âtransâ in an effort to prove to themselves and others that there is something intrinsically different about them and the Other type of female human being, the type who is subhuman and identifies into it. please can we all stop with this mind numbing CONSTANT performance? Your best attempts at regaining your humanity by denying other women theirs will always fail you. No matter how hard you rail against the fact that you are female and therefore a woman, you wonât escape it. Nor do you need toâ womanhood is not oppressive, men are. Being a woman doesnât mean that you canât be a fully realized individualâ if you feel that way, itâs not because of dysphoria itâs because of internalized misogyny.
