"I notice you have a very specific art style."

"oh that doesn't mean anything"

Shit, look at how many popular memes with Black folks either depict us negatively, or the Black origin gets completely erased if not (think tik-tok dances, etc.). Half the time we ain't even looking at the absence of us, we're looking at them dancing in the skin off the corpse of what we made.

Wanna really put yourself into hell? Start counting how many BIPOC are showing up to your "community events". Start figuring out what the demographic ratios for your events are. Its one thing to think "oh we had a 120+ person event with a dozen people of color" its another to think "our event was only 10% people of color, where did WE fuck up here?" (If you think I'm exaggerating know that gods I am not, just ask DC and the DC Klans Picnic, 5% Black in a 50% Black city)

You HAVE to start noticing this. You have to start thinking about this in your online spaces too because of the BIPOC Attention Tax. This shit actively holds us back. This shit actively kills us - look at Tinu and Fiqah (sassycrass) who died despite being well known, well loved Black women and disability activists, because they couldn't make enough mutual aid to pay for medical needs.

CHILDREN WERE MURDERED. This is not about you. This is not about “waaaah transphobia”. This is about the fact that a man murdered children, and the “transphobia” you speak of is people being frustrated that you’re not willing to be honest about that fact.

"Sometimes we have to look at things that aren't cute and make us uncomfortable."

"Because I don't really understand it."

"Because it has nothing to do with me."

"Because it just feels unpleasant."

The males in these comments sections were CRASHING out. Saying “why didn’t you make the effort during marriage” “gave him your worst” “you must be empty now” “women vs accountability” “what did you do to put yourself in this position”