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Women: ha ha it’s girly to eat a lot of sweets

Where's the funny if it's the same as any other job?

Why is it "haha AH will have to be a prostitute" and not "haha amber heard will have to work a normal job"?

Why is being a sex worker the funniest consequence for an abuser?

A significant chunk of men really are incapable of ignoring their desire to humiliate & degrade women by making them sex objects for 5 fucking minutes aren't they?

For the record, I'm not an AH supporter. I haven't watched the trial, looked at evidence or anything. I do not have the time, energy nor the mental health to do so but I'd be lying to myself if this trial hasn't amplified the ugly misogyny of society, as seen in the amount "sex worker "jokes"", "why didn't she.." comments, "a REAL abuse victim doesn't act like that!!!!" comments etc.

Ezra Miller groomed a 12 year old Native (Lakota) teenaged girl. Said girl is now defending him, saying her father is "transphobic" and how since she is now an adult, she should have autonomy over her life, which is a big red flag for a groomed child.

Why have they never thought of how many men it must be to make women be afraid of them ALL? If it really is so rare and uncommon why do women feel afraid to exist? Why are they afraid to take walks alone? Wear certain clothes? Why are they afraid to live alone? Why are they afraid of being alone with a man they don't know? Why would they trust an unknown woman with their children before an unknown man? Why do women need women only locker rooms, trains, shelters and colleges? why are we afraid to say no? How many men must it be that we literally build our entire lives around how to avoid being a victim.

I think the reality that it could be any man scares them. It could be their dad, brother, grandpa, friend, cousin, boyfriend, their own son. One day it could just randomly happen. No matter how much you think you know them you don't. You don't know who they are when they think no one is watching. That scares them so they think that it can't be ALL men. It's wishful thinking.

Class consciousness is not only beneficial to women because it creates community, it's vital to our growth and survival. Acknowledging the violence men are capable of is not paranoia, it's accepting reality. Reality is terrifying.

and even the informed consent paperwork lists atrophy as a side effect of testosterone. why would that be a painless experience? if your arm or your lungs started to “atrophy”, to become weaker and smaller, couldn’t they also start to hurt?

trans guys take testosterone for the systemic, permanent, whole-body effects, right?… and you don’t believe people when they say “this drug has systemic permanant effects, all throughout the body”?

Here and here are some reddit screenshots both from r/detrans and r/ftm.

Here is my master spreadsheet of reddit testimonials which is currently sitting at 89 entries (don't think I've been sleeping on it! And don't think I haven't started archiving the posts ;)))) they're there forever bb :)))) .

I worked closely with a trans woman who was on a big "us women have to stick together" tip -- we were the only women in a fairly small organization. I struggled with that because I didn't feel that particular kinship with her. She was in her 40s when she came out and started transitioning, so there was also an aspect of just ... like ... most of her learned behavior was very male coded and a of the things she found shocking when the outside world started to read her as female were just exasperating. If she had ever actually listened to women before she recognized herself as one, she wouldn't be so surprised by any of it.

Anyway. I watch a lot of terf discourse #onhere and I think a ton about how much terfs struggle with the basic fact that unless you reduce women to having a hole where men have a dongle, their definitions all fail. There are so many women in this world who were assigned female at birth and never grew breasts at all, lost their uterus or never properly formed one, can't physically carry a fetus to term or give birth, can't get pregnant for a hundred different reasons and it becomes this agonizing identity crisis. You aren't woman enough if your body can't carry a baby. You aren't woman enough if you're flat chested (but also if you're boobs are too big you might be fat and that's certainly it's own horror to be avoided at all cost.)

There are cis women with square jaws, big hands, facial hair. Those all exist on the normal spectrum of how people assigned female at birth develop.

You’re gonna walk back on this very insightful and very good thought because oh no the evil “TERFs” have gotten it?

Like it was not a misguided thought it was actually a very very good thought that we should think about more.

Femininity is seen as humiliating for men. That’s why gay/gnc men are subjected to so much abuse if they display “feminine” qualities.

“Boys raised as girls as a horror trope” is not trans misogyny. It’s just sexism. Straight up misogyny. It’s not cause society is so mean to trans people, it’s because society (men) hate women so much. They hate us, want us solely to conform to femininity, but they know it’s humiliating when a man displays it. Because they know femininity is oppressive.

This was a really good fucking post and you had to ruin it by going off on a mental break about “TERFs”. Talking about how you’ll block us all for reblogging your post.

Did you get called out for it? Did you get called transphobic for pointing out how boys and girls are socialised differently and how much of a negative impact that has? For suggesting that femininity can be used as a weapon? Did all these subtle arguments in your original post get you marked red on Shinigami eyes? Is that why you’re now bending over backwards telling TERFs to fuck off because you’re afraid of being labelled one again? Even though your original post is very much in line with RadFem thought…

How does patriarchy theory explain why most janitors are men? Carpenters? Plumbers? Landscapers? Computer repair technicians?

They aren't the kinds of jobs that men aspired to when they were young hopeful boys, and they don't necessarily love to work them, but they do them anyway. Just as sex discrimination laws removed formal barriers against women in STEM, nothing's officially stopping a woman in 2022 from signing up to take the steps a man takes to get these skilled jobs. Yet with the freedom to choose, they don't want to choose these jobs at anywhere near the rate men do.

Janitors get paid more than maids.

Plumbers, carpenters and landscapers are well paying jobs that can be cheaply accessed through apprenticeships. That system means that women find it incredibly hard to find a mentor willing to take them on without sexual abuse being part of the terms.

As for computers and the entire programming industry, women did do these jobs until the industry expanded and men started being interested. Men have no trouble entering female dominated jobs and taking prime spots - think of all the female teachers and nurses but most principals and nurse practitioners are men. Female socialization doesn’t include a group solidarity to run men out of these professions.