Don’t Come At Me.

Rebecca Solnit wrote those words as a quiet challenge to a pattern many women know too well.

She noticed how often women are asked to wait, to absorb, to understand, to smooth over situations shaped by decisions they never made.

She saw how patience becomes a requirement rather than a choice, how calmness is praised while discomfort is dismissed.

The quote struck a nerve because it names something rarely spoken aloud. Women are encouraged to be reasonable even when the circumstances are not. They are asked to carry emotional weight, to mediate conflicts, to soften the edges of other people’s actions.

They are told that endurance is strength, even when endurance becomes a burden.

Solnit’s line invites a different kind of clarity. It asks readers to notice the invisible expectations placed on women in families, workplaces, and communities. It suggests that responsibility should belong to the one who creates the problem, not the one who happens to be closest to it.

It reminds us that patience is powerful only when it is chosen, not demanded.

Her words resonate because they open a door to honesty. They allow women to say, “This is not mine to fix,” without guilt. They encourage fairness over silence and self respect over endless understanding.

Rebecca Solnit gives language to a truth many have felt but could not articulate.

She reminds us that recognizing what is not ours to carry is not defiance.

There was about 5000 years of uninterrupted rape, sexual enslavement, trafficking and pimping before the first prostitute ever had the privelege of getting money directly on her nightstand where all of it went to her pockets.

Even in 2026, its a rare and priveleged position for a sex worker to not have a pimp,brothel owner or "boyfriend" taking a portion of her earnings. Even the OF creators bringing in millions are being pimped by "mangers" and content agencies to garnish their earnings.

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like critique is one thing but if you're just strolling up to a random person and calling them a dumbass unprovoked that's not outreach. it's more of a hobby. it makes you feel better to call them a dumbass, there's catharsis in it for you. but that's all that's gained from that interaction. no communication of ideas was had. no transfer of information. everyone walks away from that interaction with the same confirmation bias they had going into it.

and honestly, intelligence has nothing to do with trans identification. i was every bit as eloquent and well-read as i am now when i was transgender. i did not identify as ftm because i was stupid. i used my big brain and all its processing power to think big thoughts about transgender theory and postmodernism all day long. it takes a lot of mental resources to rationalize things that don't make sense! research indicates that the factors that make someone vulnerable to cults are linked primarily to:

(a) generalized ego-weakness and emotional vulnerability, (b) propensities toward dissociative states, (c) tenuous, deteriorated, or nonexistent family relations and support systems, (d) inadequate means of dealing with exigencies of survival, (e) history of severe child abuse or neglect, (f) exposure to idiosyncratic or eccentric family patterns, (g) proclivities toward or abuse of controlled substances, (h) unmanageable and debilitating situational stress and crises, and (i) intolerable socioeconomic conditions.

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as you can see, nothing about intelligence or thoughtfulness here.

“Bitches are good examples of how women can be strong enough to survive even the rigid, punitive socialization of our society. As young girls it never quite penetrated their consciousness that women were supposed to be inferior to men in any but the mother/helpmate role. They asserted themselves as children and never really internalized the slave style of wheedling and cajolery which is called feminine. Some Bitches were oblivious to the usual social pressures and some stubbornly resisted them. Some developed a superficial feminine style and some remained tomboys long past the time when such behavior is tolerated. All Bitches refused, in mind and spirit, to conform to the idea that there were limits on what they could be and do. They placed no bounds on their aspirations or their conduct.”

Reposting on behalf of a friend- she's making Cards Against Humanity specifically for lesbians and fans of The Land and you can pre-order them at the link below: