came across this one conversation on the 4b subreddit where women talked about all the things they do not miss about heterosexual relationships
thought i’d share SOME of the points:
• patriarchal sex and lack of orgasm
• constantly shaving their body hair
• disproportionate domestic/emotional/mental labour while claiming the relationship is “50/50”
• subsidising his lifestyle (i.e. splitting the groceries when he’s the one who eats way more, being the only reason his apartment is clean and there’s not pubes on the bathroom floor)
• dealing with his porn addiction (where he’s watching teens and rape and misogynistic acts)
• dealing with his secret porn addiction while he claims he doesn’t watch it
• high chance of him being a pedo, misogynist, abuser, narcissistic, manipulative, etc.
• male ego and general lack of personality and accountability
• constantly having your nervous system dysregulated
• lack of meaningful care and conversation in general, especially in comparison to an average female friendship
• women having to use intrusive birth control methods because the male would rather risk her health than wrap it up
• him bonding with other men over misogyny and not having pro-social behaviours where he pro-actively stands up for women, minorities, etc.
• having to accept him checking out other women in real life, on social media, etc. and being micro-cheated on constantly, while being told it’s not cheating and that you’re insecure and crazy and a controlling bitch actually
• spending hours and hundreds on beauty maintenance while he… looks like that
• being rushed while getting ready
• never being allowed to be ugly in her own space
• total loss of bodily autonomy (i.e. being groped while doing the dishes)
• doing his laundry and cooking for him
• sharing a bed with a man (especially one who snores and is unhygienic)
• skid marks and piss and hair left in YOUR bathroom
• dealing with someone else’s trauma, from a sex that is averse to therapy and developing emotional intelligence
• a male shit-talking their past female exes (what did he do to her?)
• most males being okay with casually lying to their partner
• most males only being as loyal as their options and cheating on her if another woman ever expressed interest in him
• playing the role of a mother and a wife to a manchild
• no empathy or meaningful additional support while on your period
• having to tip toe around mantrums
• constant yeast infections and UTIs
• constantly being belittled, gaslighted, psychologically micro-abused on a daily basis
• male insecurity and jealousy, especially if you’re accomplished and attractive
• manage all the logistics and mental load (grocery lists, doctors appointments, “oh, we should go on a date” and subsequently planning the date)
• having to overlook their problematic opinions on most things
• general lack of empathy
• most men aren’t cut out to be romantic partners or platonic friends so how could they possibly be cut out for fatherhood
• having to take interest in his hobbies (sport, video games, anime) while he don’t give a flying fuck about yours
• dealing with male body hair and fat men
• man sweat, armpit hair, asshole hair, balding
• constant objectification
• constantly being reminded that no matter how progressive he is, he is fundamentally a man
• heterosexual relationships being rooted entirely in chance (i.e. of him not being a pedo, misogynistic, abuser)
what strikes me is the fact that you could have the most “feminist” man on the planet yet most of the above still apply lmao
feel free to add more, this is just the beginning of a very long list
