modge podge

debating the probability of being able to get top surgery within the next year.

I casually mention I want to start HRT but have obstacles in front of me medically that makes it difficult in queer community discussion about HRT. someone tells me my doctors are lying to me and that I would be fine if I went on HRT, it's just trans broken arm syndrome, and says we'll figure it out. I explain it's a unique neurological condition that doesn't actually have a cure or basically any research on it, and that my doctors are not actually lying to me, they just don't want me to go blind and suffer from chronic migraines, and that there is currently nothing to figure out. I am once again met with ignorantly positive "we'll figure it out!!" from someone who has been on HRT for four years. I am fucking annoyed.

this is more towards my local queer community than an indictment of the entire queer community but empathy towards people who are "stuck" at various stages of transition is absolutely necessary to foster a supportive community. not everyone has access to the resources required or is socially at a life stage to achieve a legal, medical, and/or social transition, despite wanting it. this is something that fucking sucks. do not gloss over this experience that really fucking sucks to insist that something that currently isn't possible is, in fact, possible. I am happy that for that person (and many others in my local community!) the transition has not had the same, damning barriers as me. but do not ignore my barriers or struggles in a blaise attempt to have positivity.

"Listen for Christ's sake we're a modern paper. Parker - Parker get in here - this is Madeline Parker, came out three months ago. Best photographer we've got. We're proud to have her on board. We at the Daily Bugle are proud to support the LGBTQ+ community bUT THIS SPIDER-GIRL IS A MENACE"

Overwhelming consensus on this post is that you should come out in your superhero identity first, and then a couple weeks down the line come out in your secret identity and when people ask just go “Oh seeing Spider-Girl come out really gave me the confidence to come out myself” which is the best possible answer

Im gonna be so real can yall actually talk about ways we can support trans women in the UK instead of giving all the attention to fucking JKR. I already know that Harry Poter sucks, I wanna know how to actually HELP people. Something something you have to love the oppressed more than you hate the oppressor

The worst thing that ever happened to LGBT+ discussions was the attempt at creating rigid definitions for diverse experiences that often exist on a sliding scale, or are fluid. Some lesbians experience attraction to men. Some gay men, who were forced to marry women for their own safety, did really love their wives. Some people are man and woman at the same time. Your gender identity and sexual orientation can change over time. In the 70s it was common knowledge that bi women could also be lesbians. Some people defy categorization just by their existence. Some people choose to reject categorization.

can someone explain how a lesbian can be attracted to men????? i really dont get it

In other words, such a statement presupposes that the “I” exceeds its determination, and even produces that very excess in and by the act which seeks to exhaust the semantic field of that “I.” In the act which would disclose the true and full content of that “I,” a certain radical concealment is thereby produced. For it is always finally unclear what is meant by invoking the lesbian-signifier, since its signification is always to some degree out of one’s control, but also because its specificity can only be demarcated by exclusions that return to disrupt its claim to coherence. What, if anything, can lesbians be said to share? And who will decide this question, and in the name of whom? If I claim to be a lesbian, I “come out” only to produce a different “closet.” The “you” to whom I come out now has access to a different region of opacity. […] For being “out” always depends to some extent on being “in”; it gains its meaning only within that polarity. Hence, being “out” must produce the closet again and again in order to maintain itself as “out.” In this sense, outness can only produce a new opacity; and the closet produces the promise of a disclosure that can, by definition, never come. Is this infinite postponement of the disclosure of “gayness,” produced by the very act of “coming out,” to be lamented? Or is this very deferral of the signified to be valued, a site for the production of values, precisely because the term now takes on a life that cannot be, can never be, permanently controlled? – Judith Butler, “Imitation and Gender Insubordination,” The Gay and Lesbian Studies Reader, 1993, pg. 309.

It's frustrating how quickly people dismiss the idea that "cross dressing women" in history might have been trans men. Like, yeah, as a child she presented as a boy and believed herself to be a boy, and then as an adult she "pretended" to be a man, but she was totally 100% cis, suggesting otherwise would be ridiculous. Everyone knows trans men only started existing in the 21st century!

#A historic fear of masculine women is the fear of transmasculinity

yeah there was a tradition that only allowed women as warriors when they give up their femininity and she willingly chose the life as a warrior yeah she continued to dress like a man after the war in the privacy of her own home after the war yeah she was told t0 stop wearing mens clothes by the law and continued to do so anyway yeah she was killed because she refused to stop dressing like a man but she was so girl boss slay queen woman warrior

trans children deserve to go through the correct puberty at the same time as their peers

there needs to be a third option . going through a puberty that causes distress or staying in an underdeveloped body for years until its decided youre allowed to make decisions over your own body is not a good choice !

informed consent + bodily autonomy for children is a really really important goal in healthcare and that includes trans healthcare . trans kids deserve to decide for themselves the steps they want to take + have access to the necessary information to help them make that decision . why is this an insane opinion to have even within the trans community

genuinely just saw someone say transmascs 'transition into the highest form of privilege society allows'. what are we doing here

I have a theory that if you put a bunch of armchair activist queer people in a box together they will eventually start killing each other because they need problems or they die of boredom. Like the mouse utopia experiment. Have any of you ever interacted with cis straight dudes.

Hello my transmasc followers. You should harass, annoy, & block people when they display symptoms of Rowling syndrome. Make TERF rhetoric a social death sentence within your community. I'm being so fr. It's kinda upsetting that I'm the only one saying anything on a couple of these posts when it's THHHAT blatant and egregious.

it’s okay to be a trans man and be pre-T or never-T. whether that’s because you can’t financially or medically or just because you plain don’t want to, you are not less of a man for not taking testosterone. T is not the end all be all of masculinity and it is not the defining factor of your manhood.

tumblr users’ obsession with self-reporting (especially as a weird form of penance) needs to be studied

you don’t need to tell the world you still like Harry Potter because it’s your comfort movie or because your dad read it to you when you were little or something like that in response to a post about the harm continued monetary support of Harry Potter causes. you don’t need to tell tumblr all the myriad of reasons you don’t like rap under a post about how rap is often misrepresented as ultra-violent or overtly sexual and misogynistic because of racism. No one on tumblr has to know anything about you. no one has to know you still read your old Harry Potter books or that the only rap artist you like is Eminem. No one is going to say “oh of course you’re the One True Good Person with a Good Reason!” when you say that rap is difficult to listen to because of your auditory processing disorder or you’re only a part of the Marauders fandom. Just keep your shit to yourself and don’t embarrass yourself under other peoples’ posts.

hey uhh, other white dolls out there? you have to start fucking listening to black trans women. and not pithy shit like half reading and then liking their posts on social media, i mean actually hearing them out when they are framed as being in the wrong in any given conflict. im so serious you are going to get black girls socially murdered if you don’t start listening to her side of the story instead of just taking what non-black trans women say about black trans women at face value

this is coming on the heels of watching a former irl (noticeably, uncomfortably white) transfem community i used to be a part of turn on and viciously expel a black trans girl i am close with after she got into a fight, which occurred after a concerted effort from popular members of the community to isolate and bully her for calling out anti-blackness. out of respect for her wish to be done with this whole fiasco and for her privacy, im not going to get into very much detail, but there is so much more rotten, horrifically racist shit that i am leaving out so this doesn’t get come back to her and she can be left in peace. there was one thing i found particularly noteworthy and sickeningly ironic though. i watched this group of entirely non-black transfems employ every transmisogynist tactic in the book to justify this girl’s expulsion from her support system, from spurious allegations of sexual assault to painting her as crazy to whisper campaigns. i saw white trans women close rank, pick up the weapons of our oppressors, and use them to silence and attempt to socially murder a black trans woman for refusing to let racism slide. and none of this is like. novel, or unheard of, if you’ve paid any attention to anything black trans women have been saying for years. but seeing it happen first hand, in a community i was once a part of, is so disgusting and disappointing and a stark reminder of what black transfems have been telling us all along. if youre a white transfem and you are not conscious, if you are not challenging your gut reactions and biases, if you are not listening to her for gods fucking sake, you are going to side with white supremacy at the expense of your black sisters every. fucking. time.