queer enough

i like gender but our relationship to it is so terrible.

Right now gender is like jobs: you have to have one and sometimes you’re stuck with one you hate having which is really hard to do anything about and this whole society is set up on the premise that you have to have them and they define your lifestyle.

But gender should be like games: they’re fun and don’t really effect anything in your life that isn’t personal feelings, and you can obsessively play just one or never engage with any of them or get excited to participate in all of them or even make up your own, it’s all up to you.

heres a few off the bat- the sunset lesbian flag, a warmer version of the nonbinary flag, and the same pan flag last year but with a weird artifact removed. happy pride!

[ID: A white background with black text that reads, "What pan flag should I use during pride?" at the top. The three stripe pink, yellow, blue flag is below it to the left, a green check to the right. Black text underneath it reads, "- an established, known symbol of pansexuality for over a decade. - arguments against it are exclusionist lies and bad faith takes rooted in panphobia, age old homophobia, and a lack of knowledge on queer history." smaller black text underneath that reads, "if it's so important to distance yourself from this flag, why are your alternatives nearly identical to it?". End ID.]

there's another round of "stop using the original pan flag" going on, so i took their ugly, exclusionist little infographic and made it better by putting facts on it.

[ femique on the left, masquine on the right ]

FEMIQUE: a non-gendered term for anyone who feels queer attraction to women [a femique person] / a non-gendered term for queer attraction to women [femique attraction]

MASQUINE: a non-gendered term for anyone who feels queer attraction to men [a masquine person] / a non-gendered term for queer attraction to men [masquine attraction]

after literally six months of having these coined, im finally getting around to posting lol :,] i completely welcome and encourage other people to make terms riffing off of these, the way most existing attraction terms explicitly reference the users gender feels kind of limiting to me personally, and i feel like non-gendered terms for attraction are a big niche that would be helpful to fill!

id’s are under the cut on this one, i was having trouble with the alt text feature

casualic | flamboric

casualic: a non-straight and/or non-cis person who presents in a casual or minimalist way; a descriptor of low-effort queer presentation.

flamboric: a non-straight and/or non-cis person who presents in an elaborate or flashy way; a descriptor of high-effort queer presentation.

[ left is femme, right is butch ]

we made these several months ago, but finally cleaned up the colors and stuff to a point where were happy with them! these are for femmes/butches of all identities, including non-lesbians. if you want names for these you can call them spring femme and summer butch (they were not intentionally themed its just what the colors remind us of) :]

They may have a complex/confusing sexuality they find difficult to label, so decide not to.

They be aroace and prioritise their aromanticism

They may be alloaro with no intention to act on their sexual attraction, so feel no need to disclose it

They may feel their sexuality is not relevant to their experiences, while their aromanticism is

They may not be comfortable talking about their sexuality or it may be private

They may have no use for sexuality labels

They may have any number of other reasons not mentioned here

[image description: a series of tweets from twitter user @ sofftestpunk, reading as follows:

like I literally don’t care if you’re gay, are you QUEER?

I’m specifically part of the queer community and NOT the LGBT+ community. ive never felt like part of the LGBT+ community. I am QUEER. and my community is QUEER. and if you’re not queer then cool I’m sure you have your own communities n shit but I’m looking for my peers in mine

the key distinction for me is that the queer community is browner and Blacker, the LGBT community has always appeared painfully white and uncomfortable for me to personally be involved with. the queer community is also more radical, practicing radical unlearning of concepts like

family, love, gender, sex etc and reframing and rebuilding these things. the LGBT community has never, in my experience with it, been as driven about breaking down these systems and more often aim to be able to live safely within them

for me, the lgbt+ community is white, skinny, cis, abled etc. it’s the LGBT society at my uni; a room of sex segregated white people with very strict expectations of sexuality, expression, bodies etc. self professed queer spaces are the messier underbelly, the mixing

the fuzzy boundaries and the fuck the boundaries, the ugly and unattractive, the new and different, the too loud and too weird. that’s my family

muted the thread btw because people don’t know what “personally” or “in my experience” mean :^)

Yes, LGBT is fully capable of being full of diversity. However, the more extreme types of diversity are almost never allowed to be part of the face of it all. Seeing a fat, mixed race, disabled, or truly gender fucked person in a campaign that talks about LGBT+ rights using that wording is rare to the point of being almost jarring. The leaders of any given campaign are Mat Bomer, Ellen Degrees, Neil Patrick Harris, and other people who are pleasant to look at with a clean cut air that is as non-threatening as possible. Trying to make people see them as “like them,” rather than standing by the idea that people can still be human if they’re different.

Meanwhile, any time I see something riding on the word Queer, it’s always fronted by people who are fighting for their right to respect when they can’t or don’t want to be seen as “like everyone else.” Trans people who don’t “pass” as cis, fat butch lesbians, extremely femme gay men, dark skinned gnc people, people with culturally specific genders, visibly disabled queer people, autistic people whose experience with gender is affected by their autism, and just general social misfits.

As a fat, autistic, disabled, asexual, Native lesbian with religious trauma and leftist beliefs, I never quite fit into the first group. I never felt fully welcone or seen. Where I did feel at home was with a couple dozen social rejects, who all identified specifically as queer. Everyone was “damaged” or “weird” to the point where we called ourselves, “The Island of Misfit Toys, but if Tim Burton got ahold of it.” That was the community that felt safe to me, not the LGBT group that was filled with people half there to network for after college or just add to their CV.