choices I've made confuse me

this is just my own observations of course but 90% of the time when a kid tries to get people to treat them like an adult, what they really want is the respect and acknowledgement that they associate with adulthood - because that’s what they must give the adults. they have to give that to the adults in their lives, but the adults never give that same respect back, and so they see that difference and decide that they want to be treated “like an adult”

and sometimes i see parents who are like fine you want to be treated like an adult then you can work and pay rent but that’s the exact OPPOSITE of what the kid is actually asking for. you’re just belittling them, clearly intending to punish them for daring ask for your respect, clearly intending for them to break down and beg to be “treated like a child” again because you purposefully twisted their wants. they ask for respect, and you give them abuse.

never, ever, ever, treat a child like a full grown adult. it’s our responsibility as adults NOT to, because they ARENT adults no matter how much they think they want to be, and it’s our job as adults to take care of them.

that said, ALWAYS treat children like people. because they ARE that. they’re real people with real agency acting as best as they know to with what knowledge they have

like even sitting in an office for eight hours a day isn’t particularly pleasant (or healthy, as we are beginning to see) but when we’re talking about doing *actual work* for that same amount time it gets pretty fucking brutal

doing literally *anything* (even leisure activities) for eight hours straight tends to be less than enjoyable but when we’re talking about things like construction, landscaping, factory work, and hell, even foodservice and retail, eight hours is a fucking ETERNITY

Stunning Surreal Photography Collages by Hüseyin Şahin

Rationality versus irrationality, fantasy versus reality, logic as opposed to magic create constraints in our imagination as we grow up; we undergo a continuous struggle within ourselves, curbing our childlike curiosity and our desire to explore. However, Istanbul-based visual artist Hüseyin Şahin broke free of these limitations to compose surrealistic scenes.

As was the case last month, I’m a busy bee- but I still wanted to have some! 

ZOOM  SATURDAY February 13th   11am pacific standard time Celebrating Romance in Movies

discord creative collab chat 2/24 WEDNESDAY 2PM  pacific standard time

A place to discuss all WIP’s and creative issues.

ZOOM BOOK CLUB SATURDAY February 27th   11am pacific standard time PRIDE AND PREJUDICE by Jane Austen

come and talk about pride and prejudice! if you haven’t read it, it helps to have seen a movie version of it, at least.

Use this site if you’re not sure what time that is for you:

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He describes the tea vendors as being “dressed in rags” but in the commercial where he shows footage of himself being served tea, the vendors look like this?