ok, after actually looking up the term and doing some goddamn research (my goodness somebody on the internet actually decided to look something up before forming an opinion, dear god what a day), i can pretty safely say that everyone hitting this post with the βthatβs just a friendship!β bit is wrong! and i can explain why! i myself didnβt get this initially! but after looking into it, i realized that itβs mainly due to the framework i was thinking in! Yeah, thereβs actually merit to what these people are saying, this is stuff thatβs been considered and these are indeed terms that exist! they were also coined by ace people specifically to describe their relationships!
So what gives? What does Queerplatonic Relationship mean? well i certainly fucking didnt get it at first, but it stems from attempting to define a kind of relationship that there arent really words for in the standard english lexicon! the poster above me is a TERF, and wherever i see myself agreeing with a terf i also see that thereβs possibly some flaw in my logic or understanding of the thing. Basically (mind you this is only some very cursory and basic research, just type the term into google lol), QPRβs are a way of defining a relationship that has many of the same obligations and aspects of a traditional romantic relationship, without any of the explicitly romantic parts that come with having a spouse or romantic partner.
the idea of living in the same place, or jointly bringing up children, and performing many other tasks as a kind of unit that society would often mislabel as something done by two romantic partners in a union of some kind (i use that term to loosely define an exclusive relationship, not actual binding marriage, though this can include such). the idea of the QPR isnβt just βfriendsβ, itβs very specifically βindividuals in a platonic relationship that perform a number of the social aspects of a traditional romantic partnershipβ.
like, be real for a second. if someone described their relationship with someone to you and said βYeah we own a house together, we have a kid that we adopted and take care of, we decided to get a dog last week and we file taxes as two members of the same household.β, you wouldnβt look at that person and assume that they arent romantic/sexual partners of some kind, becauseβ¦ well, traditionally, thatβs shit that married people do. getting hit with the additional βYup! And weβre not romantically or sexually involved at all! She has a boyfriend that she visits on the weekends and Iβve never had a romantic relationship in my life.β would throw you for a goddamn loop! What would you even call that relationship? and thatβs where the term comes from: an attempt to define a very specific kind of relationship that certainly can and has existed, but isnβt commonly recognized or talked about!
so i think everyone shitting on these folks owes them an apology, i know i personally do for making assumptions that clearly werenβt true!
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