itâs also interesting to me the amount of people who saw the idea of paedophilia in the story as bad because Writing About Immoral Things Is Bad and not, yâknow, the IRL implications (because. while itâs not impossible for art about CSA to be made ethically itâs not happening around mr âage of consent jokes about my uncomfortable teenage friend are the height of comedyâ dream). like the issue isnât that CSA Is Weird And Icky it's that the server wasnât a safe space for that story to be told. because. of prior inappropriate action from the adults. and also the No Regulation Nightmare Zone thatâs online entertainment but thatâs a whole other rant. like again itâs not even a âthis would be a failure of safetyâ thing half the time itâs just âew conflictâ being applied to a situation where itâs extremely inappropriate to act like thatâs the problem.
like, the play was Always "well Obviously c!dream isn't an obsessive abuser, which means that if You're making him one it's because YOU want to see content of an adult obsessing over a teenager" with the implication being that someone could Only be compelled by art depicting that sort of abuse for their own sexual gratification
and it was SO insidious, because it was Both a silencing tactic (shifting the goal of the conversation from asserting Basic Facts about the story over to defending your own reputation and personhood) AND an attempt to get the people they wanted to shut up ostracized from the community as a whole, a tactic that they pulled All The Time
which is SO unbelievably slimey, Especially when taken with what'd happen later (excusing Real Life child exploitation, and abuse within their own community).
and like, I agree. there's no reality where the smp would've been an appropriate or Safe environment to explore csa or sexual abuse, and nobody was expecting it to.
but it's just. this implication that exploring child abuse, or sexual abuse, through art is Inherently gratifying. that it's a taboo not just because the subject matter is Difficult, but because the Only reason anyone would engage with it at all is to get off on it. the idea that it could be cathartic for victims of abuse to explore their feelings, or see their experiences taken seriously, never seems to occur to them. or that someone could just have Empathy for characters that experience abuse and come out of the other side of a difficult piece of art feeling like they understand the suffering real people experience better.
and it's Really clear that it's just because they never cared, they just saw it as a convenient weapon to use against fans who liked the characters "wrong." they didn't like the fact that their little googoo bear was a child abuser serial killer, so they decided they'd call everyone pedophiles (or "suspicious" if they were cowards) until it went away (which, of course, it never did)
and MAYBE if they ever Did take the time explore the emotional experience of being groomed they Would've taken it seriously when it actually mattered. because when the dream allegations and the wilbur allegations came out Suddenly the implications didn't matter anymore
I think the dream smp had a shockingly evocative depiction of non-sexual grooming that featured an adult with an unhealthy attachment towards a teenager. and that it's honestly Natural that victims of grooming would be drawn to this depiction, Especially during covid when people were using streamers as a supplement for emotional fulfillment when they Couldn't see their friends in person.
and like. I Both think it's sort of natural for victims to want to explore their feelings about their csa through a story like that, A N D that it's utterly fucking ridiculous that dream apologists spent years Insisting that people only saw these characters' relationship as abusive because they just want an excuse to depict pedophilia
it's not inherently sexual to depict child abuse or grooming, but it's also valid to explore the experiences of being a victim through art. why did anyone trust tumblr teenagers and 20 year olds with nuance in 2020