Polyamory Networking

Polyamorous people exist outside of that

Some poly couples date people that their partners are not dating

Some poly people date monogamous people and their partner does not date

Here’s a writing challenge! (Since Tumblr seems rather fond of them.) You can write one prompt per day or take them by sections if you prefer. Good luck!

Basics:

1. Brief introduction. How do you self-identify? What are your defining interests/passions?

2. Describe your history with non-monogamy and/or alternative lifestyles

3.Describe the type of non-monogamous relationship you have. (You can use an existing category or make up your own!)

4. What was your introduction to non-monogamy? What was that experience like?

5. Why and when did you identify as non-monogamous? Or when did you accept it as a valid relationship style?

6.How do you feel about non-monogamy in general? Honestly….

Coming Out:

7. How do you feel about non-monogamous people outing themselves?

8. How do you feel about coming out yourself? How has it effected your life either positively or negatively? (If you haven’t how do you think it will?)

9. Describe the worst and best experiences you’ve had coming out to people about being non-monogamous.

10. Thoughts on PDA?

Relationships:

11. What is your living situation like? What would you like it to be?

12. What does marriage mean to you?

13. What does parenting mean to you?

14. What do you think about hierarchical non-monogamy? (e.g. having relationships that are primary v. secondary)

15. What type of relationship, if any, do you have with your partners’ partners?

16. Describe the best and worst interaction with a partner’s partner.

 Let’s talk about sex:

17. How do you define “intimacy”? Is sex required for it to be a ‘real relationship’?

18. How do you define “sex”?

19. Threesomes, foursomes, moresomes. What’s your view?

20. What, if any, agreements do you and your partners have about sex?

21. Thoughts on fluid bonding?

22. A majority of non-monogamous people are also kinky – what are your thoughts on kink?

The world at large:

23. What, if any, involvement have you had with any groups or organizations? How did you find them?

24. The stupidest argument or comment you’ve heard about non-monogamy, either for or against?

25. Your favorite Non-monogamous blog/tumblr/site/book?

26. A resource you’ve found especially helpful.

27.A favorite picture, song and/or video you associate with non-monogamy.

Mushy Stuff:

28. What’s an in-joke between you and your partner?

29. What is one thing about your partner that drives you nuts? What’s one thing that makes you smile?

30. They’re about to get on a plane – what do you say?

And finally:

a sewing kit

a full set of dice

a pocket knife

Update: I have all 4

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kissing can and will, get boring.

its ok to go to sleep on opposite sides.

forgetting favorites, dates and replies is only human.

you dont have to like, or be friends with all of their friends and vice-versa.

they have a right to spend weekends dedicating to their friends and family. you have the same right.

privacy is still in play.

trying simple things that they like, no matter how much you are sure you will dislike it, is a very small step you can take to show your love to them.

you dont gotta have the same taste in music, food, books etc.

saying i love you, thank you, take care, please and i missed you really helps.

you cant agree with all their life decisions and they cant with yours. keeping an open mind and having an honest and deep discussion about it helps. 

they dont need your permission to do things and neither you need theirs.

the intention and care behind the gift matters. not its price tag. 

dont try and change them. help them become better versions of themselves and get the same help and support and care from them. 

Lesbians don’t exist to be fetishized

Bisexuals aren’t greedy, more likely to cheat, or confused

Transgender people don’t just want attention and it isn’t a phase

Asexuals are completely valid and should be 100% accepted in the lgbt+ community

Pansexual is not the same is bi, nor is it less valid

Demisexuality is not the same as being a “regular” person. It is a valid sexuality.

Non-Binary pronouns are not hard to respect

So teens who realize they’re poly don’t think that even though they develop romantic feelings for multiple people, they don’t think they’re wrong or dirty

So adults who develop romantic feelings for a new person when they’re already in a relationship don’t think they’re somehow unfaithful or “never loved” their first partner in the first place