Lavender Love

Keanu: Oh man…*holds face in hands* *repeats question* they’re all angels.

Big Breakfast: really? And are you single at the moment?

I am demonstrably sad, and lonely, and full of fear. But there are other people who will hold my hand, who will point out the hawk overhead, who will give you That Look in a public place. The other day at a coffee shop a child said "look! It's snowing!" so all of us strangers went to go look out the windows. It wasn't the first snow and it won't be the last but wasn't it lovely, like that?

How wonderful to live in a world where birds and frogs both say beep! How wonderful to have an ocean of beautiful sharks with their dinosaur teeth! How wonderful the moon and her changing face, how wonderful the bees and their dancing to communicate, how wonderful shrimp and their forbidden layers of vision! How wonderful, you, and what you will give the world! The way we love things enough to spend entire blogs devoted to them? How people will let me explain my Pokemon team to them? How we will both jump at the scare in the movie, how we laugh so loudly, how it feels to give someone your baking? How wonderful to be alive. I am sorry for forgetting.

[We’re gonna ignore the big ol’ red flags in this username, um, but I will answer your question.

If you want to exclude trans women from womanhood, you have to define womanhood in a way that excludes transwomen. And that can’t be done without also excluding many cis women.

If you’re gonna say that trans women are not women, you have to figure out what makes someone a women or not. If it’s “a vagina”: lots of transwomen have those. If it’s “the ability to give birth”: lots of cis women can’t do that. If it’s “experiencing misogyny in a patriarchy”, then womanhood no long exists when you get rid of patriarchy, which is… a weird take; but also trans women experience a shit ton of misogyny.

it used to be pretty common for there to be cats on boats. they'd take care of any rodents who would chew on ropes or wires and spread diseases. sailors were also superstitious and believed that having a cat aboard would bring good luck! this belief passed on to their wives, who kept cats - especially black ones who were believed to be extra lucky - at home in order to keep their husbands safe when at sea.

another popular superstition? that if a cat came aboard it was a sign of luck, but if it only boarded halfway and then left, it was a sign of bad luck.

most ship's cats are only found in modern times on private vessels, but they have roots going back to early history. one such example is the Vikings, who took cats with them on expeditions.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

IMPORTANT THREAD - PLEASE SHARE!!!

"to parents of trans kids across the country, if i can recommend one thing to work on today (besides hugging your babies harder than ever) it's to start building a "safe folder"

a safe folder contains important items like your child's medical and legal records (vaccination records, court documents/passports/etc showing their legal name if it's been changed).

also include letters from trusted people like neighbors, your child's principal, clergy, etc that talk about what a wonderful parent you are.

photos (including self portraits your children have drawn!) that document your trans child's transition are also helpful. if you have a social media account & are considering deleting, download all your pics and posts first to use as evidence of their persistent gender identity.

one year my son drew me the LOVELIEST mother's day card. he told me how much he loved me & how safe he felt when he was with me. the 1st thing i thought was "this is the sweetest thing he's ever made me." the 2nd (heartbreaking) thing i thought is "this goes in the safe folder."

include report cards, too. medals/awards that they've earned from their accomplishments.

i pray you will never need to rely on your safe folder. but if someone calls CPS on you for doing nothing more than loving your transgender child and supporting them in the ways that they need, then you have evidence to back you up that YOU ARE A GOOD PARENT.

it will be okay. hug your babies, vote these douchecanoes out of office, and stay strong. love you."

https://twitter.com/mrsbriggle/status/1496584638051016712

Update: response from the ACLU

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