the wolves will come again

"It's ok to disappoint people." has got to be MOST powerful, life changing advice I have ever heard.

If your gut reaction to this is "no it's not" I swear, I promise, that disappointing people, particularly disappointing people who have unrealistic, outdated, manipulative, or just plain wrong expectations of you, or versions of you in their head, is better than continually disappointing yourself. Signed, an inveterate people pleaser who FINALLY realized this and made my life almost immediately more authentic and fulfilling by acting upon it.

in the morning, i get on tumblr and reblog beautiful images, but by the evening i devolve into madness

really love this ancient letter from a kid named theon to his dad (p. ox. 1 119) because it's so ridiculously salty and rude ("WOW dad it was SO COOL of you NOT to take me to alexandria with you"), incredibly demanding ("bring me with you or i'm going to stop eating and drinking and i'll never speak to you again") and then ends with the appropriately polite typical close to a letter ("i pray that you are in good health"). truly exactly what i would expect from a moody child.

everybody likes to act like mr rochester was the weird freak one and that jane is the upstanding-feminist-#rational-woman and i have a bone to pick because there is no way we read the same book. 'oh miss jane took one look at his locked up wife and was like red flag!' NO! you fools! jane is just as insane as edward! that is why this story works! you thought her moral compass made her leave because of the mistreatment of the mentally ill??? jane left because she hallucinated that the call of god was commanding her not to be a mistress and was so scared of going to hell she ran away in the middle of the night broke, starving, and delusional! and the moment the attic-woman died her ears perked up like a dog and she got the fuck back over to her weirdo ugly man! that is my jane! you guys want to talk about unreliable narrators: she is the ORIGINAL.