Payto

i wondered what it's like for you

were you sick of happy endings?

Try to focus on your actions rather than your traits:

E.g. “I’m sorry I keep ghosting you, I’m shit at friendships” –> “I’m sorry I keep ghosting you, I’m really struggling to keep up with my friends right now”

Then, if you can, turn the conversation back to the other person - you’re apologising because their feelings matter to you, so show that.

E.g. “I don’t mean to - our friendship means a lit to me, and I know it must make it seem like I don’t care.”

This gives the other person an opportunity to express their own experience so you can talk it over more if they want to, without skipping ahead to reassuring you that the relationship isn’t broken.

I've spent the last year learning so much about music, and this last week finished work on the final demo on our bands first project: Share the Road. Tbh I still have a lot to learn, but hopefully we can get these babies recorded and out to you real soon! In the meantime, check out this clip of our first song: Sturgis.

-Payto

At the end of the set a girl asked for his guitar pic which he gave. So, I asked for one too but he didn't have one on him. Security started to shoo everyone out so I got ready to accept not getting one and leave. Awsten grabbed my arm though and told me to just wait there and ignore security because he can deal with them later if they get mad about me staying. Awsten proceeded to not go in his own bag, but he went in Geoff's to grab a pic told him he was taking one which Geoff just said ok then hurried back over to me all happy and just handed it to me.

I've had interactions with them other times too and I think it's the fact that every time Awsten goes out of his way for fans that just makes me feel like I don't think I will ever be able to leave the fandom