the way out is 👉 right now & 🫵 right here

These were also posts that said, point blank, you don't need to feel guilty for that and that you don't owe these women anything. They often choose to live with and around males, despite knowing the same statistics and facts about male violence and crime we do.

Modernist artist Georgia O'Keeffe on one of her many camping trips into the desert.

New Mexico

I love writing characters who think they’re fine but are actually walking emotional house fires with bad coping mechanisms.

They stop doing the things they used to love and don’t even notice. Their guitar gathers dust. Their favorite podcast becomes background noise. Their hobbies feel like homework now.

They pick the path of least resistance every time, even when it hurts them. No, they don’t want to go to that thing. No, they don’t want to talk to that person. But whatever’s easier. That’s the motto now.

They’re tired but can’t sleep. Or they sleep but wake up more tired. Classic burnout move: lying in bed with their brain racing like a toddler on espresso.

They give other people emotional advice they refuse to take themselves. “You have to set boundaries!” they say—while ignoring 8 texts from someone they should’ve cut off three emotional breakdowns ago.

They cry at something stupidly small. Like spilling soup. Or a dog in a commercial. Or losing their pen. The soup is never just soup.

They say “I’m just tired” like it’s a personality trait now. And not like… emotionally drained to the bone but afraid to admit it out loud.

They ghost people they love, not out of malice, but because even replying feels like too much. Social battery? Absolutely obliterated. Texting back feels like filing taxes.

They stop reacting to big things. Catastrophes get a blank stare. Disasters feel like “just another Tuesday.” The well of feeling is running dry.

They avoid being alone with their own thoughts. Constant noise. TV always on. Music blasting. Because silence = reckoning, and reckoning is terrifying.

"In woman there is a sensitiveness both of mind and body—even dreams seem real—sympathies are keener, and bad news depresses unreasonably."

We are all familiar with the old stereotype that women are more emotional, hysterical, unsensible and irrational. How much of that was a real trend, but caused by burnout and overworking? Frazzled nerves and exhausted bodies obviously lead to emotionality and irrationality, as this post on burnout covers.

Capital Ugly and Capital Beauty how I adore the critique you bring to the conversation on bodies, aesthetics and society.

MAKEUPLESS FEMALE FACES ARE NOT UGLY. THEY ARE NORMAL FEMALE FACES.

FEMALE BODY HAIR IS NOT UGLY. IT IS A NORMAL PART OF THE FEMALE BODY.

FAT IS NOT UGLY. IT IS A NORMAL VARIATION OF THE FEMALE BODY.

FACIAL FEATURES THAT AREN’T PERFECTLY SYMMETRICAL ARE NOT UGLY. THEY ARE A NORMAL VARIATION OF FEMALE FACES.

YOU STUPID FUCKING PEOPLE PLEASERS USE BODY NEUTRALITY AS AN EXCUSE TO KEEP HATING YOURSELVES INSTEAD OF A FRAMEWORK FOR CRITICISING MEN.