It’s been brought to my attention that I’ve been here for a while and we’re long overdue for a proper introduction so here we go.
Hi! I’m Oliver Quary! I also go by Oliver, Quary or OQ (“oh-k-yew”).
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Pronouns : They / Them / None
(In case of none just use my name or refer to me as “that one”)
I AM A MINOR. DO NOT FOLLOW ME IF YOU'RE GONNA BE WEIRD ABOUT THAT.
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Some tid-bits about me:
Asexual and mildly sex repulsed
Demi romantic
Neptunic
Agender
I am a chronic bad speller. Love to read, can read anything, couldn’t spell if my life depended on it.
I am a space nerd
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My fandoms / interests:
~ Fable smp (ghae my beloved)
< Mer smp
~ Hermitcraft
< The life series (scarian my beloved)
~ The Owl house
< Gravity falls
~ The Magnus archives (I’m of the vast)
< Welcome to nightvale
~ DDVAU
< Hadestown
~ Musicals in general (give me recommendations to find)
< Brooklyn 99 (sometimes)
~ Six of Crows
< miss holmes the play (fuck Christopher walsh's writing it suuuucks)
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Some of my Hobbies (outside of obsessing over fandoms and characters):
I love to bake anything but cakes and cupcakes. (Feel free to ask why. There’s a reason)
I embroider patterns on a lot of my stuff
I collect pins! (Someone please ask about my pin jacket. It’s my pride and joy)
I’m a fan of tarot cards and doing card readings + shiny rocks
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Some tags I use:
Quary - genera on reblogs
A Quary for my own post - self explanatory
Oliver answers - on asks
Oliver does something stupid (again) - when I’m doing something dumb
Quary for questions and comments - found on posts where I have asked others questions
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i firmly believe that one of the reasons tumblr latched onto project hail mary so hard is because we're all so obsessed with the dead wife trope lately and grace is his own dead wife. half of the book/film is grace experiencing a dead wife montage about himself and that's beautiful to me
What Hermitcraft can teach us about internalized ableism and how not to talk to people with disabilities.
[timestamp for the quote is 2:16:00 if the link doesn't work]
Skizz made this comment 3 months ago, and it was so appalling I haven't been able to stop thinking about it ever since.
CW: ableist attitudes and brief implications of hypothetical su*cide
Context: Skizz and Scar were having a chat about taking care of your health. Scar was giving advice like "You gotta have a good sleep schedule, a clean diet, some kind of physical activity, something to stimulate your mind, and companionship with loved ones."
Expanding on that, Scar added, "You gotta have something to stimulate your brain otherwise you end up just staring at a wall for hours at a time."
Skizz then remarked about how Scar is especially qualified to talk about this sort of thing, "Because... let's call it what it is, dude, if anyone has had a reason to, uh- stare at a wall and... I'm not trying to get dark but... 'swim down,' y'know? It's you. And that's why I've always associated you with strength because you are legitimately one of the strongest people I've ever met."
(I feel like you can visibly see how much this offends Scar.)
I'd like to take an educational approach to this post, so we can all hopefully learn from Skizz' disrespectful comment.
It's impossible for any of us to fully understand what it's like to live with Scar's numerous disabilities and complex health conditions. We will (hopefully) never know what we would do if we were in his position, but our inability to grasp that reality often leads to the conclusion that we wouldn't be able to "overcome" everything he's been through.
This is often the case when hearing the stories and experiences of people with disabilities, and it typically results in them being reduced to a source of "inspiration" for able-bodied people. In the sense of: "If they can get through all those hardships, I can get through whatever struggles I'm going through!"
This is called "inspiration p*rn" or "disability p*rn" and it's unfortunately very pervasive in our culture today, especially on social media.
[source: bezzymigrane.com]
Our struggles serve as lessons in resilience, reducing us to simplified “inspiration” for those who will never live our reality. People gawk at our hardships with solicited sympathy, saying, “I’m glad that isn’t me.”
“Stella Young described inspiration p*rn as the way society turns disabled people into motivational stories just for existing,” explains Ehab Youssef, a licensed clinical psychologist at Mentalyc. “It’s when someone says, ‘If they can do it, what’s your excuse?’ or shares a feel-good video of a disabled person doing something ‘normal’ as if that alone is extraordinary."
Scar has responded to "compliments" about being "strong" or "inspirational" before by expressing that, "A lot of people don't know know what they're fully capable of until they're in that kind of situation," and "The human spirit is a powerful thing when pushed to its limits." (paraphrasing based on quotes I remember) Which is the most polite and tactful way to dismiss ableist remarks that I've ever seen.
Some people reading this may think, "But Scar is inspirational for having such positive attitude about his disabilities! He's so optimistic despite going through so many awful things, and that's admirable!" But that's another harmful idea rooted in internalized ableism.
[source: bezzymigrane.com]
“Inspiration p*rn sometimes promotes the idea that disabled people can, and should, always have a positive attitude and outlook about their situation or communicate things in an uplifting way," adds psychotherapist and clinical consultant Steph Fowler.
...This mindset pressures disabled people to always be exceptional. “People in the disabled person’s life may not recognize inspiration p*rn as harmful, and may perpetuate these ideas by suggesting the person needs to try harder, practice gratitude, or have a better attitude about their experience,” Fowler says.
We can be inspiring and sick or disabled, but dehumanizing us by suggesting that we are somehow more worthy if we have a positive attitude that inspires nondisabled people holds us all back.
I believe Skizz' statement about Scar's "strength" is rooted in this ideology.
Which brings me back to his quote- where he implies that if anyone has had a reason to sink into depression and end their own life, it's Scar.
I cannot express how inappropriate and outright disrespectful this assertion is. Scar has mentioned once or twice before that when he initially got sick, he struggled with depression for a long time, but that's all he's said on the subject. Skizz is assuming a lot about what Scar went through (and what Scar is comfortable sharing about himself publicly) by making such a bold, careless remark like this.
Implying that anyone would "have a reason to" end their own life is beyond disrespectful in any context, but it's far worse when said to a person with disabilities... and on a live stream at that.
[source: goodmenproject.com]
People with disabilities are just like everybody else. They’re complex and sometimes flawed. They hide insecurities and struggles and inner demons that they might not want the outside world to see.
We are not perfect, angelic human beings by virtue of having a disability. Life just doesn’t work that way, and you can’t pigeonhole us as brave or permanently optimistic or whatever innocuous stereotype helps you process our disabilities better.
Scar is not strong for wanting to live despite the challenges his health and disabilities bring. Scar is not inspirational because of how much he's gone through and how he's remained optimistic throughout it all.
Scar is inspirational because he's an incredible artist, a delightful entertainer, and a wonderful human being.
He's always teaching others about his building and design methods and encouraging people to step out of their comfort zone and try new things.
Multiple hermits have said that Scar is wonderful to work with, and the only hermit they've never once had any conflict with personally or professionally.
You don't need to look to Scar's disabilities to find "inspiration," Scar is an awe-inspiring person just by nature of who he is at heart.
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I'd like to conclude with some advice on how to recognize and prevent the spread of disability p*rn, so hopefully we can come away from this post having learned something valuable.
[source: bezzymigrane.com]
“The biggest shift has to be seeing disabled people as people, not symbols of perseverance, not life lessons, just people living their lives,” says Youssef. “Instead of focusing on how someone “overcomes” their disability, we should be asking: Are we making the world accessible enough so they don’t have to overcome so much?”
...When someone calls a disabled person “inspiring,” I ask them why. I encourage them to think about whether that’s because the person is actually inspiring or if they just happen to have a disability.
Take a moment to question the content you’re being served and the things you’re sharing to limit the spread. Instead, focus on stories that celebrate the person as a whole, not just as a representation of disability.
In every way this is set up to be a joke like any other short video, it even uses the trope of main character in a wig to represent their mom, but it isn't funny at all. It's just sweet and nice
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basically somehow time has been rewound to before a very very formative period in my life, and a significant variable has been changed, and therefore i am a completely different person from who i am and have to figure everything out again
I know the worldbuilding when it comes to the Eden cult is really interesting, but I do wish people would acknowledge Simon being a prisoner and a slave more. Like. Idk depending on if you are using game lore, how you see Simon’s age, he’s been The Convict for half his life. And he wasn’t born on Eden either. He was brought to that station as a kid.
There’s a high chance he’s spent longer as a slave for the COI than a Son of Eden. That would affect his behavior and his memories just as much, if not more, than Eden would.
Slept on it and I do absolutely get its because religious trauma is more relatable than slave labor to write about, but my point still stands that Simon would be more effected by his imprisonment than his upbringings when writing about him pre or post movie.
Maybe this is just me being so obviously American, but ignoring the trauma of incarceration and the way prisoners are treated only does more harm than good. Whether you think Simon was innocent or not in his conviction, he was treated unjustly from the beginning.
He surrendered himself, pleaded guilty, but was still treated like a monster who got off on hurting people. And it’s clear in the movie that anyone who brings up his actions, that he regrets them!! He was practically in tears when Ava talked about filament station and that was a decade ago!!!
There is even a tiny little snippet of Simon’s time just before the movie’s events where he is getting prepared for the lung, and he is talking slow and nonsensical about Eden while Ava is trying to tell him what the mission is. I get people would latch onto what he says there, but to take in the context that he was clearly disoriented and not in his right mind to consent to the mission when they had bombarded him with it.
(Pictures from a transcript from ctrl-alt-shift-9’s unofficial transcript project. Not fully accurate since it is unofficial and by ear, but the best we got lol)
This is the closest we will get to knowing about Simon pre movie as he was in prison, and while Ava’s voice wasn’t very cruel in this scene, it’s still pretty clear they were talking to Simon when he wasn’t all there. Could be for a million different reasons, but it still shows that while in their possession, Simon was treated unjustly. He agreed to a mission for his freedom while this was what was on his mind.
And then you go into how they used him, didn’t fully tell him what he was looking for, or that he was never meant to come back, that he was sent to die and have the vessel be retrieved later for information. They show a pattern of abuse towards Simon that would greatly affect how he would continue on in some universe where he lived after the movie. It would affect him a lot more than his childhood would.
I could be reading shit all wrong, ofc, but I would just really love some more prison content. Also acknowledgement that he was technically a slave.
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