kinda wanna write kinda wanna take a nap

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The Dusty on my shoulder: you should kill them

Me: say no more

You, seeing a thing that's making you mad: what would Ry do?

The Ry on your shoulder: it's not worth being mad about, you should move on

The Dusty on your other shoulder: or maybe you could kill them

Ship Tournament, Round 1 — Match 11 / 30

Karlach/Minthara

"minthara respects strength, and karlach is basically walking proof that joy and softness don’t make someone weak. i think that would mess with minthara’s worldview in a very fun way. karlach is kind, yeah, but she can also throw a grown man across a battlefield while on fire. minthara would be taking notes."

"They’d clash on morals but not on courage. Karlach would absolutely hate a lot of Minthara’s worldview, especially the casual cruelty and the drow noble “power is the only language anyone respects” thing. But Karlach also knows what it’s like to be owned, used as a weapon, dragged into someone else’s war, and forced to survive in a place built on violence. She wouldn’t excuse Minthara, but I think she’d understand more than Minthara expects. And Minthara with Karlach is interesting because Karlach is so emotionally honest. She doesn’t play court games, doesn’t hide behind piety or politics, doesn’t pretend not to care. For someone raised in Menzoberranzan, that kind of sincerity must look almost deranged. Threatening, even. Minthara would keep calling her foolish and then slowly realise she trusts Karlach more than almost anyone."

vs. Astarion/Gale/Halsin/Karlach/Lae'zel/Shadowheart/Wyll

"Tadpolycule. Do not separate. (Does Halsin have a tadpole? No. Is he an honourary Tadfool? Absolutely. Besides, you look me in the eye and tell me any one of the six Origins wouldn't be Down For That and vice versa.)"

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The Dusty on my shoulder: you should kill them

Me: say no more

You, seeing a thing that's making you mad: what would Ry do?

The Ry on your shoulder: it's not worth being mad about, you should move on

The Dusty on your other shoulder: or maybe you could kill them

It’s easy to say that cyber bullying doesn’t matter in the real world or whatever but targeted online bullying campaigns have the power to wreck entire communities and support networks.

It’s difficult to just turn off your computer when all the people who relate to this aspect of your life are in there.

I’ve definitely met other asexual and arospec people irl but it’s quite rare. And real life queer spaces are in fact often bars or kink spaces. And like bully for you if you like kink or alcohol or romance but when your entire identity is based around not feeling the feelings often associated with romance and/or sex that’s not always super fun.

And people got relentlessly mocked for bringing up this issue. Shut down. Called childish. Like okay. Fuck us for wanting a sober non sexual spot to meet other queers, right? So childish for wanting options.

I’ve been involved in the online asexual community and doing education about asexuality and aromanticism in both irl and online queer spaces for almost fourteen years now and that short period of time around 2016-2018 took a wrecking ball to my people that I feel like we’ve still barely recovered from and I’m still angry about it.

Is it perhaps because your own space is needed? Is it because aroace people are not exclusively queer? Hmm. Hmmm hmmm hmmm. Hmmm. I hope this online destruction results in a better, more powerful movement that does not require the validation of queer life to survive. Aroaces are not inherently queer and do not belong in queer spaces inherently and that should not be the end of the world.

It’s easy to say that cyber bullying doesn’t matter in the real world or whatever but targeted online bullying campaigns have the power to wreck entire communities and support networks.

It’s difficult to just turn off your computer when all the people who relate to this aspect of your life are in there.

I’ve definitely met other asexual and arospec people irl but it’s quite rare. And real life queer spaces are in fact often bars or kink spaces. And like bully for you if you like kink or alcohol or romance but when your entire identity is based around not feeling the feelings often associated with romance and/or sex that’s not always super fun.

And people got relentlessly mocked for bringing up this issue. Shut down. Called childish. Like okay. Fuck us for wanting a sober non sexual spot to meet other queers, right? So childish for wanting options.

I’ve been involved in the online asexual community and doing education about asexuality and aromanticism in both irl and online queer spaces for almost fourteen years now and that short period of time around 2016-2018 took a wrecking ball to my people that I feel like we’ve still barely recovered from and I’m still angry about it.