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Yes she deserved it more than Lyanna Stark who braverly defended her father's bannerman yet impulsively and naively when there was a well known mad king watching and entered as a mystery knight that grabbed everyone's curiosity for being unknown.

Elia Martell, who endured Rhaegar, his prophecy, racist people, and their opinion about how unworthy she was for him AND his racist, mad cruel father desrved respect as well as that crown.

Yet she was gifted with humiliation one after another after all that she sacrificed.

This will trigger many. But that crown was Elia's right after all the hell this strong woman had been through. Not Lyanna's. Yet, in the narrative, it is all about Lyanna and the winter rose.

Rhaegar only endangered Lyanna, and even if Aerys and Lyanna's family and betrothed weren't there, it was still Elia's right.

Honoring Lyanna could have been done more respectfully and wiser, yet it was extremely dumb and cruel.

Yet the audacity to put Elia in such a humiliating situation

She deserves more respect and attention from GRRM, which I doubt he will grant her any true respect.

Elia was killed for the sake of the narrative. So the promised one can happen. She was used and then killed in an unnecessary way for it.

What even happened to Elia's body along with her children's? Definitely weren't sent to Dorne. While we know Rhaegar's was burnt and Lyanna's in winterfell.

If George wanted us to like the Rhaegar x lyanna thing, then he failed miserably. For sane people, of course.

This will always be where he failed the writing.

We hear of Lyanna's suffering in the books, and how she was killed to bring important child for the future of the realm and its safety yet we barely hear of Elia's, who gave and suffered much, much more.

I like the Starks, but this is where George crossed the line with his favoursim.

She is barely there in the narrative, yet her story and the things she had been through and everything associated with her upbringing make her more interesting character than Rhaegar or Lyanna to me and many people.

I believe George unintentionally made her more interesting to many of us when he wanted us to care for Rhaegar and Lyanna.

Yes, Rhaegar should have done better by Elia, even if, if, he didn’t love her. Yes he shouldn’t have risked her health by impregnating her so soon after being bedridden for almost half a year, that was vile. Yes, it was a humiliation Rhaegar give the crown of love and beauty to Lyanna, and Elia did not deserve that.

But did she deserve more than Lyanna? Why? Because she suffered more? Since suffering = worthy? This is a dangerous assumption, worthy and respect should not have to be earn, is simply basic fucking decent, something Twyin didn’t give Elia because he was a bitter fucking man child who never grow up and was bitter about Cersei being rejected as a queen and decided to take on whoever was easy.

(Nobles are not supposed to die in such ways in war, and as unfair it may be, they are treated relatively well as hostages while the small folk suffer and is torture, Harrenhal is the best example of that. While not treated well, they were not torture as the small folk, and even is noted in their escape that they are not as injure as they were believe to be)

Did Lyanna did all the wrong some part of the fandom believe her to do? Not officially, not confirmed. All the wrong she has done was be impulsive when entering the competition as mysterious knight and called out her betrothed once about his drinking and whoring, not even to his face, just venting to her brother after hearing he yapp about how great Robert was and all his nonsense.

Does she run away with Rhaegar? Maybe, maybe not, we don’t known, it is not definitely not in her character considering how much she cared about the North, how bothered she was with Robert cheating and how perceptive she appeared to be.

Was she taken by force? We don’t known! It doesn’t appear to be in Rhaegar character either, maybe the fear and despair of the prophecy push him too far and escalated from there, maybe he somehow convince Lyanna that going with him was the best thing to North and Kingdom (remember that Starks are heavily connected to wall and have dreams too) or maybe he rizz her out in the 20 minutes they had semi-alone (Arthur was there) in the godswood, we don’t known.

All the accounts are these characters are biased, even Elia, after all what decent person would (Cersei and Jon connington don’t count obviously) speak bad about someone who went through their that! Most of what we known about these characters is through the lenses of loved ones, their flaws are mostly hidden

True to be told, we didn’t even known if Jon Snow is Lyanna son in the books. Do I believe him to be? Yes. There textual clues potting to that direction? Yes. The horror of show finale was a big hint? Yes. But is not confirmed in the books, we don’t known if will be, Because is not what Jon’s arc is about, his arc is about going from an entitled teenager who can’t see his own privilege to a man and leader who sees people for who they truly are, who see beyond titles and names, who see the wildlings as people not other, who comes in terms with his own name and his own internalized bastardphobia. Not being super-maga-special-unique snowflake hidden Targaryen prince who awake dragons and be the prophecy hero, he is Ned’s son, sometimes more than any of his siblings, he is a Stark, with Stark blood and looks, raise in winterfell, with dire wolf with wirdwood coloring as a companion

And I believe GRRM did this on purpose, because the true heros for him are the one who try to make the world a better place not the ones that are chosen by destiny. So I doubt he meant to portray Elia as expandable to uplift “Jon-Aegon-Jaegaerys-Targaryen special superhero snowflake” narrative because was never the narrative he was writing, this is the fandom and show writing. If anything he place a lot of parallels between Elia and Lyanna, both good brave women of the extreme of the continent with different cultures who are loved by their families and people, both who expend the war locked away from their families in isolation being guarded by Targaryen loyalist, both who were wronged, humiliated and put in danger by Rhaegar, both remember fondly by the ones that loved, both who died young and before their time. The text never diminishes Elia, she also hunts the narrative, and the reason we hear more about Lyanna is probably because house Stark is the house of our protagonist. GRRM writes too much already, he can’t make everyone the protagonist, maybe she will be more explored if Young Griff gets his own POV and the dornish characters get more of the spotlight

“Even I was given more happiness than that, with Drogo who was my sun-and-stars.” (ACOK, Daenerys I)

“He’s gone, then . . . Drogo who was my sun-and-stars . . . ” (ASOS, Daenerys VI)

“Gods, she prayed, you took Khal Drogo, who was my sun-and-stars.” (ADWD, Daenerys V)

it’s interesting how often dany follows up a reference to drogo with “who was my sun-and-stars”, as if she’s constantly reassuring herself of her love for him. like she’s reminding herself over and over and over again of what he meant to her.

Shoto: I get that but why do you have to change your name-?

Because is more than being privileged or not, is about having different points of view.

Because reason with me, in Oz eyes he is doing nothing wrong, he is not insulting anyone and he is telling a truth: 1) the characters that he created are straight 2) people are complex and defined by way more than their sexuality. He even points out that is fine that some people think them as gay, but they aren’t. All in all, there absolute nothing wrong about what he said.

Response of some (some) people? (Gods I can feel the amount of hate I am gonna get) Insult him, tell him to shut the fuck up, tell him that his characters don’t belong to him and that he is prideful and disrespectful and shouldn’t have hurt so many people with his ego, call him homophobic, tell him that his opinion is insignificant (I am getting this from his Twitter response). To sum up, get unreasonable angry.

Expect: is not unreasonably. Yes is uncalled for, I have write OCs and stories, therefore I know that is a bit disappointing when people don’t get the message behind your character (and I guess that in his case was that platonic love and friendship can exist between two different people) and I can only only imagine how heart-shattering must be for a creator hear comments such as these.

However those comments are not because what Oz said, those comments are born from a society that normalize straightness and treat gayness like (sorry if I offend someone) a phenomenon, as “look at those two characters who are gay, their goal is to be gay so we can tell we are inclusive, their backstory is gay and their hobbies and goals are gay”, so is more than understandable when the lgbt+ craves good representation, and how heartbroken they are when is taken from them. Oz Twitter didn’t say nothing wrong, but doesn’t meant that doesn’t hurt.

But how could he know? In his eyes he is just clarifying a mistake of interpretation that has been made about his characters and trying to pass a message that he believes in. How could he understand the problems of a community that he doesn’t belong if they were never explained to him?

And then there are the non-lgbt+ members, who see nothing wrong in his Twitter but see him getting hate for it, and they are like “wtf?”, they don’t understand, and rush to defend him because in the end of day is his creation, right? He is the one who decide their aspects. And honestly, they are right! Oz is the creator, if he say it is straight, is straight.

But they don’t understand what is being taken from the lgbt+ community because they have a overdose of straight couples and is complete normal for them. And even if you explain to them they will not understand, they may know your reasoning, but they will not understand, because they have different view of world.

And that is why the cancel culture is so fucking stupid, having a different view of the world will make you think different from other people, doesn’t make them or you wrong, make you different. You may unintentionally offend someone with your opinion, you may not understand them, but is not your fault, how you could understand them if you are not them?

That is why what Oz did is so important, while everyone was trying to impose their view as absolute right, Oz look pass the insult and the accusations and truly tried to understand. He tried to learn from it, he thanks everyone who helped, despite being insulted several times. He did more than everyone here, and we should aimed to be like that, if it was me I would be like “oh, stfu is my fucking character” and most of you would probably do the same.

If you disagree with me, unfollow my blog, block me and never look at my blog again.

Out of 19000+ followers I have, only one of you actually reblogged about this issue, yet a lot of you have reblogged and liked a picture by playboy about catcalling and that how men should never do it.

Additionally, I have received abuse in my ask box (which I will be answering when I can) and threats. In particular death threats and rape threats.

Please watch this video if your sad.

No. Just no. Ok?

So I used to make this joke all the time. Now I have chronic tinnitus. For those of you who don’t know what that is, it’s nerve damage in your ears which often comes as a result of being constantly exposed to very loud noise for a long period of time. The nerve damage results in a constant ringing/buzzing in your ears. So far there’s no cure. The severity of it varies, and I’m lucky to have a mild case, which I can barely hear during the day and is easy to block out at night. That said, loads of people with tinnitus aren’t so lucky. Severe tinnitus can’t be blocked out. Those who suffer from it also suffer from severe loss of sleep, depression, anxiety…. the list goes on. Tinnitus also comes with a degree of hearing loss in most cases, making it even harder to ignore. In fact, some people with severe tinnitus kill themselves just to make the ringing stop. Tinnitus can be so severe that it drives a person to suicide. Chronic tinnitus used to mostly be prevalent in older people who worked for years with loud machinery etc, but all of a sudden it’s becoming more common in our generation. Why? Because of people, like me, who listened to their music too goddamn loudly through their headphones.