Raising Free Humans

I find that my behaviors, motivations and tendencies align with 4w5 and 7w8 in similar frequency, which has led me to be more interested in tritype theory and the idea that since we all experience all 3 core emotions (Anger, Fear, and Shame), the degree to which one type is represented more or less in our personality has to do with the frequency that particular emotion is being triggered. When I have worked with other typology practitioners and experts over the last few years, they have typed me as either 4w5 or 7w8 with equal amounts of conviction, and I can see arguments to both. At this point in my life, I feel that my 4w5 side is more pronounced, so I went ahead and adjusted my description to list that one first. Good catch though!

Love her as a friend, will never knowingly work for an ENFJ again. (ENFP + ENFJ working too closely does not go well)

So this blog is no longer Dishes and Duality since I am now an ENFP without a dual.

So much more has happened than that though. The last time I was active in personality writing/blogging, six years ago, I was caring for two infants. Once I had them on a good nap schedule, I found myself flush with alone time to pour my thoughts into words on a computer. I all but abandoned this blog, and writing in general when I became more politcally active, and even earned myself a few board seats and a job as a political trainer for 2 years. Now, I find myself back to caring for an infant, but this time, he's my infant.

After divorcing my ISTJ, I found myself quickly in a relationship with an ENTP, who is now my dedicated partner and coparent to an amazing little boy. He's not the best napper, but I have committed to renewing my love for writing, and what better place to start than where I left off!

So I will be cleaning out my inbox and posting some new type descriptions to start off, and then seeing where the community is at and whether I can add to the discourse with my Libertarian ENFP brand of insight and a but of socionics sprinkled everywhere.

But what if my head core isn't really 7w8, but rather 5w4 and I've just been super unhealthy for so long?

Otherwise maybe just a super healthy 7?

If an ENFP has sufficiently developed extraverted thinking (Te), they can learn to stop themselves from reacting based on a strong feeling. By shifting focus completely away from the internal experience to the external allows for a degree of compartmentalization. The experience for the ENFP who is going this is a rise in intensity of a feeling up to a point where it reaches the point where it would start to influence immediate behavior (i.e. yelling or sulking out of intense anger, jumping and smiling out of intense joy). Once that intensity level is reached, the ENFP will choose to engage a physical cue (i.e. taking a deep breath, shaking your head, wiping hands over face) to shut down their introverted feeling (Fi). At that point an immediate shift in focus and demeanor can be observed and the ENFPs usual warmth is noticably missing.

This is only a healthy technique if it is used appropriately to moderate feelings at times when it is necessary and appropriate and still reengages their feeling function as soon as is safe. Overuse of this technique results in an extraverted loop of doing anything to avoid dealing with overwhelming feelings.

Paris Gellar

So I guess I'm back again?