Straight people know that you’re supposed to like your partner right? Like enjoy them as another human being?
There are times I seriously wonder.
A lot of straight women don’t know that, tbh
They know the man is supposed to enjoy them, but they don’t often consider what they want–and when they do, they usually stick to preferences they can choose, like participating in a subculture together, rather than the man’s actual personal qualities. The bar for how he treats her is only as high as how the men around her have treated her for her whole life. And men don’t treat women very well at all
And a lot of women don’t know that
There’s a lot of pressure to “just give him a chance” and “appreciate the fact he likes you” as if a man’s interest is something valuable.
DINGDINGDING we have a winner
i teach teenage boys about healthy relationships and consent. for a living. one if the first activities we do with a class is to get them to think about what they want in a partner. without fail, one of the first things that comes up in class is “someone you can have a bit of banter with” which roughly translates to “an actual human being with thoughts and opinions”. dont get me wrong, im glad they want this, but the fact that wanting to date someone who is a sentient person isn’t you know, a given, but a bonus? t e r r i f y i n g
