Robin

So one thing about recovering from top surgery during a heatwave is that there are cables absolutely everywhere. Cables and sweat. I'm trying to come up with a witty title but it is simply too hot.

:looks inside:

Trans men are asking to be included in discussions about abortion access, where they, transmascs, and enbies (particularly if they're racialised) are THE most vulnerable group.

Trans men from the global south are talking about their specific vulnerabilities and the horrific violence they face.

Trans men are asking the rest of the community to please care more about the fact that their hormones are a controlled drug and their identities are already on a controlled drug registry that can be very easily cross-referenced with agab to Pick Out The Trannies.

Trans men are talking about how TMOC have been targeted for sexual & physical harrassment because of their transmasculinitiy in detention centres.

Trans men are asking the queer community to stop claiming they have made 'no historical contributions' when 1) they have, and 2) they have been violently erased, institutionalised, and forced into marriage throughout history, and even those lucky few who went stealth were often discovered through forcible outing.

Trans men are begging the queer community to stop spreading transphobic lies that predatorjacket them as dangerous, violent rapists.

Trans men are mentioning that they are often ENTIRELY banned from playing on men's OR women's high-level sport teams, because those teams are allowed to 'make their own decisions' on whether to permit them while using a banned steroid, which usually, you guessed it, means they can't compete.

past couple of weeks have been a wild ride of emotions

That is not me saying trans people are physically incapable of being absolute fucking shiteaters any more or less so than the rest of the population-- but you can only be so aggressively antisocial in grass-touching space. I don't know what ISFF's irl life is like, but she posts like someone who has not experienced the light of the sun in a hot minute and has forgotten what it feels like. Lily is a known shut in who has admitted to alienating herself from her local queer community by spiteful choice. Taxxon has been kicked out of projects and spaces on multiple different occasions.

The only queer spaces these sorts of people could exist, let alone be so visible-- is online.

I know that's true, so I forget that isn't obvious to others all the time.

I have never heard the word "transandrophobia" said outside of academic papers, and the internet.

A decent portion of the trans women I know irl are so thoroughly stuck on the normie side of the internet and not whatever ninth circle of hell I've subjected myself to they're reference viral tiktok memes I've never even seen at me. And I'm constantly exposing myself as both old and ruined forever when I realize they don't know what the fuck Ram Ranch is.

They're getting their nails done and putting their dog in sweaters and building Lego deathstars and building PCs and watching Taskmaster. Their souls virginal and innocent to the horrors beyond human comprehension that have come out of the rotten cesspits of internet discourse.

I would be too embarrassed to explain to any of them anything to do with this tumblr account-- but if I did I'm of full confidence this would be an absolute shock.

The ones that I know who are aware of this bullshit also just had unrestricted internet access from an early age. Raised by the darkness. Molded by it.

Like can we stop giving people who say "pooner" "theyfab" "moid" "hon" and other 4chan slurs/dog whistles the time of day please? It's obvious these people are trying to overwrite the culture here.

I keep seeing people saying it's because of trans men or trans women being inherently predisposed to this behavior as to why tumblr is like this right now, and it's like..no! It's people of all different genders who came from a self hating cesspool and are trying to legitimize the use of their hate speech and toxic culture. Making it about people's gender is just transphobic!

I know it's easy to fall into the trap of constantly checking this tag but constantly looking for examples of people hating you will hurt you more in the long run.

You are valid in the hurt you feel from people who are supposed to be in your community downplaying your experiences, but you will get so much more out of celebrating trans joy than soaking in misery.

Go get a snack or some water, maybe sit outside if it's nice. Wash your hair. You're alive, and there is joy to be found in that.