oh and another thing that devastates me about Obsession is how much nikki is judged and blamed by those around her. sarah and ian repeatedly telling bear that he shouldnât have to deal with her, that sheâs not his responsibility, that theyâre worried sheâs taking advantage of him. as if they arenât also her friends, as if they shouldnât know her well enough to notice something is off. thereâs no concern for why nikki is behaving the way she is, thereâs just distain towards it. she starts acting out of character and so it must all be intentional. but bear doesnât get questioned. bear isnât gossiped about. nikki loses all her agency and autonomy, and all she gets for it is judgment























