discourse and ftm feminism

if you think people who were assigned female at birth discussing the effects that assignment had on their lives or acknowledging their secondary sexual characteristics = misgendering themselves… it just tells me that you still equate sex/genitals to gender tbh :/

the reason we really REALLY need to underscore that everyone can perpetuate misogyny is because otherwise you get "i'm literally [QUEER IDENTITY] i can't be being misogynistic right now!" when someone is absolutely, unquestionably perpetuating extreme misogyny

I do think it's an interesting case of how transandrophobia and exorsexism operate along similar lines that trans men are not allowed to have complicated relationships to lesbianism "because they're men/because they're not women" but non-binary people in relationships with women are regularly labeled as sapphic without their input (or in the case of fictional characters, without regard for other possible interpretations). Both of these instances are fundamentally the erasure of trans people's right to self-identify, both of them are done to police sapphic spaces for the benefit of others. The difference lies in the method, the trans man lesbian is forced out of their community, while the non-binary person is forced to have their identities be made more palatable for the benefit of a community they may not even feel they belong to.

I found out today that there was a (thankfully very ill-fated) attempt to have the entire Wikipedia article on discrimination against transgender men deleted. At first I thought the perpetrator was yet another bargain bin transphobe/TERF act of disruption but apparently not so, she is a trans woman. The user in question had been disputing the use of transandrophobia in the article as being inappropriate, but as other editors pointed out, the way in which it was used was as to be expected (basically saying “hey this term is being used commonly right now in places to describe this phenomena”). When attempts to get the article edited to remove any mention of the term failed, this user instead decided to just nominate the whole article for deletion instead. She even went as far as to say “you will never be a man” to the editors disputing this, though it was quickly deleted. It’s the actions of only a single person, but I find this indicative of how the chronic devaluing and othering of transmasculine people and voices in faux-transfeminist spaces leads to action basically indistinguishable from cis transphobes. Resorting to attempted vandalism of an online resource and blatant transphobia is a symptom of this trend that deserves absolutely no patience at this point.

People always talk about rehabilitating rapists as if rapists get punished by the law or society at all. Most rapists aren’t facing some draconian punishment they’re getting a few days jail time at most while the person they raped can’t go outside after dark anymore

I think the terms “rapejacketing” and “pedojacketing” were invented because “false allegations” sounded too obviously incel-y

ughh i hate trans men because they’re men! never mind that i treat them completely differently to cis men or that i casually infantilize them and insult them using specifically very stereotypically gendered insults like bitch or cunt. sigh, men ammiright

ive been thinking about how some trans spaces and media lack representation of bottom surgery and itd be nice if we could talk about and depict it more. but my attempts to formulate this into a coherent thought lead me to standing in front of the microwave idly thinking "we should normalize men with penises" as if thats a brave new frontier nobody has ever considered.

62 MILLION visits in a single month to a site where cisgender men teach each other to rape unconscious women and post videos of it!! If every visit was a single individual it would be 37 fucking percent of American men can you fuckers actually get your act together and stop this? But no you just *need* to jack off to rape and if someone tries to stop you they must be fascists obsessed with censorship. Pornhub has admitted to hosting videos of trafficked women and children being raped. Prostitution is more than just onlyfans most sex workers are forced into it out of poverty in south east Asia and Latin America get your heads out of your dicks and DO SOMETHING