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The legacies people leave behind in you.

I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?

And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.

this is also why universal basic income is inherently a feminist issue. like i actually do think people should be able to choose to be a stay at home parent or whatever but until there are meaningful social safety nets so that leaving an abusive spouse after being a housewife for an extended period of time is financially feasible for the majority of women who make that choice, yeah we should be making sure that more people are fully aware of what they're getting into when they make that choice.