Some disabled people kindly make big posts explaining their disability and what qualifies for someone to identify as having that disability. I especially see this for physical disability where someone wonders if their differences qualify as a disability. Then the disabled person ends their post with 'DO NOT ask if your situation counts."
That's ableist. I get that you just put a ton of effort into spelling it out and you can't imagine what could possibly be unclear, so if someone is asking it's probably because they don't qualify but they're trying to make their minor issue into a reason to be part of your community. I get it. But.
But people with an intellectual disability may need more clarification even when you have spelled it out. Autistic people may get caught up in some technical detail and may be unable to recognize that the detail doesn't matter and that they're missing the point. People with moral/scrupulosity OCD may need the ease of being told outright whether they qualify instead of having to make that decision themselves and having to decide whether they are making the right decision.
Maybe tell them that you don't have the energy to take those sorts of questions but if they post on your community's tags someone else will? IDK. I don't expect anyone to give more than they can give but it's very hurtful to be told that questions aren't allowed.
Just to clarify, it's completely reasonable to say that you can't diagnose or that only a doctor can be sure or anything like that. This is only about telling people that they aren't allowed to ask questions about their situation. And again, if you don't have the energy please ask them to ask someone else in your community instead of you.
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