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Anyways. I think befriending people who are not like you but who are in close proximity to you is important for the bonsai kitten within you. You will learn to be less scared when you know the people around you better. Idk where this is coming from ur just the bonsai kitten person and I think youd like the mental image of me taking myself to someone's yard like a cat in a harness

yesssss I love this. i am literally JUST starting to be brave and venture into this again after several years of retreating to "never interact with strangers or try to join any communities, it isn't safe" brain following significant relational trauma from the last time I tried to venture out into a community space (dogs, lol) and its taken me years! to get to this point

i feel like sometimes ppl think that bc I say this is important I'm also saying it's easy. its not easy!!!! it's really hard!!!!! you can't control other people's behavior! you're inherently giving up some control by giving other ppl the power to potentially hurt you quite badly! it is not easy! but there's ways to do it casually where intimacy is built up over time based on repeated interactions. this is often antithetical to the way some of us have gotten into communities and relationships, where we jump right in with everything we have right away. that method has not served me super well tbh bc it means stuff is inherently volatile and also that I'm putting a lot of trust in people who I objectively do not know very well and don't have that built up Information of repeated low stakes interactions.

“Ghosts aren’t real” it’s very fair and rational that you believe that

“Ghosts aren’t real anymore” I’m about to hear a poem or very sad story

hypothetical from "i know what you think of me" by tim kreider. i would not step a single foot on this staircase because i do not even want to know the GOOD things people say about me in private, let alone the bad things. when i get pocket-dialed and hear my name, i hang up like the phone burned me. but i feel like everyone i know always says they WANT to hear what people say about them behind their backs!!

North of North is about a young Inuk woman who gets sick of her narcissistic husband's macho BS and moves in with her single mom. that... probably makes it sound like one of those shows, doesn't it.

well, maybe it is, maybe it's not (it's not). while Siaja (Anna Lambe, gorgeous, absolutely stunning) runs around trying to put her life back together and find herself (but first find and hold down a job and learn to coparent with her almost-ex - yeah of course she has a kid, she's 26!), there is life happening all over place in the tiny Nunavut town. Ice Cove is the kind of tight-knit community where your people won't leave you alone - but they also won't leave you alone, you know?

the show doesn't preach, but while you're laughing, it still quietly, casually shows you how colonialism doesn't really end.

how it lingers.

here's your white mayor. here's your language being slowly forgotten and now you need a translator to understand your elders. here's your town's lack of funding and what it gets it has to fight for (and how do you fight for it when there's another town (the Shelbyville to your Springfield, the Woodbury to your Stars Hollow) that even has a sushi place?). here's a French Canadian man who calls you Snocahontas. here's your mother's self-sabotaging old trauma.

*sigh* fine, there's also walrus dick baseball. if anything, watch it for the walrus dick baseball