i will not leave my bones here

the concept of identifying as ‘neurospicy’ as a grown adult is lowkey unbearable to me. but I guess I don’t have to do it

cringe and demeaning nature aside what is it about ‘spicy’ that codes it and not other flavors as a synonym for diverse, divergent, or other. I mean I know why but I think you need to explain it anyways.

part of the reason i love mean, bitchy, rude, domineering, firecracker female characters and loathe seeing them defanged is because the prickliness repels men and the defanging is ALWAYS to make them more fuckable for whatever man they have a weird sexual tension with. like yeah i don't like the Mean Lesbian stereotype either but at least the mean lesbian isn't shelving her career to become a tradwife after spending however many episodes/chapters/issues saying how much she didn't want to do either of those things

i will take twenty mean women being headcanoned as lesbians solely on the basis of how fucking toxic they are before i will take ONE formerly mean woman suddenly being sunshine and rainbows in the arms of a man she should be slapping across the face

i love seeing women get character growth and interesting arcs but NOT BEING ATTRACTED TO MEN/THE MALE PROTAGONIST IS NOT A CHARACTER FLAW

and maybe this isn't revolutionary of me at all but in addition to being perfectly fine with the mean lesbians i also just want to see more female characters who are genuinely Married To Their Work. not in that she doesn't have time for dating but wishes she did, i mean that she genuinely gets all the fulfillment she needs from the satisfaction of a job well done and the socialization she enjoys in the process of doing her job. and it can be any kind of thing that keeps her busy, not just modern formal 9-5 employment; "passion" and "calling" also work here instead of "job". female characters are never allowed to loiter around unfucked, especially not if the male lead wants a piece of that (and even if the male lead getting a piece of that would completely derail everything she has going on). like oh my god can just one chick win an employee of the month award and not have to immediately suffer some sort of cisheteronormative penance for it

Most of the time the "mean lesbian" is really just woman who says no to men and that *must mean* she's a lesbian. Because obviously men are the most desirable things in the universe, right?

the oldest reblogs for this post that i can find are from january 2nd of 2013. this can has been getting kicked around tumblr for almost 13½ years now

And yet somehow this is my first time kicking it!

ID. photo of an open tin can. End ID.

what people don’t understand about how adhd is disabling is that it’s not just getting temporarily distracted from, like, school work or hobbies. it’s getting distracted/being unable to motivate yourself to go to the doctor, eat regularly, do hygiene tasks, etc. it’s not knowing when or how long it will take you to do something, ANYTHING, and in many cases that thing is taking a shower or keeping your house from turning into a biohazard. it’s about being fundamentally incapable of controlling your attention and focus on anything, even and especially things you need to do to survive.

Alright your Discord avatar and tumblr avatar are locked in a closet for 7 minutes ala 7 Minutes In Heaven. What happens

I have GOT to stop spending $30

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

Happy Pride

happy pride month dykes i love you dykes