I know quite a lot of trans men locally who are really active in social justice projects, anti-racism, anti-capitalism, anti-Zionist etc. But I've noticed that if I'm talking to one of them about something bad that happened to a trans woman at a local trans group, he'll often respond by saying "Oh, I don't think that can be right, there must be some other explanation."
I'll explain how it often happens that trans women are marginalised and kicked out of groups for really minor infractions (or even for no infraction at all), and he'll often say something like "Thanks for the info, that's worth being on the look out for, if it comes up."
Then I'll bring the conversation back to the example of the specific trans woman in the local area who had a bad thing happen to her at a trans group, and it'll be straight back to "Oh, I don't think that can be right, she must've done something worse."
It's like transmisogyny occupies this realm of "theoretical forms of oppression" that they can acknowledge as a possibility but never as a reality that happens in their own community to women that they know. It's really frustrating.
