White Mans Whore

bonus:

“I’m not here to talk about my weight; I’m here to talk about [problem]. I have a history of doctors focusing on my weight and ignoring problems like ‘a tumor in my spine,’ so I’m sure you’ll understand why I would prefer we did not ignore my stated complaint to focus on my weight instead.”

“I would like to focus on the complaint that brought me in today, which is [complaint], not my weight.”

“What tests or course of treatment would you recommend to a thin person presenting with my symptoms? Why are we not doing that? I would prefer to proceed with those tests and that course of treatment.”

“Please write in my chart that I asked you for these tests and course of treatment that you would give a thin patient with my symptoms, and you declined.”

“I’d like to request a copy of my visit notes from today,” [if the above don’t work and you don’t have MyChart, “what’s the correct email for my written request?”

It may be difficult to insist on a patient advocate to be in the room with you, but in many states you are legally entitled to one. I bring one of my partners bc I have medical-triggered PTSD. They know how to advocate for me or support me if a doctor tries to steamroll me..

If you are in a hospital situation and cannot get an official advocate in the room with you, ask for a chaplain. Chaplains are used to being in a room to comfort and help patients and in many circumstances, just having a witness in the room will change a doctor’s tune REALLY fast.

Some helpful posts I’ve found about BIPOC inclusion in writing.

Posts/Resources:

Quick points on writing more inclusively by @otomeman

How to be More Inclusive in Your Reader-Inserts by melanimed

Inclusive Moodboards by @jynzandtonic​

Rec List/Resources:

Rec List by @writingwithcolor​

Black and Brown stock photos - Nappy.co

Articles:

 Media’s portrayal of Asian women hurts

Many websites have those complaint forms you need to fill out to submit DMCA notice. Here are some of them:

Tumblr https://www.tumblr.com/dmca

DeviantArt https://help.deviantart.com/dmca

Instagram http://help.instagram.com/contact/372592039493026?helpref=faq_content

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/634636770043106?helpref=page_content

Twitter https://support.twitter.com/forms/dmca

VKontakte https://vk.com/dmca

Pinterest https://pinterest.com/about/copyright/dmca-pin/

Youtube https://www.youtube.com/copyright_complaint_form

Flickr https://ipr.yahoo.com/copyright?.lang=en-US

Google https://www.google.com/webmasters/tools/dmca-notice

Usually links to those forms can be found on website’s Terms of Service pages. (search for copyright or DMCA)

If you’re interested in learning more to prepare yourself, so you can be as effective as possible if you witness a scenario that requires bystander intervention, here are some resources on copwatching to look over. I highly recommend reading over them several times and taking good notes – or anything else that will help you commit the contents to memory – because this stuff will escape you in an actual stressful scenario (signed, someone who has attended multiple copwatch trainings and still totally blanked on most of what I learned the one time I’ve directly confronted an officer)

For those local to the Minneapolis, where we’re very likely to see the highest amount of police retaliation in the days to come, the Twin Cities Worker’s Defense Alliance has a How to Copwatch manual, as well as a printable Know Your Rights zine

United Against Police Terror San Diego has a Copwatching Manual intended to be fairly broadly applicable to copwatchers in the US

The ACLU offers advice on copwatching in the form of Fighting Police Abuse: A Community Action Manual

WeCopwatch have a large variety of resources on copwatching and copwatchers rights’ on their site

STOP ASIAN HATE

The state of Alabama has just made it a felony to give trans children ages 19 or younger hormone therapy or affirmation surgery.

Trans Lives Matter and stay safe.

THIS WILL KILL TRANS KIDS.

i just got home and saw a message from a mutual i’ve never talked to, about a birthday gift. DONT CLICK ON THE LINK. i haven’t so i don’t know what it does, but i’ve heard it logs you out and sends you to a fake tumblr to take your information. it’s a hack. and it fucks up your computer/laptop/phone/device.

this is what the message looks like, and if you click the link, it sends it to every single one of your mutuals (or possibly ALL THE PEOPLE THAT FOLLOW YOU)

WHOEVER IS MAKING THESE VIRUSES, ARE MAKING NEW ONES THAT SEEM MORE REALISTIC. THEY ARENT USING CAPITALIZATION ANYMORE SO IT LOOKS MORE “REAL” BUT I SWEAR TO YOU ITS FALSE

These spam bots are really trying hard to spread this virus around. Let people know you got this message so they can be safe and change their password and run an anti-virus. 

Hey! Before we get started I just wanted to quickly say that I am working on all the requests that I have and will be rolling them out soon. I would post them all at once but, then what’s the fun in that? Anyways, enjoy!

15. What it takes to make them cry

-As we all know, Kylo does not like showing any emotion other than anger. So when you see him cry for the first time, he gets angry at himself that he let his guard down and shown you how weak he is. 

-The first time you found Kylo crying, he was silently sobbing. Sniffling and rubbing at his face. He looked so small, he looked like Ben Solo.

-The way you intertwined your fingers through his hair, just urged him to cry even more. How could someone like you love someone like him? He was a monster, but not to you. 

-It was exhaustion that brought Kylo to his breaking point. He had been so over worked that he simply couldn’t handle it anymore. He was done with it all 

-Except for the fact that you had constantly reminded him how he isn’t weak and he’s allowed to feel things, he’s allowed to have emotions and he’s allowed to cry. 

-Of course he hates it, he hates how easily after the first time he broke, how easy it is now for him to cry. He hates how much you care for him and that some nights after a long day. You’ll let him lay his head on your lap and just cry. 

-Kylo isn’t a loud crier, he lets the tears run down his beautiful face, releasing a shaky breath every now and then. His body will shake as he tries to calm himself down, you know he hates feeling weak but you rub small circles into his back. 

-You’ll play with his hair, maybe even slightly braid it. You’ll remind him how amazing he is, how much you love him. 

-When he would start to calm down, he would just be silent. Not really wanting to talk, he just wanted to be there with you. He wanted nothing but to just know you’re there. 

Pairing: Kylo Ren x Reader Warnings: Major Character Death, loss of will to live, pregnancy. Kind of happily ever after, Safe For Work, Hurt/Comfort. Words: 1,129