individualistic artist

I would like to start this off by saying : TO ME being in a triad relationship (and this probably applies to most closed polyamorous relationship) means that all partners have equal say and if any veto power exists it exists within each individual partner equally. And I feel that it is extremely important to for each partner to feel comfortable and confident enough to use their equal voice. Because you don’t really have a voice unless you know it’ll be heard and you know it will count for something. Now that being said I have run into what seems to be an interesting contridiciton to this while not an absolute one. I have noticed lately that both my wife and girlfriend look to me a lot for the decision making, and I have basically been doing my best to shy away from doing so out of fear of making their voices feel invalidated or something like-natured. Reflecting on this I realize too that my wife generally has looked to me for direction with our life. While that is a bit of pressure I understand that that is just part of our dynamic and I shouldn’t expect her to feel differently about that due to the addition of our wonderful girlfriend. (I don’t know if I mentioned but she lives with us now <3). I really noticed it over the last few weeks that our girlfriend has been looking to us more and more for direction and decision making. Just to be clear I’m talking about all the day to day stuff. Things like when are we leaving? What are we doing? When are we eating? These sorts of day to day things. Noone is trying to throw all the important decisions on one person. And since she is looking to both/either of us and my wife looks to me it seems that I feel that I’m supposed to be taking a bit more charge over our lives. It’s not really a role I prefer to have to be honest because I’d rather discuss everything and come to a consensus however I understand why they desire otherwise to a degree. Is anyone fimilar with this kind of dynamic in a traid? I would certainly like to talk to others who have found themselves in similar situations. I don’t know why for me it is a less comfortable to have a leadership role when there is another person with us but I also know I want them both to be happy so I need to push myself to be a bit more decisive and deliberate.

If you're not comfortable, do what we all always have to do in our atypical relationships: talk about it.

“Dude, you haven’t gone outside in a while.” “Yeah, last time I went out I got this wicked sunburn.”

“Are you still up?” “Yeah, I started bing watching this show on Netflix.”

harry: It’s cute how I used to think this “barely-holding-it-together” feeling was temporary.

ron: Sometimes I think “I need to think before I speak” and then other times I think “I shouldn’t leave the house or interact with people ever.”

hermione: I woke up just before winning the argument in my dream. Fuck this day.

draco: For someone with such an intense need to be liked you’d think I would have figured out how to be less of an asshole.

neville: My daily objective is less about goal achievement and more about regret management.

ginny: “You’re the only person in the world I don’t hate right now" is as close as I get to saying “I love you”

luna: When *I* played Barbie, I stripped her naked and melted her with matches.

voldemort: My life would be so much easier if it wasn’t for that thing…God, what is that thing called…other people.

dumbledore: If I die unexpectedly can everyone just do the right thing and pretend I was a way better person than I am?

“There’s a hippogriff right there, Hagrid.”

“A different hipprogriff.”

“I’m… pretty sure that’s the same hipprogriff.”

You’ve got this world full of people who can destroy whole buildings or turn people into beetles or make vehicles fly just by waving a stick at them

And there is literally no common sense

Anywhere to be found

The Minister would NEVER EVER disbelieve in Gerald White. He’d buy it hook line and sinker. The wizarding world would buy it hook line and sinker. The GOBLINS wouldn’t but wizards have been shown to be pretty blindingly clueless. Still, Gringotts would grudgingly give Sirius access to the Black fortune.

But, but, but, you know the one person

the one person

who Gerald White would drive AB-SO-LUTELY FUCKING BATSHIT?

Severus Snape.

Snape would do everything, EVERYTHING, to get people to believe that it’s Sirius. But the Order would ignore it (they accepted Sirius as Sirius before anyway) and Remus would just be so… so affronted.

‘Severus, he is my cousin.’

And Sirius would love it. He’d love the fact that Snape just hated it. He’d be the BEST DAMN GERALD WHITE EVER b/c Snape is doing everything from dropping veritaserum into his firewhisky to capturing a dementor in a box and releasing it on Sirius when he least expects it

That one causes problems for a bare minute because SHIT A DEMENTOR ATTEMPTED TO GIVE GERALD THE KISS MAYBE SNAPE IS RIGHT except Harry comes forward and is like ‘excuse me, I’ve never committed a crime and dementors are ALWAYS attacking me, I think they’re attracted to glasses’

and the magical community is like ‘shit, yeah, you’re right’

and just

‘HE’S A BIG BLACK DOG! A DOG - THAT IS BLACK. SIRIUS BLACK. BLACK DOG DOG BLACK.’

And Remus calmly says: “That’s absurd, Severus. Sirius Black was never an animagus and besides which, people’s names don’t have any influence over their animagus forms or anything like that. That’s ridiculous.”

And Snape yells: “Shut it WEREWOLF MCWEREWOLF!”

Everyone looks at Remus, who blinks and sighs as Gerald White turns back into his human form.

my brain:

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

That’s quite a costume. I love this woman’s hair, and her energy…