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Every single female character in that movie was absolutely amazing. Shoutout to Karen, Cindy, Dr. Dagmar and Mrs. Gruner. They were the ones that got people to understand. The ones that brought the community together. The ones who gave him space when Lars wanted it and pushed to support him when he needed it.

When Mrs. Gruner gives Bianca the flowers and Lars goes: ‘Those are nice, huh? And they’re not real, so they’ll last forever.’ Bro. Dont even get me started. (Im already started so ill keep talking anyway) It’s a reflection of why Bianca is there. She’s there because she’s a partner Lars can build and construct without the worry of that person abandoning him. Shes fake. Gus, in his own words, left as soon as he could without thinking of Lars. He abandoned his brother. Lars’ mother died before he even opened his eyes. She “abandoned” him. And it’s safe to assume that his father was very much emotionally unavailable during Lars’ upbringing.

He has not had a stable relationship before. Sure, people in the community try to reach out, but that’s not enough to reassure him that things wont fall through as soon as it starts to get comfortable. This is also why he gets so upset when Bianca wasnt there to play Scrabble with him. She is the one thing Lars knows for sure will never leave him…because she cant..1) she doesnt have working legs and 2) she’s a doll. So when she’s swept away and not with him immediately? That feeling of abandonment comes back. That fear of being left alone again comes back.

But let me just say, the community in this movie is absolutely beautiful. What do you mean a whole town came together to pretend a doll was alive for just one person? Devoting their time and sacrificing their social norms so that Lars can work through his repressed emotions and feelings. The porch scene with all the flowers? Perfect. The hospital designating a whole protocol for when Bianca is wheeled in? Perfect. People talking TO Bianca and asking her questions knowing full well it’s a delusion? Literal tears.