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INFJ on the outside: Hangs out with multiple people, is seemingly open about talking and hanging out in groups often. Loves to talk about feelings and be there for people.

ENFP on the outside: Doesn’t like big crowds, parties, or hanging out with people they don’t know, if invited to hang out and is told a number higher than 4-5 they will say no 65% of the time.

INFJ on the inside: People are important for their Fe, but their Ni-dom needs to have the higher priority. They need times to themselves to retreat and be in their head. That’s why you’ll get the occasional, “Not today, but thank you!!” When you ask to hang out with them. They need to process information on their own- that means with no other people involved.

INXJs (more INFJs than INTJs) run the risk of forming all kinds of major goals in life without getting around to making them real because of poor inferior Se. Se acts as an agent for action in types who have it, and unless the INXJ works on conscious development of it (learning to be proactive and step up), the tendency toward intellectualization over actualization is common (in other words: you can work on and refine your vision in your head, because that’s more fun than work).

The solution is much as I told the INTP who asked how to be how to be productive, which is to decide what you want to accomplish over a week’s time, set yourself small but achievable goals, and then stick to a schedule so you can get your work done. People hate schedules because they see them as prisons – what they actually are is for your body alone, so you can be free to let your mind be creative or accomplish tasks, by getting the boring stuff out of the way first. Learning self-discipline and doing something whether you feel like it or not is also useful in achieving your goals – but you have to be willing to DO IT.

It’s easy to set up a schedule and get all excited about how much you’re going to do tomorrow – and then get up and… you decide not to do any of it, out of laziness or irritation that a schedule exists, and then at the end of the day you feel like you wasted your time, which you did. Your mind wants to do what you decided to do, and when you fail your own expectations, you disappoint yourself.

As a Ni, visualize what you want from your day and then do it. You might even want to picture it out in your mind before you go to sleep, so you feel motivated because you’ve already seen yourself doing it. Envision how you will feel, as you get that thing done, and then what you can do (for fun) afterward. Map it out in your mind. Break big tasks down into chunks and spread them out over a week; and be flexible if you just can’t do that much in a day.

I had a goal this weekend to finish proof-reading a 100,000 word manuscript. I thought two days would be enough. I underestimated how much it would exhaust and use my Te/Si… so I need one more day, because I could not do that for hours on end without breaks, my brain could not take it. So, as an intuitive, decide how much you can ‘take’ and then reduce that by 30 minutes or more. Figure out a schedule and timetable that makes you happy, not one that drags you to work each day. (I do this for this long, then I reward myself with that!) You need to look forward to things, otherwise you’ll never do them.

Lynda Barry

Since I took Twitter off my phone, I hardly look at it all all when I’m adulting. Because I have more time with myself, and because I’m not constantly taking in the firehose of horrible news, I’ve been more creative, happier, less anxious, and in a better place, mentally.

A lot of my personal happiness and sense of self worth is connected to my creativity, and it wasn’t until I got Twitter out of my life that I realized how much I missed quiet moments of uncertainty, boredom, and even loneliness, because I need those moments to get excited and make things.

Hey there! Did you mean like the MBTI personalities? I’ll do my best!

ENTJ - Logical, decisive, strategic. Natural leaders. Probably your boss. Not always a dictator. See also: Bill Gates, Jim Carrey, Alexander Hamilton, Princess Leia (Star Wars)

INTJ - Theoretical, driven, systematic. Natural innovators. Probably your class valedictorian. Not always a nerd. See also: C.S. Lewis, Isaac Newton, Jane Austen, Bruce Wayne (Batman)

ESTJ - Analytical, efficient, straightforward. Natural organizers. Probably president of something. Not always a control freak. See also: Henry Ford, Michelle Obama, St. Paul, Frank Sinatra, Dwight Schrute (The Office)

ISTJ - Factual, thorough, steadfast. Natural problem solvers. Probably a math whiz. Not always antisocial. See also: Queen Elizabeth II, George Washington, Jackie Joyner-Kersee, Ron Swanson (Parks and Recreation)

ENFJ - Enthusiastic, loyal, sociable. Natural diplomats. Probably your mom. Not always psychic. See also: Martin Luther King Jr., Johnny Depp, Nelson Mandela, Peeta Mellark (The Hunger Games)

INFJ - Insightful, compassionate, committed. Natural visionaries. Probably your fairy godmother. Not always impossibly rare. See also: Thomas Jefferson, Carrie Fisher, Adam Sandler, Atticus Finch (To Kill A Mockingbird)

ESFJ - Conscientious, sympathetic, responsive. Natural caregivers. Probably your teacher. Not always overly energetic. See also: Pope Francis, Andrew Carnegie, Anne Hathaway, Wendy Darling (Peter Pan)

ISFJ - Caring, practical, responsible. Natural nurturers. Probably the mom friend. Not always uber-traditional. See also: Mother Teresa, Rosa Parks, Louisa May Alcott, Winnie the Pooh

ENTP - Clever, confident, outspoken. Natural questioners. Probably your local mad scientist. Not always a living meme. See also: Tom Hanks, Nikola Tesla, Alfred Hitchcock, Dr. Emmett Brown (Back to the Future)

INTP - Curious, speculative, original. Natural theorists. Probably extremely witty. Not always robotic/immune to feeling. See also: Albert Einstein, Abraham Lincoln, Meryl Streep, Luna Lovegood (Harry Potter)

ESTP - Observant, spontaneous, energetic. Natural doers. Probably athletic. Not always midlessly active. See also: Eddie Murphy, Winston Churchill, Lucille Ball, Merida (Brave)

ISTP - Adventurous, independent, adaptable. Natural craftsmen. Probably a lone wolf. Not always apathetic. See also: Tom Cruise, Steve Jobs, James Dean, Han Solo (Star Wars)

ENFP - Expressive, imaginative, gregarious. Natural communicators. Probably the quirky nerd that everyone loves. Not always the physical embodiment of sunshine. See also: Dr. Seuss, Robin Williams, Mark Twain, Genie (Aladdin)

INFP - Empathetic, harmonious, sensitive. Natural idealists. Probably a dreamer and a bookworm. Not always crying over everything. See also: William Shakespeare, Mr. Rogers, Helen Keller, Kermit the Frog (The Muppets)

ESFP - Vivacious, playful, easygoing. Natural entertainers. Probably an actor, comedian, etc. Not always 24/7 partying. See also: Marylin Monroe, Elvis Presley, Pablo Picasso, Penny Hofstadter (The Big Bang Theory)

Scl(any sort of stress/sadness)

INTJ: Super withdrawn, swings between gratification and wanting happiness, and unhealthy single-mindedness. Existential angst. Needs people’s support but rejects company. Bottles up issues and then it bursts out.

ENTJ: Prone to attack others, often over the very issues they’re insecure about. Becomes a workaholic and ignores feelings of deep dissatisfaction, or stops giving a crap about anything. 

INFJ: Despairs of all things, just can’t see The Point of it. Goes through days mechanically, without purpose. Resists all help, considering it to be probing. Can’t get anything done. 

ENFJ: Laughs a bit too loudly and smiles a bit too widely. Escapes to private places, but feels lost. Tells their problems to someone close to them, but doesn’t accept any advice.

INFP: Isolate, isolate isolate. Sees the negative in everything and can’t see others’ love/affection for them. Loses their ‘purpose’ and drive, can’t find meaning in anything. Idealizes what they can’t have. Perpetual self-pity-party. 

ENFP: Super excitable, overdoes everything. Cannot focus at all, and their own emotions/reactions are out of their control. Breaks down sobbing. Unwilling to actually move forward. 

ISFP: Mull around in their own feelings, hates the world around them, because it’s failed them. Spiraling moodiness, “what ifs,” “should’ve done this,” but no one will ever see that. They themselves won’t admit it.

ESFP: Unusually critical, closed-minded, and overly concerned with matters of appearance over substance. Terrible sense of logic, yet argumentative all the same. Delves into the physical world in order to escape their mental one. 

ISTJ: Scattered mind, unable to think coherently. Becomes judgmental and passive-aggressive. Super pessimistic, takes on a me vs. the world mentality.

ESTJ: Intensely prickly, will take offense at anything but prefers to strike first and strike hard. If you hit a nerve, they’ll cut you out of their lives (for the time being). Tries to act happy and in control, but actually really moody. 

ISFJ: Withdrawn, tries to please everyone but is really passive-aggressive about it. Takes on a martyr complex. Refuses help while throwing a pity party because “no one cares about them.” 

ESFJ: Seeks control of people and surroundings, bossy and irritable. Might manipulate others into feeling bad, too. Denies that they’re the problem. 

INTP: Makes a lot of jokes about how things aren’t okay, but aggressively resists anyone’s sincere attention. Turns flat and emotionless, takes compartmentalizing to an unhealthy extreme. 

ENTP: Scatterbrained, cannot focus. Swings between extremes of emotions, but makes a point to show a falsely sanguine face to people. Feels like they’re crumbling from the inside. 

ISTP: Compulsive and reckless. Has a “screw this” attitude and pushes away actual problems. May or may not confide in people, but too down to take any advice. 

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INFJ vs INTJ

Essentially, INTJs, from first glance, will be a lot more arrogant and sure of themselves. INFJs are not sure of themselves in general. They’re likely to be like, “oh no!! I’m sorry!! But you know what you can do is…”

Whereas INTJs will be like, “Well that’s your own fault for getting that started anyway. In the future, to avoid that sort of thing you should…” and of course, they’ll only say that if they feel like wasting their breath trying to help you. Or scold you.

Otherwise, the differences are like this:

INTJs will be more interested in the world. Solving problems. Generally interested in politics, history, science–a subject that can actually be applied to everyday life and discussion.

INFJs, on the other hand, are usually into subjects that they don’t know how to explain why they like them. They like pondering over things inside of their heads. It doesn’t matter to them if it has a “real world” application; it’s fun to think about so they like it.

INTJs are more sarcastic, crass, and rude

INFJs are more emotional, easily offended, and vindictive 

INTJs are problem solvers, excellent communicators when they want to be, and are confident

INFJs are understanding, humanitarian, and soulful

I’m going to include another ‘appearance’ tidbit, but of course it’s just my own personal observation of clothing and behavioral patterns:

INTJs are socially awkward. They’ll do things like cross their legs in a chair and pick at the soles of their shoes. They’ll repeatedly run their fingers through their hair when thinking hard. They’re oblivious, in short, to social norms. A lot of them look like they have a touch of autism because of this. 

INFJs are quiet, but less socially awkward. They may be clumsy and get into awkward situations, but they are generally aware of how to act around people. They’ll be unnoticeable if they want to be, or the center of attention if they want to be. It’s up to them. But generally, conversation with them is lighthearted until they really get to liking you.

INTJs are confrontational. Say something they don’t agree with and they’ll start arguing about it.

INFJs are quiet observers. Say something they don’t agree with and they’ll ask you why you think what you think first, and argue with you second. When they argue with you, also, it’s less intense and usually ends with, “I see your point, and it’s ok if we don’t agree.” (unless it’s a FIGHT, but that changes everything)

INTJs explode and then quickly shut down in fights. Fights are fairly common since they’re capable of being so abrasive