ARTSY MBTI

First of all, thank you! It’s been a hot minute since I’ve been active here.

To answer your question: 

The INTP and ENFJ match-up is pretty well recognized as being ideal.

Ti/Fe, Ne/Ni, Si/Se, Fe/Ti are as close to perfection you can get if you want to get into the “science” of compatibility for Myers-Briggs. Of course, an insane number of other factors (environmental, background, mental health, maturity, age difference, culture, etc) play a part in determining how compatible two people are, so this does not say too much else about how compatible this couple would be! 

Seriously, Disney’s Hercules is the best example of an ESFJ. Let me explain.

-ESFJs dream of fitting in. They dream of that far off place, with a great, warm welcome. They love feeling like they belong, like they have a purpose in society that is well-defined and allows them to help other people. They will go to desperate measures to find this place for themselves.

-They will help people, no matter what the cost. They are the heroes of everyone’s stories. If you ask an ESFJ to do something for you, they’re going to have a really, really hard time saying no to you unless they hate your guts. 

-They are suckers for love. Which is both good and bad. The ESFJ is an amazing lover. Society’s idea of a “perfect partner” is probably the ESFJ; a warm, selfless caregiver who wills stop at nothing to satisfy their partner. 

-However, while this may be true, the ESFJ is incredibly susceptible to being used or feeling unappreciated in the relationship. They may allow others to bully them, believing that their partner is more valuable or perhaps a better person than they are.

-Ultimately, if the ESFJ keeps going along this path, they may end up breaking themselves apart to keep the relationship together. They may lose a part of themselves along the way, and it can be incredibly hard for them to find their way back to being “themselves.” Fe is not Fi...

-However, ESFJs are, well, charming. They’re the life of the party and can typically feel healed and refreshed after spending a lot of quality time with lots of good friends. Their past troubles with relationships (not excluding non-romantic ones!) may leave them with trust issues, but it is always people that help to cheer them back up and get them on the right path.

Disney doesn’t really touch much on the negative sides of the ESFJ, but it’s what can be expected: they can be dramatic, petty, nosy, and can be seen as annoying by many because they try to “save you” by meddling with your relationships and activities. Their end goal is to be as helpful as possible, buuut if they lose sight of this, they may become overbearing.

ISFP x ENFJ

These two love the arts. Separately, neither may be too much of an “artsy” person, but together their creativity shines. 

Benefits:

ENFJ feels as though they have someone to confide in and share secrets with. Their advice is taken seriously by their ISFP partner and the two have deep, meaningful conversations. They may find that they can relate to one another on a level that they had never experienced with any other individual before.

ISFP can be a great inspiration to the ENFJ. They are richly complicated individuals with a whole inner world of depth and character; this inner world (Fi) is fascinating to the ENFJ, and it becomes the ENFJ’s mission to figure out their partner through conversation and emotional connection.

Their Se connects intensely. They have quite literal sensuous air--a love of food, music, sights, and all things physical are enjoyed. 

ENFJ pushes ISFP to live their dreams and ISFP encourages ENFJ to relax, take a step back, and find inner peace (J pushes P, Fi stabilizes Fe)

Risks:

When they fight, they may seem completely out of synch. ISFP and ENFJ typically have different motivations, life goals, and even beliefs. If they can’t find common ground and learn to sort out their differences, they can find themselves feeling as if they’re polar opposites and entirely out of touch.

ENFJ may try to change ISFP’s beliefs or be too much of a “preacher.” ISFP may retaliate, starting fights. If ISFP does not retaliate, the relationship could “fester” and start slowly falling apart. For this reason, the ENFJ must make sure they have not crossed ISFP’s boundaries and ISFP must communicate those boundaries to ENFJ and tell them when they have been crossed.

ENFJ, if big on abstract thinking, may confuse ISFP. ISFP is very detail-oriented and may feel disconnected from their partner’s dreams of the future. 

Altogether, this couple is passionate and deep, intense and feeling, but also runs the risk of failing if the two do not communicate their boundaries and stop to try to understand one another in full. Overall, it is a compatible couple that loves the arts and self-expression!

Don’t ask if they are compatible. All types can be compatible together! 

But the general traits of the relationships are:

ISTJ brings stability to the INFP, who appreciates their hardworking, cool demeanor

INFP is the “soft,” affectionate lover that a lot of ISTJs crave. They also are full of interesting quirks--something that the healthy ISTJ will appreciate

They have a lot of potential to get on each other’s nerves, with ISTJ being very present-oriented and very organized, while INFP is very future-oriented and unorganized

They appreciate each other’s willingness to simply stay inside and enjoy quality time together

Can I retweet everything you just said? I was a bubbly, eccentric Ne child who went through puberty diving deep into a Ti-Fe funk and came out the other end being my Ne self again. Ne took a few years to get used to again, because letting it out in social environments while keeping Ti on the backburner can be difficult. 

The tendency to do that is plain unhealthy. If an ESTJ goes on self-centered monologues and ruins people’s days by doing so...well, have you ever looked up Narcissistic Personality Disorder? My mother has this and she does the same thing. 

In the last 4 years, I’ve dated an INFP, an INTJ, and now I’m dating an ESFJ. This is my personal view of ENTP with each of these types...

INFP x ENTP

INFP is a good match for ENTP if the ENTP is looking for a partner who is loyal, affectionate, unique, and accepting.

ENTP must also realize that INFP will have strong emotional outbursts from time to time, and they must not be too unprepared for it, else the relationship might come to a blinding halt. 

ENTP is a good match for INFP if INFP is looking for a partner who is quirky, passionate, fun, and interesting. 

INFP must also realize that ENTP will not be romanticizing the relationship the same way they do, and they may see it as a “growing experience” rather than a beautiful union between two individuals. ENTPs can also be rude, and if INFP is not prepared for this, the relationship may quickly come to an end. 

INFP and ENTP have amazing inside jokes and strong quality time with one another

They love watching TV shows and movies together and can talk about their similar interests for hours

Time, space, the universe, humanity’s destiny, and other “deep” and “philosophical” topics are frequently discussed

Great minds think alike. Both are likely to be intelligent, creative, possible artistic

Fun adventures that don’t get too crazy. Lots of walks in the park, bowling alleys, etc. 

INTJ x ENTP

INTJ is a good match for ENTP if ENTP is looking for a partner who is loyal, patient, level-headed, and highly motivated.

ENTP must also realize that being in a relationship with INTJ means routinizing activities, which may eventually irritate the ENTP to the point where they feel like they have to suddenly flee to reach freedom again. This is not a fairy tale romance, either; it is a pragmatic life commitment. 

ENTP is a good match for INTJ if INTJ is looking for a partner who loves to debate with them, ask them questions, and bring them out of their comfort zone--physically, emotionally, and mentally.

INTJ must also realize that ENTP’s hellbent quest for self-growth is a very strong factor in the relationship, and ENTP will want to change things up frequently. If INTJ can’t keep up, they may become frustrated to the point of leaving.

If INTJ is willing to discuss their ideas in depth, these two can have thrilling debates and conversations with one another about current events, future plans, and some philosophical discussions

Feelings are hardly ever hurt and communication between the two is typically amazing; these pairs often tell each other all of their emotions with total honesty and find a solution to the problem(s) at hand

They make a great parenting combo, with INTJ being the organizer and the ENTP being the adventure-provider

They become uncharacteristically “lovey dovey” with each other. INTJ may suddenly start to make a ton of puns, ENTP may suddenly find pet-names cute

ESFJ x ENTP

ESFJ is a good match for ENTP if the ENTP is looking for a partner who is fun, structured, loving, and excitable.

ENTP must also be aware that having a relationship with ESFJ can be challenging in that the ESFJ does not typically share ENTP’s interests, nor do they like to talk about those interests. If ENTP can’t find a way to satisfy their minds and do their hobbies, they may feel trapped and flee the relationship.

ENTP is a good match for ESFJ if ESFJ is looking for a partner who is creative, quirky, fun, and interesting.

ESFJ must also be aware that ENTP will not naturally be a very “helpful” or very affectionate partner without reminders. If they cannot find a way to accept this or work with this behaviorism, they may feel neglected and leave the relationship. 

They make a very fun combination. ENTP brings out ESFJ’s Ne, and ESFJ balances ENTP’s Fe and Si, leaving ENTP feeling “whole” and ESFJ feeling intrigued and excited

If they can achieve great communication and understanding of their differences, these two have the potential to be fantastic parents

ESFJ is the classic caregiver, ENTP is the adventure-bringer. They work together to motivate and encourage their children.

I’m pretty sure I’ve done one of these posts before, but after having dated an INTJ for over a year, I’m more of an expert now, so here we go:

How to Spot an INTJ:

They are reallllyyy confident and act like they’re absolutely fine all the time. They can have several crippling mental illnesses or just gotten dumped and they’ll still act like a king/queen. 

They are highly routinized. They may not act like what you think a J would act like on the surface; their rooms can be messes and their appearances can be tussled, but their routines and schedules are usually completely organized and it’s hard to get them to change their plans. You’ll likely notice their lives revolve around this routine if you know them well enough.

They’re quiet until they hear someone say something interesting, and then they are loud. Unlike the majority of their INTP counterparts, INTJs can do just fine being the center of attention--for short periods of time. They own that spotlight in debates and they will not pass up an opportunity to let everyone know that they know all

Look for weird jokes and twisted humor....but at the same time, a secret love of cute things. 

They always have a book with them. It’s so weird.

When online, they’re learning. Whether it’s watching an educational video or reading the news, they’re soaking up that new data. Unless they’re watching The Office...but that’s a different story

Not a ton of thought into appearance. In my experience, it takes a lot of conscious effort for an INTJ to change their wardrobe to be trendy and fashionable. They’ve probably been wearing the same types of clothes for yearssss. The INTJ males I’ve met usually wear t-shirts, running shoes, cargos/jeans, and loosely style their hair. The females tend to wear glasses/headbands/hair ties, few vibrant colors, and own maybe 2 pairs of shoes. 

Ummm...my sun sign is Virgo, moon is Gemini, rising sign is ...what, Libra? I honestly forget what rising means.

I know, the search function seems to be broken. I’m working on it.

Arsty is back...with an update. A personal update--this is not for all INTJxENTP couples (obviously!)

INTJ and I broke up after over a year of dating. When we first started dating, I thought it would be nice to have a relationship full of security and have a social life of fun to balance myself between the crazies and the serious aspects of life..but I was wrong. INTJ didn’t like my ENTP friends and hated it when I’d hang out with them. Every time I told him I was going to go join them for the evening, he’d get irritated and lecture me on how I needed to be more responsible. Yeah, my ENTP friends and I had gotten into trouble before, but we learned our lesson and kept the fun under control...

But I was committed to INTJ, so I pulled away from my friends. And they were the only friends I had, since my last friend group was lost in the last breakup with my INFP ex. So I started to feel isolated and depressed. I only got to go out when INTJ wanted to go out, and we never did anything new or exciting, even though I had told him numerous times that’s what I need in a relationship to feel happy. 

We broke up, got “back together,” and for the last 3 months we have hardly seen each other but were still calling it a “relationship.” Finally, I had to just tell him that I needed more from life. I needed my freedom, friends, and fun. I couldn’t stick around the house all week, every week, and wait for him to get done with his work, only to retire for the night before 10 pm (and I usually am up till 2 am lol).

Maybe I’ll end up with another INTJ someday in the future, but this INTJ was too high of an I and too high of a J for me, who is a high E and a high P. It just didn’t work out the way we thought it would, and that’s ok. 

I realized my mistake in the end. I had gone after INTJ originally because I knew he was an NTJ and I simply assumed we’d be perfect for each other because of MBTI compatibility. We went from strangers to partners overnight because he didn’t want to get to know me first, but I realize now that I definitely should have gotten to know him first. I may have not wanted a relationship with him.