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okay. guys, what is a hot take / take that you've been needing to or been too scared to say for the plurality community, this is a safe space for debates and opinions. (Harassment towards other people in comments WILL be deleted.)

Here's mine... Ahem..

I don't like Sophieinwonderland.

My reasons under the cut.

regardless of any stances, it is just objectively right to be against her because there a lot of Major issues

Some of y'all have spent so much time arguing online that you've lost sight of what the real problems are. Endos and whether they are real or not is not the problem. They don't even come close to being the problem.

People with CDDs commonly experience profound interpersonal difficulties, significant functional impairment, and high rates of self-harm and suicidality. That is a real problem that needs addressing. Many people with CDDs spend 5-12 years in the mental health system before receiving an accurate diagnosis, often receiving multiple misdiagnoses along the way. That's another real problem. Trauma survivors with dissociative disorders are at increased risk of experiencing further victimization. That's a huge fucking problem that I've personally experienced countless times that the anti vs pro debate never helped me with. Let's not overlook how substance use disorders are a common comorbidity. Also something I personally struggled with.

Want a source for all of this? Here you go.

Don't wanna click the link? Here's screenshots with ALT text:

You don't have to agree with someone's opinions to recognize that they deserve support. Excluding someone with a CDD from community or resources because they disagree with you about a controversial and ultimately unwinnable discourse topic doesn't make the community healthier. All you're doing is leaving one more traumatized person without a place to turn.

What caused your trauma doesn't matter in your validity as a system, only the fact you dissociated as a child to cope with it. You're valid if your trauma:

Was sexual abuse Was physical abuse Was emotional abuse Was psychological abuse Was medical abuse Was physical neglect Was emotional neglect Was medical neglect Was something other than what I have listed

If it happened and caused trauma responses, it is trauma no matter why it is there. The only reason someone should care about what caused you trauma is if they are a therapist or significant other who is trying to help you heal. You do not owe explanations to anyone.

This is the only time I will be crossing into anti endo tags because I feel like everyone should know about this person as they have sent sexually harassing material and sui bait two multiple people.

Here is this person's blog, report and move on. Don't stoop to their level of harassment

we've recently been harassed in both our messages and also they've been feeding other people's art into ai.

Tw: ai, r@pe / SA mention, sui mention

IM SCREAMIMG??? WE WERE AT A RESTAURANT WITH OUR FRIEND AND THIS WAITRESS CAME UP TO TAKE OUR ORDER AND AFTER GETTING OUR FRIEND'S ORDER SHE LOOKED RIGHT AT US AND ASKED "And what would you guys want?"

HOW DID SHE KNOW??? 😧😧

pt: com-queer - long post.

comqueer, also called communityqueer, is a blankqueer stance in which the individual holds feelings of freedom for all and radical acceptance, while also striving to keep beings of all ages safe. this blankqueer stance is very intertwined with harmless personal identities so long they do not stereotype, make fun of, or degrade other groups. example: you may be dissorace, dissoabled, etc, while also not stereotyping the groups and listening to those who actually have the traits & the community to relieve dysphoria and be considered family / proxy of that community by its members.

EMOJI COMBO: 🥂🌈

PRO:

HARMLESS PERSONAL IDENTITIES: associd / associ[x] / associx, dissomei, etc. com-queer surrounds this concept.

mogai, liom, radinclus

contradictory labels / good-faith

recovery, but shouldn't be forced upon someone who truly does not want to get better after multiple attempts at recovery

consent

bodily autonomy

rehabilitation

proper education on mental & physical health.

con"abuse" relationships (preferably with the use of a different term other than "abuse".)

non-disordered systems

self love

safe contact

coping mechanisms

yumeshipping

roleplay of any kind

protecting minors/children

mad pride

consuming dark media critically

harm reduction!!!

critically consuming media in general

realistic portrayal of abuse

de-sexualization of paraphilias (platonic, romantic, intellectual, emotional paraphilias...)

safewords in all kink/paras/etc

recognition of all mental illnesses (schizospec, cluster a, b, c, psychotic spec, neurodevelopmental disorders that isn't just ADHD or ASD, BIID, etc)

NEU:

transids (keep transids (dysphoria) related to race, able, harmed & harmful in private between close ones, and when publicly speaking of it, be objective in your experience without glorifying the experiences you have dysphoria of not having. harmless transids are free to be posted online wherever. we still encourage those with taboo IDs to use terms like dissomei and similar to be distinct from those who identify with taboo IDs for fun.)

ANTI:

abuse

harassment

pro/darkship community (1)

radqueer community (2)

ableism, saneism

"narc abuse"

stigmatization of disorders & paraphilias

"MUDs" or "medically unrecognized disorders" (3)

psych

bigotry

non-consenting acts of any kind (no matter how small!)

real incest (always csa or grooming, the internal family structure is something you cannot undo and coercion is VERY VERY common due to the power the family structure has.)

censorship

the label "thought crimes", no thought is a crime.

romanticizing abuse

xenosatanism

center wing, right wing

using sociopath, psychopath, psychotic, schizophrenic, etc in a negative context.

minors publicly in kink

agegap relationships (2+ years in child/teenhood (0-19), 3-4+ years in adulthood unless over 25/30 years old, where you are mature enough to enter any kind of relationship.)

generative ai

feel free to ask about any other stances comqueer holds. please READ everything thoroughly before asking questions.

(1) pro/darkship communities tend to publicly romanticize abuse and crimes, and while engaging in dark media isn't bad in itself, the presence of this romanticized/fetishized media in FANDOM spaces have high risk of children being groomed into pro/darkshipping, which can then permanently traumatize them. engaging in your paraphilias in private/with close friends isn't bad and even encouraged in therapy, but publicly romanticizing such will cause a lot of harm. always remember to consume dark media critically aswell! also, darkshipping MAY be damaging to your health. if it is, you should stop.

(2) radqueer as an ideology is... almost fine on its own (i.e the VERY original coining post of radqueer, aka old radqueer), but is far too vague and allows people who think chronominors can consent to chronoadults, aswell as "pro-contact" for paraphilias where one is completely unable to consent. this label was made to be VAGUELY similar to radqueer, but safer for children and fragile people to use and HEAVILY encourages consent before anything.

(3) MUDs tend to be already-defined disorders, and also tend to describe Normal Traits but make it into a disorder even though it is not inherently disordered. a lot of MUDs we see typically describe a form of Autism anyway, or any other disorder that exists. otherwise, it could also make people think that their normal traits are disordered, and waters down the meaning of "Disorder" in the first place. HOWEVER, making subtypes for disorders is fine, so long it still fits the criteria.

these opinions have been formed and curated with the help of medical professionals, psychologists, psychiatrists, psych articles, community experiences, and victims. such professionals are against forcing neurotypical standards on neurodivergents & persodivergents and general ignorance in the medical field, hence the anti-psych stance.

just because we heavily discourage public (romanticized) darkshipping doesn't mean anti-censorship opposes it. doing stupid things is legal. this goes for public romanticized darkshipping too.