Keluarga Killjoy

Here, we always talk about what should be in education, how education fails and the endless debate of what should be done. But I don’t hear a lot about why education exists. What kind of goals it should have, and why.

Maybe it’s not to turn people into docile workers for a capitalist workforce, but it should allow its subjects to create value and establish a livelihood. Maybe it shouldn’t be filled with propaganda, but that doesn’t mean you can pretend that it’s a completely neutral medium that doesn’t pass on its values, especially if those values mean, “what is truth” and “what is good”. Sure, you want students to advance based on merit, don’t you, but also be an engine to increase equality in society and increase diversity among the “worthy”, right?

The maternity pants appear similar to an athletics track bottom, with only an opening at the crotch to enable delivery. In a March 20 Facebook post promoting the product, one administrator wrote that Muslim women’s modesty was often disregarded during childbirth.

“How embarrassed would your wife be. How embarrassed would the mother of your child be. Are we to just ignore the honour and aurat of our wives just like that? Where is the honour of Muslim women?” the post read.

Like, I get it. Some Muslim women prefer to wear hijab. Some don’t. That’s cool. But what’s not cool is policing the aurat. Which is often exercised by the men-folk. And read the quote above… I’m willing to bet it was a statement by a wallahbro. 

Even if it wasn’t, honestly, don’t we Malay Muslim women have agency over our bodies? Are we supposed to be ashamed of our bodies? Is the price of our modesty more valued than our lives? Is it so terrible that we give birth through our vaginas that it must MUST be obscured? I mean, this is LIFE, you know. This is NATURE. I simply cannot fathom how anyone could sexualise the vagina whilst a baby is being born out of it. I cannot brain any of this at all.

That’s putting it mildly.

were-cow‘s first ob/gyn was a woman, and while she was very good at what she did and we would have loved to have her again, unfortunately she wasn’t available for #2 due to illness. So we got a ob/gyn who was a man, and he did just as well.

The thing is, the root of the problem isn’t so much the fact that there is a shortage of women doctors in the ob/gyn space — there are plenty of women, but there are men who are interested in ob/gyn as well — as there is this creeping rigidity about how Muslims are supposed to interpret the rules of religion.

Let’s be clear here — the religion I was raised in prided itself in being adaptable and pragmatic in how religious rules were enforced, and it was drilled to me how the rules could be bent and even foregone if the end result of following the rules was harm to the Muslim. So the male doctor who is assigned to you needs to take a look at your birth canal in order to ensure your health? If he can’t see it he can’t make his diagnosis? Then let him, because God is All-Forgiving and All-Merciful.

The maternity pants appear similar to an athletics track bottom, with only an opening at the crotch to enable delivery. In a March 20 Facebook post promoting the product, one administrator wrote that Muslim women’s modesty was often disregarded during childbirth.

“How embarrassed would your wife be. How embarrassed would the mother of your child be. Are we to just ignore the honour and aurat of our wives just like that? Where is the honour of Muslim women?” the post read.

The promotion then described the pants as one that covers the aforementioned body parts, with enough space just for the “baby to make its way out.”

It never ceases to amaze me the extraordinary lengths Malay-Muslims in Malaysia would go through to prove their piety to God. I’m starting to feel that the only way to make these wallahbros and their kins happy is to erase women altogether. Also, it does not escape my attention the fact that there’s money to be made here as well (a lot like the supposedly “scientific anti-hysteria kit” which costs a cool RM9000).

Like, I get it. Some Muslim women prefer to wear hijab. Some don’t. That’s cool. But what’s not cool is policing the aurat. Which is often exercised by the men-folk. And read the quote above… I’m willing to bet it was a statement by a wallahbro. 

Even if it wasn’t, honestly, don’t we Malay Muslim women have agency over our bodies? Are we supposed to be ashamed of our bodies? Is the price of our modesty more valued than our lives? Is it so terrible that we give birth through our vaginas that it must MUST be obscured? I mean, this is LIFE, you know. This is NATURE. I simply cannot fathom how anyone could sexualise the vagina whilst a baby is being born out of it. I cannot brain any of this at all.

That’s putting it mildly.

were-cow‘s first ob/gyn was a woman, and while she was very good at what she did and we would have loved to have her again, unfortunately she wasn’t available for #2 due to illness. So we got a ob/gyn who was a man, and he did just as well.

The thing is, the root of the problem isn’t so much the fact that there is a shortage of women doctors in the ob/gyn space — there are plenty of women, but there are men who are interested in ob/gyn as well — as there is this creeping rigidity about how Muslims are supposed to interpret the rules of religion.

Let’s be clear here — the religion I was raised in prided itself in being adaptable and pragmatic in how religious rules were enforced, and it was drilled to me how the rules could be bent and even foregone if the end result of following the rules was harm to the Muslim. So the male doctor who is assigned to you needs to take a look at your birth canal in order to ensure your health? If he can’t see it he can’t make his diagnosis? Then let him, because God is All-Forgiving and All-Merciful.

The maternity pants appear similar to an athletics track bottom, with only an opening at the crotch to enable delivery. In a March 20 Facebook post promoting the product, one administrator wrote that Muslim women’s modesty was often disregarded during childbirth.

“How embarrassed would your wife be. How embarrassed would the mother of your child be. Are we to just ignore the honour and aurat of our wives just like that? Where is the honour of Muslim women?” the post read.

Like, I get it. Some Muslim women prefer to wear hijab. Some don’t. That’s cool. But what’s not cool is policing the aurat. Which is often exercised by the men-folk. And read the quote above… I’m willing to bet it was a statement by a wallahbro. 

Even if it wasn’t, honestly, don’t we Malay Muslim women have agency over our bodies? Are we supposed to be ashamed of our bodies? Is the price of our modesty more valued than our lives? Is it so terrible that we give birth through our vaginas that it must MUST be obscured? I mean, this is LIFE, you know. This is NATURE. I simply cannot fathom how anyone could sexualise the vagina whilst a baby is being born out of it. I cannot brain any of this at all.

That’s putting it mildly.

(via Lakota Warriors Vow to Crush Dirty Rainbow Hippies - The Daily Beast)

i am laughing so hard about this.  this is what it looks like when white rainbow kids who claim to be all about native spirituality and respecting the land and blah blah blah, run into some real ass native folks…

In summer of 2014, the Rainbow Family gathered at Uinta National Forest in Utah, prompting a nearby summer camp for Mormon girls to scatter. “You’re a rainbow family. He’s a rainbow family. People in the White House are a rainbow family,” one reveler named Novel announced when he arrived.

“It’s about world peace,” Novel told FOX 13 in Salt Lake City. “But I personally believe it’s like a very excellent place to meet people, to network, to become the true you.”

But by the end of the event, a woman with black dreadlocks whose hippy name is “Hitler” had stabbed a man in the head and shoulder.

White people, spoiling everything, not doing what they say.

Here’s the petition, by the way. It’s got some of the best language I’ve seen on a petition, frankly:

I will say this! I have met a bunch of you and do find some of you to be legit! Friendly and supportive to those I offer an apology for my aggressiveness & language! but that’s what it took to get your attention.”The greasy wheel gets the grease” As far as the rest of you who show no respect! You can burn in hell for all I care! I can handle it and encourage it! Bring whatever you think you got! Not saying I would win or lose but I will stand my ground! No matter what! We have no fear!

So in closing all we are asking is to take your event somewhere else! Your ways are not ours and we don’t want to share our ways with you “Spiritually” I have no problem excepting some of you as friends! Or standing with you on political or environmental issues! But I am a Lakota! You are not us and we are not you! Respect that! Stop imposing yourself on us! If you want us to respect you as you are then respect us as we are!

I wasn’t planning on have a full rant, but I am seriously triggered by Maya Tan’s"opinion" on people with Tourette’s. I don’t give a fuck that she’s “apologised” - I think she apologised not because she was wrong (itupun she “apologised” by proxy), but because so many people are giving her a hard time for it. People like Maya Tan need to understand something - not all of us are lucky or privileged enough to be born perfect or beautiful.

To be fair, she is not really the person I am angry with. I am angry with so many folks here in general because of our horrible and ignorant attitude towards mental illness and disability. My older brother has autism, and I grew up watching people behaving like he shouldn’t even be let out of the house, much less breathe the same air. I get it - he’s not as “normal” as you lot, but don’t you think he deserves to access the same spaces as you do? Don’t you think he deserves to be treated like a human being as well?

I’ve been living away from Malaysia for eight years. Since I came home, I had to deal with some readjustments. Everyone thinks my readjustment has to dowith the food and weather. Guess what? My readjustment has a lot to with the seriously fucked up mentality that we have going here, ranging from the blatant racism (“oh it’s okay to use the N-word to describe African/black people… it’s not like in the UK where it’s not allowed”) to misogyny to Malay male privilege bullshit to prejudice towards refugees to patronising the Orang Asli for their beliefs to ableism. The sheer arrogance of the privileged and entitled is staggering.

Malaysia - a country made for only the beautiful, rich, fair-skinned, and perfect. I wish you all well.