“For Who Could Ever Learn To Love A Beast”

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(I was gonna make a post about why I might be neurodivergent but I figured it'd be going a bit too personal. Also this is just easier)

(ADHD is much more nuanced and complex than I may make it appear in this post. A lot of ADHD people don't have a lot of these traits or have traits not mentioned here. For example there are three types of ADHD (inattentive, hyperactive and combined) and most inattentive adhders are not going to be hyperactive lol)

Warning: badly worded (I'm stupid that's my excuse). also I'll go on personal rants as to how some of these may apply to me (whilst I can reasonate with each point listed here I won't go on a rat on all of these)

Physical hyperactivity (inability to sit/stand still (I used to think this meant that people with ADHD were incapable of. Sitting down (while constantly fidgeting or not) for one whole class)(I was an idiot)(I still am)). (Just overall constant , movement (I might have it idk I'm ALWAYS

Excessive talking

Stimming, fidgeting, general and overall repetitive movements (such as flapping hands, pacing, clasping hands together, etc)

Low attention span regarding things that don't garner much interest to you

More likely to be autistic, have anxiety or depression (or generally have other diagnostic conditions)

Ability to Hyperfocus on specific things, at times out of their control

More likely to have a lower Performance in school that most people

Proneness to addiction

Rejection sensitive dysphoria/RSD (really sensitive and afraid to rejection or criticism or disapproval or stuff like that. I'm questioning if I have it and I'm pretty sure I do bc i would have a whole breakdown bc i accidentally had a bad unintentional thought about this cool person I didn't want to hate me)(it's complicated)

Emotional disregulation (easily irritable, excited, stressed, stronger emotions, more likely to lash out, etc)(people with this are usually described to be much more emotional)

restless leg syndrome (except it's permanent lol)

Lower memory spans regarding most things

Forgetting to fulfill basic needs (such as eating, drinking, showering, etc)

Women/AFAB people are more likely to be diagnosed with inattentive ADHD (this of course does not rucking mean afab people can't b hyperactive my god)

Mental hyperactivity (racing/constant/overlapping/repetitive thoughts or stuff like that)

Impulsivity (doing stuff without thinking them fully though or not knowing why)

Sensory issues (sensitivity to sensory output such as noise, brightness, etc)

Easily bored/underwhelmed/understimulated - more likely to want to seek constant dopamine (due to l

Easily overwhelmed (whether itd be due to aforementioned sensory issues, emotional disregulation, rsd or stuff like that)

More likely to be perceived as "childish" (from what I've heard obviously this and many other things listed here don't apply to everyone)

Executive dysfunction (can't do shit at all)(ok it's more complicated than that just Google it up or something)

Having Hyperfixations (things you're DEEPLY invested in for a period of time, it can be a few days, weeks, months, sometimes more than a year, depends rly)(I'm still questioning if I'm neurodivergent but like I'm pretty sure I was in a DEEP hyperfixation mode when it came to sonic for like. A YEAR. like I literally it was literally the only thing on my brain the only thing in my life. and I would get realllytyy excited about learning obscure information about it or infodumping and I would flap my hands bc of how excited and passionate I was Abt it)(man I miss the times when I was so passionate about stuff I liked it was so fun :(( )

Higher/lower levels of empathy (I've seen this moreso been brought up with discussions regarding autism but I've also seen it brought up with ADHD itself too)

Lower levels of dopamine

Impatience

More likely to be a maladaptive daydreamer

Its cause is usually heavily genetic (meaning if your family or a family member has ADHD, you are more likely to have ADHD yourself)

More likely to have insomniac/have general problems with sleep (I'm questioning ADHD. I'm writing this like... Five hours before I'm supposed to wake up for school. Great.)

There is also a higher relevance between ADHD and PTSD

If I missed something important let me know!! Also if you don't know some of he

This post is not meant to be used as a substitute for self nor professional diagnosis, though if you feel like you might have ADHD because of this post I recommend further research and conversations with trusted advisors such as parental figures or therapists/doctors (not me not listening to my own advice)(<- that was me regarding my latter advice)(I'm too scared to tell my parents about it man)(idk why)

Things to note:

ADHD is not just about little elementary school hyperactive white boys !!

There's a lot of things I mightve missed

Not everyone with ADHD has all these traits (obviously)

Some of these traits may be common due to the commonness of ADHD + autism overlap (idk though)

Apparently it's one of the most diagnosed forms of neurodivergence in kids (about 7-10% of kids in the USA are diagnosed with ADHD)(APPARENTLY idk)

to speak before starting your day! ❂

These aren’t exactly spells, I’d label them more as pocket chants. They work by manifestation, which is why I gave them the name “blessing”. You can direct them at yourself or at another.

The brackets indicate a space where you can insert the name of a deity you revere. I’ve already attributed each day to a specific type of deity, but you’re free to change it up or straight up forego the deity name part if you don’t worship any. You could also fill that space with the name of a land spirit any other being you are working with!

Monday: Lady Moon, Great Protector, cast upon me your glorious light in the wake this new cycle. May my senses by sharp and my choices wise, by the grace of [moon deity]!

Tuesday: On this day I stand my ground, I am rooted in the earth and unwavering. May I overcome any and all trials, by the might of [war deity]!

Wednesday: Today is a time of transition, I am fluid and I adapt. May I prosper and learn, may I be guided by the astronomical movements and the wisdom of [wednesday deity, for example Odin or Hermes].

Thrusday: May fortune come my way on this day, and my luck be increased. I am powerful and patient, I am the master of my success, by the glory of [sky god, for example Thór or Zeus].

Friday: May this day be harmonious, my physical body be healed and my mind be at peace. I care for myself and others around me, with the blessing of beautiful [love deity].

Saturday: May I be protected this day, may my power thrive and push all darkness away. Under the rule of Saturn and [magic deity], I put up a shield around myself and those I love.

Sunday: I am reborn today, for another cycle to start. As I bathe in its holy golden rays, may the sun bless me with hope and success. I honor and celebrate [solar deity] on this day!

(Note that this is not the full list, but I will add safe crystals at the end)

Of course, it is okay to wear these crystals, but do not use them in elixirs or put them in water.

* Abalone: Organic material. May contain bacteria or pollutants/toxic materials from the water in which it was grown.

* Actinolite: May contain asbestos. Not for use in elixirs.

* Adamite: Contains arsenic

* Amazonite: lead and radiation

* Angelite: Converts to Gypsum when immersed in water.

* Aquamarine: Contains aluminum

* Azurite: Large amounts of copper

* Bastnaesite: Contains toxic elements which can react in contact with water.

* Brazilianite: Contains Aluminum. Not recommended to use in its raw form.

* Black tourmaline: radioactive

* Boji-stones (aka Moqui Balls,Shaman Stone, Shamanic Star Stone): Contains sulphur, pyrite and/or marcasite

* Bumble Bee Jasper (aka Bumblebee): Contains anhydrite, hematite, sulfur, arsenic. Care should be taken – polished stones typically have a protective coating. Wash hands after holding. Do not touch hands to eyes or mouth while holding. Not for use in elixirs.

* Chalcopyrite (peacock stone): Contains copper and sulphur

* Chrysocolla: Contains high levels of copper. Safe for handling but not for use in elixirs.

* Cinnabar: Contains mercury. Wash hands after holding. Do not touch hands to eyes or mouth while holding. Not for use in elixirs.

* Covellite: Contains copper and sulphur

* Crocoite: Contains poisonous/toxic levels of Chromium. Do not touch hands to eyes or mouth while holding. Not for use in elixirs.

* Cuprite: Contains poisonous/toxic levels of copper. Wash hands after holding. Do not touch hands to eyes or mouth while holding. Not for use in elixirs.

* Dioptase: Contains high levels of copper. Safe for handling but not for use in elixirs.

* Fluorite: Fluorine, dissolves in water

* Galena: Contains lead. Not for use in elixirs.

* Gem Silica: Contains high levels of copper. Safe for handling but not for use in elixirs.

* Lapis Lazuli: Contains Pyrite inclusions, which contain Sulphur.

* Labradorite: Aluminum

* Iolite: Contains aluminum

* Malachite: Contains poisonous/toxic levels of copper. Polished stones typically have a protective coating. Not for use in elixirs.

* Marcasite: Exposure to oxygen may form a white powdery residue which is poisonous/toxic Sulfuric Acid. If this occurs, do not touch or wear next to skin. Not for use in elixirs.

* Mohawkite: Contains copper and Arsenic

* Orpiment: Contains HIGHLY TOXIC levels of Arsenic. Wash hands after use, keep away from CHILDREN!! Do not put hands near eyes or mouth before washing hands. Not for use in elixirs.

* Paragasite: Contains Aluminum. Not recommended for elixirs.

* Pietersite: Fibrous form contains asbestos

* Pyrite: may contain intermixed Marcasite. The Marcasite with time and exposure to oxygen, may form a white powdery residue which is poisonous/toxic Sulfuric Acid. If this occurs, do not touch or wear next to skin. Not recommended for Elixirs.

* Realgar: Contains HIGHLY TOXIC levels of Arsenic. Wash hands after use, keep away from CHILDREN!! Do not put hands near eyes or mouth before washing hands. Not for use in elixirs.

* Serpentine: Fibrous form contains asbestos. Wash hands after use. Not for use in elixirs.

* Smithsonite: Contains zinc and may contain copper (green Smithsonite). Safe for handling but not for use in elixirs.

* Stibnite: Contains lead and antimony. Not for use in elixirs

* Tiger Eye: Fibrous form contains asbestos. Raw forms not for use in elixirs.

* Torbenite: Radioactive

* Tremolite: Fibrous form contains asbestos. Wash hands after use. Not for use in elixirs.

* Turquoise: Contains high levels of copper and Aluminum. Safe for handling but not for use in elixirs.

* Ulexite: Contains toxic Boron.

* Unakite: Contains Aluminum and may also contain Zirconium (Radioactive).

* Vanadinite: Contains poisonous Vanadium.

* Wulfenite: Contains lead and molybdenum. Safe for handling but not for use in elixirs.

* Zircon: Contains zirconium (Radioactive)

Crystals you can’t go wrong with:

* Clear Quartz

* Rose Quartz

* Amethyst

* Smokey Quartz

* Citrine

* Agate

So basically most quartz and agate are fine-

If you’re not quite ready to make the jump, there is a podcast you can listen to as well as articles and links to help answer some of your questions about mental health and/or therapy.

The purpose, as I understand it, is to provide a place where black women can go to find culturally sensitive therapy. Some specialize in family/couples as well.

Taking care of your mental health is another important factor in your overall health. Fighting for good mental health is a fight worth doing, and is just as difficult, if not moreso, than physical fighting.