Motivational phrases

Work for goals.

If we ask the people which are the most important goals in their life, what would they respond ?. Despite the fact that many people have not yet defined them, there will be people who will work to make their families live comfortably, have unlimited economic resources that allow them to have their own home, travel wherever they want, etc. But what would happen if we had desires not shared by most people, but were nevertheless powerful enough to prompt us to take immediate action regardless of the obstacles to be overcome? I do not mean illegal wishes here. I speak of wishes such as becoming people with unlimited economic resources that allow us to afford laboratory equipment for scientific experiments. We would surely believe that in exposing our ideas to other people we would expose ourselves to ridicule and incomprehension, so that we see ourselves living an empty and meaningless existence. Studying the lives of great men like Nikola Tesla, Gandhi and Tomas Edison who conceived revolutionary ideas for their times, we will realize that in exposing their ideas, they experienced rejection and ridicule on the part of the people. However, they had the courage, courage and determination to work with perseverance to see their dreams come true. It is because of this type of people that have given most of the social, technological and cultural advances that allow us to live much better than our ancestors.

A few days ago reading a book on sexually transmitted diseases and particularly the terrible HIV, the author spoke among other things of the dangers of having multiple sexual partners and the desirability of being completely abstainers in sex (at the time when Wrote the book, apart from being recent the discovery of the virus, did not have much information about it), that we let ourselves be dominated by our impulses so that we do not have to think about our daily problems or a possible solution.

Unfortunately the solution that the author puts, from my particular point of view does not solve the problem because even if we applied abstention to sex, we would not have the problematic solutions that we are supposed to know how to handle, such as getting more money, calming The bad temperament, how to react to provocations, to mention only a few.

What aggravates the situation is the apathy of people in some cases friends or colleagues of ours who do not know many times to advise us or that on the whole only encourage us to "want to" the matter. However, we should not let ourselves be led by "advice" like these knowing also that they come from people who are in a situation similar or worse than ours.

All these feelings slow us down or delay all our goals set in our life. For example in my particular case I imagined myself in another situation and doing other things in reaching these heights of life, but it was not possible for the reasons explained above; Which leads to a very great degree of frustration at not having met the goals set for more than two decades.

It is important to master the mind in order not to lose track and correct the mistakes made in the past. Enjoying the present moment is one of the keys to not feeling frustrated. Trying to embrace everything that was not done in many years is not the best idea. For this we must write our way and visualize ourselves in 5 or 10 years. If we believe that it is a very large time interval, try to extend it to 1 year and even to 6 months.

Try to convince the mind how good we realized in time of our situation and not everything is lost. There is a solution in the years that we still have. Maybe we should act with a little more speed in our race against time, but that all this does not deprive us of the importance of the pleasure of living.

Something very important is also not thinking about the past and all the good that could have done this or that, since we will precipitate in a spiral of depression of which it will be difficult to escape with the consequent loss of time that to be depressed takes.

Among the many values ​​that our society through our parents and educators have instilled in us since childhood and to which they have given a high value is that of Freedom. In addition to having all expressed our desire to achieve it in one way or another, our rulers and politicians urge us to fight to be free. Although many of us have an opinion on the subject, we know little about it. For that reason, we will now see a brief description of the meaning of the word, the importance of being free and advice to think independently.

A definition of Freedom given by the dictionary is: Faculty and right of people to choose responsibly their own way of acting within a society. According to the above and in our own words, being free is: believing to be able to do what each of us considers correct, that moves us, makes us happy or provides us with great satisfaction, as long as we respect the rights of third parties people.

However, for us to be able to act autonomously and independently, it is important to know how to think without preconceived ideas and prejudices learned from third parties, books, magazines, media, etc. Otherwise our apparent freedom will be reduced to moving geographically (around our city or traveling anywhere in the world), to think in a certain way, but always doomed to do what others want us to do and that will be at odds with The very definition of the term. However with all the mountain of information, advertising and media around us, it seems very difficult not to say impossible to think independently and act accordingly. In addition, the opinions of other people have more weights than our true desires; Our education, our religion and our ideas and feelings do the rest of the work.

That is why when people think that freedom in many cases they deceive themselves because as we saw earlier we are slaves of feelings and it is difficult to be really free and very comfortable to settle for following the path that other people choose.

If we are the kind of people who like to go in favor of the current hoping to please everyone it will be fine to leave things as they are. On the other hand, if we want to make our own decisions to reach our goals and we would like to have our own criteria, we must strive and prepare ourselves to withstand the pressure of wanting to be different.

Among the advantages of being free are not being mere puppets that others use at will to satisfy their desires and / or needs, but we will be able to write a plan of life in which the goals will give us long-term satisfaction, Minimizing the risk that later in life we ​​regret not having acted according to what we really wanted.

 The first step that will lead us to think autonomously will be to write a list of goals and goals that we believe will give us happiness. We must avoid clearly harmful and harmful desires for ourselves as well as for third persons or actions that go against the laws and good customs since ignoring this can lead to the total loss of our freedom, which is contrary to our objective.

For each of our goals, we will draw up a list of advantages and disadvantages in order to evaluate whether or not the

And question whether the disadvantages are due to prejudices that our parents or society has been instilling us, but that do not necessarily benefit us.

These tips will not be of much use if we do not immediately execute our plan. The key is to have a burning desire to carry out what we have set ourselves. An effective exercise that will help us grow this burning desire is to perform the following exercise: imagine for a moment that we have already achieved our goals. Once this is done, close your eyes and visualize ourselves and identify our way of walking, of seeing the world, our way of feeling, of thinking and how we treat others.

 So we must be tenacious, persistent and keep in mind that what we want is in the medium and long term; So small actions will lead to freedom.