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a lot of transfems because of general societal transmisogyny get a pernicious brainworm that their sexuality is inherently predatory and abusive, and this can be made significantly worse after a scene where they're acting as the domme, especially after the emotional crash when it all finishes

so once you're in a mental state to do so (i personally know whenever i sub i take a good 5-10 minutes to be coherent enough to speak again), please please please reassure your domme that you wanted what she did to you and you enjoyed it all, and that your plays at resistance or stopping her were part of the moment and you would have safeworded if it did go wrong. seriously, it helps a lot to be able to hear that directly from the horse's mouth

and even if you do need to call a safeword, once you're emotionally recovered from whatever triggered you enough to need that, your domme is likely panicking that she hurt you permanently and you're going to abandon her and it is always worth reassuring that no, you still love her, accidents happen, things aren't always perfect.

Don't date thirty-year-olds until you are at least 25.

Having a glass of water for every glass of alcohol will give you a 50% reduction in hangover viciousness.

Bad people will use your willingness to be quiet as a weapon against you. If someone's being awful to you and trusting you'll be quiet to keep from making waves, surprise them.

There is no physical object in the world that is worth as much as your honor.

Honor is not the same as dignity. Retaining one sometimes means leaving the other aside.

Don't have any sex you don't want to have; have as much as you want of the sex that you do, whether that's a lot, a little, or none at all. Nothing you can do to your own body is immoral, unless you're doing it as an act of self-punishment.

Food is morally neutral. You do not have to earn the right to eat calories. Fat and sugar keep your brain from eating itself.

Learning to sit still and breathe--in, in, in, hold, hold, hold, out, out, out, out, out, out--can give you five feet of clear space around yourself in a maelstrom.

Find out how to make three good meals: A comfort meal you can make for just yourself relatively easily, a fancy meal you can use to wow a date, and a meal you can feed a bunch of people. All the other cooking can come later, but you can build a community on those three meals.

what's your thoughts on spp (if you have played)?

Hi! Thank you so much <3 <3 <3 <3 :D

ooh... thoughts on 7pp... I have so many. But in general they are "7PP IS A GREAT GAME AND EVERYONE SHOULD PLAY RIGHT NYOWWWW 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️"

It really makes you feel wizard-y.

In game, you get to have the grand sense of power as a wizard. There's powerful magic at your fingertips, people respect and/or fear you, etc. But you also have the crushing responsibility of ruling 1/7th of the world, you are subject to strict societal pressure (both which can uplift you or destroy you), and you never have enough time to do everything you want. It's such a tasty balance and statement on the patriarchy+cycles of power.

(Something to be aware of is that the world this takes place in is bigoted. Your wizard cannot openly be a woman, or queer, or let their disabilities disable them, which is not fun for everyone. Your wizard can be diverse, but you have to think about how someone who doesn't fit within societal norms would have to navigate their life)

On the player side, you start to realize that the text can be heavily biased and contradictory. For example, there's a great analogy of wizard magic being art but witch magic being craft (even tho they're both magic. it's the patriarchy!!!). It's really fun picking the text apart to draw your own conclusions.

Another thing I enjoy is how lore is set up. You're given enough to go off with and then can expand upon it yourself. In fact, it's encouraged. There are different player roles specifically for a section of world building (for example, one player is in charge of society and npcs, another is in charge of nature, ect). I've heard someone say that 7pp is not gm-less, but instead gm-full. And I really like that description because you always have something to do as a player when you aren't being your wizard.

i recently experienced some pretty severe transphobic abuse in my workplace (children’s home) that included having food thrown at me, being called slurs, being told i was a pervert because i am trans. one of the managers talked with me afterwards and shared that he had had a similar experience as an Asian man. this wasn’t him derailing my experience, or talking over me, or making things about himself. he was communicating “hey, i know how it feels and how much it sucks. you’re not alone.”

THAT is what solidarity IS. i don’t know what it’s like to be Asian, he doesnt know what it’s like to be trans, but we both had a similar experience and we were able to turn a horrible experience into an opportunity for bonding and comfort.

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/sjgames/seven-part-pact

I think trans mascs do experience sexual violence and there should be spaces where they can discuss it without their masculinity being invalidated. I know that’s something I would have benefited from when I was assaulted.

But that’s not what this is. It does not exist to uplift transmasculine people because it explicitly allows and encourages cis men to post, it is not meant to uplift transmasculine people because they are only allowed to post about abuse that fits the narrative of the blog (transmascs victimized by transfems)

And it does not uplift transmasculine people because ultimately the goal is not actually to support transmasc victims of sexual violence.

Trans men and TME nonbinary people deserve better than this fucking transmisogynistic propaganda blog.