Life is too short to do that

Sex is not essential. You can live without it. Full stop.

Not having sex isn't shameful or a sign of failure. It also doesn't make anyone boring.

You are not entitled to having sex with anybody and nobody is entitled to having sex with you.

Sex is not what makes someone an adult.

Nobody's worth is defined by how much sex they have or don't have.

Sex is not equally important to everyone.

You can have fulfilling and happy relationships without sex.

You should only have sex on your own terms, not because you feel like you owe it to someone, or because you feel like you'd be incomplete without it.

Know your boundaries around sex and be firm about them. Know how to respect other people's boundaries.

The previous point also applies when it comes to discussing sex. If someone doesn't wanna talk about it or hear about it you have to back down.

My nigga....

YOU ARE!

YOU HAVE A CLOUD ON YOUR SCALP!!!

Transandrophobia is real. It is documented. It is the discrimination, shaming, harassment, and alienation specifically faced by trans men and transmasculine individuals.

This is not a hierarchy. This is not an attack on trans women. This is a data point.

Trans men face systemic discrimination before, during, and after transition. The visibility paradox means that as they become less visible as queer, they do not become less oppressed—the oppression just changes shape.

Trans men are routinely shamed, told to "reflect on their misogyny," and dismissed simply for being male. This shaming impacts mental health, self-image, and access to care.

Radical feminists and trans feminists who dismiss transandrophobia need to reflect. The problem is not feminism. The problem is specific actors who have decided that transmisogyny is the only axis of trans oppression worth naming. Both things are true.

Trans women face transmisogyny.

Trans men face transandrophobia.

Acknowledging one does not erase the other.

The silencing of transmasculine voices follows documented patterns:

"You're not really oppressed, you're just men now."

"Your trauma doesn't count."

"You're betraying womanhood."

"Be quiet and listen to transfems."

These are not neutral statements. These are silencing mechanisms.

Trans men deserve to be heard and seen—not as a threat, not as traitors, but as people navigating a specific, intersectional form of oppression.

This Pride Month, I am not asking you to celebrate them.

I am asking you to stop erasing them.

Listen. Believe. Reflect.

Then do better.

— Dr. Kusuke Saiki

PS. I have sources:

https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-031-49509-2_9

https://thesocietypages.org/girlwpen/2011/09/21/transgender-employment-experiences/

https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-030-12633-9_9

https://www.newstatesman.com/ideas/2025/02/transfeminism-radical-feminism-toryn-glover-essays

You eat up all their talking points. You say that pedophiles aren't real and age of consent laws are wrong. You fearmonger about babytrapping in response to people with uteruses who are afraid of dying due to abortion bans, and then call those things equivalent. You equate circumcision with FGM. (I am against both, but the former is NOT equivalent to the latter). You insult trans men with slurs referring to their genitals and call them bitches and cunts. You fearmonger about "men" who are "invading women's spaces," except instead of trans women, you mean trans men.

I see folks say stuff like "trans men weaponize their agab or access their feminity/womanhood only when its convenient or to attack women" and obviously no one should be attacking women or anybody. but is this trans man actually "weaponizing his agab" or surreptitiously accessing his "womanhood" to gain social favor, or is feminity just a part of him the way feminity is a part of every human being, and masculinity too?

Oh, but had the artisan who made me created me instead – a worthy woman... ...I would say "how lucky am I"

Father in heaven who did miracles for our ancestors with fire and water... ...Who would then transform me from a man to woman? Were I only to have merited this being so graced by goodness...

What shall I say? why cry or be bitter? If my father in heaven has decreed upon me and has maimed me with an immutable deformity then I do not wish to remove it. the sorrow of the impossible is a human pain that nothing will cure and for which no comfort can be found. So, I will bear and suffer until I die and wither in the ground. Since I have learned from our tradition that we bless both, the good and the bitter I will bless in a voice hushed and weak: blessed are you [HaShem] who has not made me a woman.

You don’t have up agree with every trans woman about everything, but you shouldn’t bring out the transphobic rhetoric just because you disagree with a trans woman. That’s just gross and wrong.

And sometimes, you become fat. Something happened (puberty, change in diet, change in ability, anything) and someone who was once skinny is now fat. This doesnt make you a failure. It just means ur fat now. Its okay. You didnt do something wrong.