Official Jace Lei

I’m going to assume you mean coming out to friends, not family. You shouldn’t ever be afraid to be yourself, be proud. Being gay, lesbian, trans, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, etc… isn’t something you should have to hide. Don’t let the fear of the opinions of others determine who you are. What is important is you know who you are. Some of your friends may not take it well. You may lose friends, I won’t lie. I did, and some later apologized. I would rather live being myself over carrying the burden of hiding it. You don’t need to fit in. You need to be true to yourself. If everyone ‘fit it’ everyone would be nearly the same…and wouldn’t that be a boring place to live? We couldn’t grow. We couldn’t learn.

Actually coming out to a person, in the beginning,  is a high stress and high anxiety thing. I understand how sickening that feels. I would suggest to sit down with your closest friends. Tell them that you need to talk with them and ask them please not to interrupt and listen to you all the way through. Tell them that you are worried it will affect your friendship. Tell them that it doesn’t change anything about you. You’re still the same person that you were when you first met and even up to the moments right before you told them. Let them ask you questions and just be honest. You may actually be surprised by how well some people take it.

If you have any LGBT friends, talk with them first because I’m sure they will be the first ones to accept you. It will help build up the courage to tell others. You’ll start to feel more confidant and coming out will eventually be easy. If you don’t have any LGBT friends, try to look for LGBT groups in your area. Try looking for an online LGBT forum where you can communicate with others and feel accepted there.  

I really hope this helped you. If you need anything else, please don’t hesitate to come back and I’ll try my best to help.