Gnight poggers and champers 👍🏻

idk man when i was a kid i remember a lot of adults saying "if you can read and follow directions, you can cook" so i was like yes i can do these two things. doesn't seem that hard. and it wasn't! so it just always surprises me when i see people of any age who are capable of reading and following directions bemoaning how impossibly hard cooking is. like i know i'm always on this hobbyhorse but it just seems like a lot of people have never developed basic life skills and instead of going "oh wow that's embarrassing, i should learn and catch up" they instead get defensive and turn it into a learned-helplessness thing where they CAN'T POSSIBLY be expected to learn something that's SOOOO HARD. and suddenly somehow we're the oppressors for thinking it's weird that a grown adult can't grill themselves a cheese.

At some point the gaps in your knowledge/abilities become your responsibility. Someone may have neglected to teach you or let you practice a skill, but when you are a grown adult the initiative to learn is on you. Keeping yourself stuck in a state of helplessness over the discomfort of making up a deficit becomes a choice you're making, and it's one that hurts you in the long run.

Shout out to the phrase “I’m going to become the joker” for capturing a very specific and real emotion

common advice for social anxiety is to tell yourself "people aren't going to think less of you just because you said something a bit daft" but the thing is. sometimes they will. and you just have to learn to be cool with that and to treat it as a dnd random encounter rather than letting it ruin your whole day

Genuine question: Why aren't people in the U.S. calling the massive influx of homelessness and encampments Trumptowns like they called shanty towns and encampments Hoovervilles during the Great Depression? Why aren't we trying to embarrass him for HIS policy failures in 2020 that lead to spikes in homelessness? Why aren't we actively talking about them more and reminding everyone who cut federal funds for non-profits, local governments, and other groups doing the work to support and help people experiencing homelessness?

we don't hate J.J. Abrams enough

we should learn to speak in a language that rich people who don't dream can't comprehend

What helped me write trauma better is remembering that the nervous system learns predictions. If danger used to come after quiet, calm can feel threatening. If kindness used to come with a price, kindness can feel suspicious. So healing is not just “they know they’re safe now.” Healing is the slow, annoying, deeply unfair process of teaching the body that the old prediction is not always the present truth.

Certified Anti-Microsoft post

computah show me a way out that isn’t through

Ngl I totally forgot fandom discourse was a thing. I don’t care man, I have car payments

why is it so hot. why is it so hot. I am being punished.