The Beauty Underneath

whenever someone talks about how (cis) men & (cis) women supposedly have this huge gap in their consumption of pornography im always like. well does that include erotica. does it include fanfiction. because im betting when you include the kinds of porn that are known to be more popular with cis women the difference would be a lot different. almost like a lot of our data around porn is heavily influenced by cultural attitudes and constructs

also neither consumption of traditional porn nor erotica/fanfic/gay furry artists on bluesky are respected or valued by society. but it's funny how with traditional porn it's demonized via "it takes advantage of men's inherent predilection for Evil Sex Thoughts!! if men see people having sex too many times they'll Lose Control and turn into violent rapists because of Horny Schizophrenia!!!!" and with erotica it's "it takes advantage of women's poor stupid baby brains and TRICKS them into being horny for anything but the tender marital embrace of a god-fearing white husband!!! It BRAINWASHES women into HAVING DESIRES!!!!!!" because no gender is actually allowed to have a normal relationship with sex and masturbation. our anxieties around sexuality reallllyyyy highlight how we are taught to interpret gender and sex

hey don't cry. one day jk rowling and elon musk will be dead. also donald trump and jd vance. oh and vladimir putin. all dead.

#kind of a milf reblog

How the hell could I possibly explain this post to somebody not on tumblr

no one wants to hear it but love is earned after the initial infatuation. commitment is something u both mutually agree to and then from there it’s work. it’s not work like it’s a chore it’s jus work like it takes effort. to get good at these things takes practice. it takes practice to learn to communicate better and it takes practice to learn to love each other in the ways u need to be loved.