To all those questioning if you're intersex
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you have PCOS
It's valid to call yourself intersex if the diagnosis you have isn't on one of the standard lists of intersex diagnoses
It's valid to call yourself intersex if your intersex variation wasn't evident at birth (most aren't!)
It's valid to call yourself intersex if your intersex variation was one where puberty Did Not Go To Plan
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you have totally ordinary genitals
It's valid to call yourself intersex if the only signs that you're intersex show up on lab tests/imaging and otherwise there's no way somebody could tell from looking at you
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you never had any coercive medical interventions
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you identify your sex as male or female (we are not a third sex!)
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you don't look like how white people with your intersex variation look
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you only found out through freak happenstance as an adult
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you think you were misdiagnosed
It's valid to call yourself intersex if no doctor ever told you you're intersex
It's valid to call yourself intersex if your doctor(s) dispute whether your diagnosis counts an intersex condition (it's not up to them!)
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you feel your intersex variation is a health condition
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you don't like the way you look
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you do like the way you look
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you started your questioning as part of a gender journey
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you started questioning to figure out trauma from your youth
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you started questioning to find other people like you
It's valid to call yourself intersex if you started questioning your intersex status just because you wanted to know
FINAL NOTE: you don't need to be 100% certain you're intersex to start finding, following, and getting involved in intersex spaces. People will understand if you're questioning, and it's the best way to find out if the label fits you! <3