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I do still think that within the context of star trek that genociding the borg would have been the right decision when it was discussed in the episode itself. From the perspective that any ethical discussion around the borg needs to take into account that the borg could easily annihilate any civilization worse off than the federation, which is a lot of them. From how they were presented there was no real reason not to believe that the borg were essentially a genocide engine.
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the op linked the study in the replies & i’ve been skimming it & it’s actually rlly rlly interesting to think abt
https://e1.nmcdn.io/assets/pushkin/wp-content/uploads/imported-files/Wait-theres-torture-in-Zootopia_-Examining-the-prevalence-of-torture-in-popular-movies.pdf
like this sentence from the introduction alone is fucking crazy. “approximately half of adults in the united states think that torture can be acceptable in counterterrorism.” what!
i’ve said it before but anglo lesbians are so so racist about yuri it’s actually absurd how bad it is
feel the need to mention that this post was inspired by a bechdel-wannabe comic artist making a strip about how all yuri is incestuous and dirty art lmfao
obviously the OOP is jsut insanely racist but this comic is especially baffling when you consider how much western lesbian art has been made about incest. like instinctually i wanna ask “have you never heard of ginger snaps” but i know the answer is “who cares at least it isn’t as bad as the Perverted Asians”
RE: the post I just reblogged about how bullies will single out victims for having neurdivergent traits but will rarely if ever come right out and say "I bullied you because you're neurdivergent", they'll just say it's because you were too weird and eccentric (no matter how harmless that weirdness and eccentricity is)
I don't want to derail a post specifically about being neurdivergent, so I'm going to go ahead and make this its own post. But, I have been having a lot of thoughts lately on how the same thing can be said of being a survivor of abuse makes you vulnerable to more bullying and abuse.
I've lurked in subreddits for bullying victims to talk about their experiences, and there's almost always comments saying things to the victims like "bullies probably always sniff you out because you're quiet and withdrawn and act afraid of other people" "bullies sniff you out because when they raise their voice to you or say something mean you flinch and freeze up instead of standing up for yourself" "bullies sniff you out because they can tell from your body language that you have low self esteem and low self worth so they take that as you being an easy target"
Gee, I wonder what sort of life experience could make someone withdrawn, afraid of other people, flinching and freezing when someone is mean or raises their voice at them, and also lowers this person's self esteem and self worth 🤔🤔🤔
Just like in the last post I reblogged where they said it's unlikely for a bully to come right out and say "I picked this victim because they're autistic", instead they'd say "it's because this person is weird and eccentric", if you were to ask a bully who is targeting a survivor of domestic violence why they picked that target it's unlikely they'd come right out and say "I'm bullying them for being a victim of domestic violence", they would deny that much and probably don't even realize (or care) that their victim is a survivor of abuse. But that doesn't change the fact that they were drawn to this particular target because of traits the victim acquired as a result of enduring abuse.
And sure, especially with therapy you can rebuild your self esteem after abuse, and learn to control your trauma responses better so you're not walking around with a target on your back all day for bullies to come and get you. However, that can take years of healing, probably needing the help of a professional to get that far. Call me a crazy radical or whatever but if someone has already endured abuse they don't deserve to endure years more of bullying until they've healed enough, especially when bullying is likely to stunt or even stop the healing process altogether.
i think that's true, but in my experience "being a victim of (domestic violence)" is openly stigmatised amongst children. like there is not much dissimulation, in my experience.
being the victim of parental control was considered embarrassing, and lowered one's social standing considerably. one boy who was hated was scorned for having "his mother chose his clothes for him". my mother also decided daily on what i would wear as well as over my hygiene (when i was allowed to shower, to shave, etc). most people that age had certain liberties to chose their dress (within limits, as their parents also would disallow some things), over their hygiene, and so forth, and a child that had less control of this than them was socially lesser.
when i was in the middle grades, a teacher organised a special group activity on bullying with specifically my case in mind, and i remember a child explaining their dislike and rejection of me with: [their] parents are really weird and don't allow [them] to do anything! i also well remember arriving at school the day after a conflict with a semi-friend who greeted me loudly with "so did your mother give you a trashing yesterday!!!", again as declaration of my patheticness which was, of course, meant to embarrass me.
it's interesting to think on, how little class solidarity so to speak there is among children over the issue of parental control and violence. i suppose everybody that was at conditional liberty to chose their clothing, to decide on some of their activities, that wasn't beaten much at home, etc, must have, on some level, been aware that they were lucky to not have to endure this much, that, as children, had they been saddled with more uncool, more embarrassing parents, there would have been little they could've done about it. probably their parents were in many ways uncool, embarassing, restrictive and occasionally violent, but one can always punch down onto those that are controlled and abused worse.
i also think that the overlap between behaviours deemed "autistic" and reactions to abuse is considerable anyway. one personal example is that into my 20s, i would calm down, and it was the only way for me to go to sleep, by forcefully rocking my body back and forth and by banging my head rhythmically against my bed for as long as it took to fall asleep. obviously something pretty intensely bullyable. also to my knowledge usually diagnosed as sign of autism ("stimming"). however, now in my 30s, and having lived for many years without being entrapped and abused, (though not without violence or the threat of violence, as none of us do), i simply grew out of it. one supposedly does not grow out of autism, though, so i must assume i grew out of being stressed about being entrapped and abused.
Good addition because actually yes, being a survivor of abuse is still heavily stigmatized, and considered a personal failing on the part of the survivor. Nevermind that being a survivor of abuse often comes down to circumstances you have zero control over, such as what family you were born into.
Still, victim blamers like to feel a smug and unearned sense of accomplishment over not being a victim themselves, as if they did something right and victims must have done something wrong to warrant their abuse. Nevermind that again, it often comes down to circumstances you have no control over such as what family you're born into.
Or, even if you're abused as a teen or adult by a partner or someone else you let into your life, we've all hit low spots in our life where we're emotionally vulnerable, so it also often comes down to luck of the draw over who you're surrounded by when you've hit a low and you're in a vulnerable place.
Either way, falling victim to abuse is often completely out of your control, but that hasn't stopped victim blamers. Again, it's still often viewed as a personal failing to be on the receiving end of abuse (regardless of circumstances), so is it any wonder that people don't care that when they point out excuses for why bullies are drawn to a target that these are often signs of enduring abuse?
Actually I'm having more thoughts and feelings about how traits of surviving abuse are just so heavily hated and stigmatized by the general population.
If you are someone who freezes, fawns, or just in general has difficulty speaking up for yourself people will hate you for that, brand you a coward, say it makes you weak, and say that any abuse or bullying that happens to you is your fault for being too weak to do anything about it. (The catch 22 is that people also hate people who assert their boundaries and speak up for themselves, you really can't win!)
But again, freezing, fawning, flinching at mean/rude behavior instead of speaking back, these behaviors can become so heavily ingrained in you after years of abuse, and can be so, so hard to untrain yourself to even years after you've escaped the abuse.
That's because our brains and bodies are hardwired to do what it takes for us to survive any given situation. When you're trapped in an abusive situation, you probably did try fighting back and standing up for yourself at some point. Maybe dozens of times. Maybe even hundreds of times. And chances are every single time, or almost every single time, that you tried standing up for yourself and fighting back this just made the abuser dial up the abuse even more, so fighting back only put you in more danger. And at some point, in a pavlovian manner, a very primal part of your brain began to understand that fighting back and standing up for yourself was only putting you in more danger, endangering your safety, possibly even endangering your life. So your brain, which is evolved to keep you safe and more importantly alive, changed its wiring down to the very primal core to make you do what it would take to keep you safe during abuse, which often is freezing or fawning, but certainly not trying to fight back or stand up for yourself (after that only put you in more danger the first 10 or 50 or 100 times). Freezing and/or fawning is often the only reaction that will please an abuser who's actively lashing out at you, and get them to calm down and back off, or at least not hurt you more than they were already planning to.
So as a survival mechanism, these behaviors become very, very hardwired into you, because they were the only things keeping you safe, possibly even alive, for many years. That's why once you leave the abuse you can't just switch off these behaviors. The more severe the abuse, the more hardwired these are. That's why it can take years working with a therapist, preferably one who specializes in trauma recovery, to hopefully re-wire your brain a little bit. But not everyone has access to a therapist specializing in trauma recovery.
When I see someone who freezes, fawns, has trouble speaking up, who flinches and backs down when someone raises their voice, I don't see a coward. I see someone whose brain was re-wired to keep them safe and alive in a very horrible situation.
And yet, people are so quick to judge these behaviors as "weak" "cowardly" and "pathetic" because society hates abuse survivors so much, and surviving abuse is still so heavily stigmatized.
But if you want to make the world a little kinder for abuse survivors, don't be so quick to judge behaviors common in abuse survivors, like freezing, fawning, flinching at loud voices or mean words, struggling to speak up, etc. Instead of being so quick to judge them as weak or cowardly, or saying it means they deserve to be bullied and/or mistreated for their "weakness", maybe ask yourself why they are the way they are. Chances are they're that way because they've endured something more horrific than you could imagine, so the least you could do is show a little kindness and understanding, maybe even stand up for them.
I suspect there's a similar urge to distance oneself that you see in discussion of disabling injuries or poverty. These things could happen to you. There is no way to guarantee your safety and that fact makes people incredibly uneasy.
As a defense mechanism, they believe they aren't just lucky but somehow better than the people they see suffering. If people are poor because they're lazy and I'm not lazy, I don't have to fear poverty. If I've never been disabled or killed in a car crash, it's because I'm a good driver and therefore I can ignore the possibility that it could happen to me. Because I'm not like them, I won't suffer like them.
Not only does it justify cruelty by saying only the deserving suffer (and so they also deserve your cruelty and you don't have to feel bad) it creates an incentive to alienate and avoid anyone who's suffering. If you get close to them, you might start to like them. You might start to wonder if they really deserve it. You might learn they did nothing wrong, were just like you...and they still got unlucky.
That is rightfully terrifying. It's true and accepting it will not only give you more reason to be kind but also prepare you better for your own bad luck and make you a bit harder to manipulate. Knowing the risks won't save you but it will improve your odds.
But that's a future problem and facing the terror of an indifferent, unfair universe is a now problem, so it takes strength and knowledge (and luck) to fight the instinct to just hide.
About the rewiring of the brain, I think it’s also interesting how survivors of abuse learn to hate themselves for how their brain has learned to survive. Fighting and standing up for yourself is always portrayed as the good and brave thing to do. The heroes save the day by facing their fears and standing up to the villain rarely comes back to slap them in the face. Rarely do I see stories that deal with the possibility that fighting the villain might not work, and what would happen then.
This is mostly speaking from my experience, but when I was a child, my fear response used to be Fight. I would stand up to my father when he was screaming at me. I would tell him when his reasoning didn’t make sense and when I thought he was being unjust. I would defend my mother when she and my father fought, because he screamed and she did not, so I thought she felt alone and vulnerable so I felt like it was my duty to protect her. I would defend myself when I was being bullied, even if that only resulted in more bullying. I remember myself being ‘brave’. But like was said before, fighting didn’t help. It only made things worse. So I learned to Fawn. I learned to hide myself, and that instinct to hide got so bad that it was directly interfering with my ability to function in society. But the anger isn’t gone. I still feel indignant when I believe a situation to be unjust, I just can no longer act on those feelings.
And this, for me at least, has caused a lot of self hatred. And when my teachers told me that it was my own fault that I was being bullied, I believed them. Only now, after I have moved away from my parents and have made some actual proper friends, have I begun to treat myself with some more sympathy. But even now, when I think of my childhood heroes or just characters I admire, I catch myself thinking that they would surely hate me for ‘being so weak and pathetic.’
I feel like this also connected to, or perhaps stems from, capitalist society and politics influencing culture. There is an inherent and concentrated effort to not only disrupt and destroy community, but also blaming societal ills on the individual, so nothing has to be changed. That, too, is the same kind of victim blaming- connecting the thread between disability, poverty, and other forms of marginalization further. Believing the people who are suffering deserved it makes those who aren't unsympathetic and prevents unity and attempts at widescale change. We know that, at least in the US, this has been an ongoing psyop for at least the last fifty years by a lot of the wealthy elite. And that, in turn, is a backlash to the civil rights movement... everything is connected, these issues are all affecting each other.
If someone else is being abused by their boss? They must've done something to deserve it. No need for unions to actually hold corporations accountable. Someone disabled in a workplace accident? Must've been their fault, they'd best not sue, and if anyone speaks up for them their livelihoods are potentially on the line. People are encouraged to compete with each other, and discouraged to cooperate and help each other. From the very beginning in school, from a young age, you are set against your peers in competition- not cooperation. Those who do well will get better opportunities, be able to apply to be accepted into colleges, ect. Students that suffer from abuse and bullying will obviously do worse than students who don't. People like me lost years if not over a decade of their lives to the abuse, and the bullies not only get off scott-free, they go on to become successful and are in-charge of workplaces like managers. US society has been structured to reward some of the worst among us for half a century, and it has really come home to roost this past decade.
We NEED to not blame the victims. Doing so only serves these corrupt forces trying to tear us apart, by getting us to tear apart ourselves for them.
So, bodyncoherence said something I'd like to mention, but they seem to have deleted their reblog so I'm going to put it at the end.
Stimming is not an Autism Only Behavior. Not only does it show up for ADHD, but also OCD and most Anxiety Disorders. Including PTSD something that survivors of abuse famously have a high rate of.
In fact, overstimulation is also something that shows up in both autism and PTSD (and schizophrenia). There is an uncomfortable overlap in PTSD and ASD symptoms, and I've even seen the theory that it because the official ASD symptoms aren't actually the base autistic neurotype, but the Traumatized version.
Anyway, if you notice yourself having autistic behaviors but aren't sure you yourself are autistic, it can be beneficial to Google other possibilities. In this case, "stimming other disorders." You may find a more fitting diagnosis.
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bizarre case. one of those where i imagine the reason it ran unchecked for so long is that it sounds completely unbelievable. How do you, as a truck driver that hit a car full of people, convince a court that "no, THEY ran into ME"
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frankly evil people taking advantage of those desperate for money
Radialmorph: Honey Clubber A large boreal forest member of the radialmorphic group, the HoneyClubber is a herbivore that prefers fruit and honey swells on trees. The animal uses it's club-ended tail to not only defend itself, but to smash against trees in order to make them drop their fruit. It has also used this to break open the swollen lumps on trees created by eusocial parasites in order to dip the club in "honey" and lick it off. HoneyClubbers, although not predatory, will smash anything too close for comfort.
Radialmorph: Percrocuta Percrocuta are large radialmorphic scavengers that stalk the plains for carcasses to gnaw through with their powerful jaws. They are very territorial of their finds, standing over a carcass and whipping potential competitors with their tail. Anything that pushes past the whipping will struggle with a defensive array of spines protruding from the limbs and body. They often steal kills from larger predators through pure tenacity.
Silver Tree An especially tall radialmorph native to the hazardous salt planes of the desert. Silver Trees are the only large animal to inhabit these salt regions permanently rather than just passing through. An adaption to the constant sun exposure is the reflective fur that covers it's body, reducing it's temperature significantly. These hairs are collected in fan like groups that flex to cool the body further, while an "umbrella" above the head keeps the eyes underneath from being blinded by sunlight. Silver Trees sense out hidden tunnels of water beneath the salt hardened earth, and once located they begin to drill towards it with their beak. Much of their body is dedicated to holding the long telescoping neck required to reach these water networks, and even then they will often drag their body into the drilling hole for better reach. These water networks are often plump with microrganisms and minerals that the Silver Tree consumes via a net of tongues. Silver Trees often carry many parasites and symbiotes due to being one of the only sources of food or water on the salt planes.
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Syngnathids are a diverse group of swimming radialmorphs that rely on suction feeding to catch prey. They have modified their catching limbs into a long snout which they pump and jet water through to create suction that drags small prey into it's mouth. Some species have modified this process to blast water or debris at predator and prey alike.
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hi friends. i try not to make this kind of post but i got scammed out of $600 today at work! this is both all of my rent money and all of my savings. if anyone would be willing to donate anything to help me deal with this, as chime has already told me they can't dispute it, it would be much appreciated.
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My only wish for Eshmael in FE Fortune’s Weave is that they are explicitly called Eshmael, and not any like, title or anything to have to dance around the fact that none of the characters can ever refer to them directly by name in voiced scenes.
"It's the Divine One, it's the Teacher! It's The Mercenary! It's, Our Good Friend"
"Please, call me Eshmael."
Genuinely I don't get why they still do that in the Byleth/Alear generation. With Robin and Corrin (who did have established personalities so its weird they kind of backslid with specifically Byleth) you could actually customize the character's hair, face, etc.
Like c'mon those are literally just their own character. You can't even give em an eyepatch anymore.
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Help a struggling trans girl out!
Uh, hi. Local annoying girl here, a lot of bills have come due in this past month and stretched my finances a lot thinner than I'm able to really handle. And, thanks to a bunch of recent doctor's appointments thanks to an ongoing saga of "thanks to my cat, there is currently a piece of glass stuck in my foot in a way that makes it hard to extract and we're still trying to get it out", uh. I'm pretty sure a lot more are going to crop up and require addressing.
That, and since the prices of my meds have skyrocketed this year thanks to my work's insurance changing the policy to one with an absolutely absurd deductible (and I think becoming less trans friendly), I'm stretched way thinner than I ever was last year, and won't be able to afford all of my upcoming bills and do other things like feed myself and take care of my cat through the month of April.
If I could raise $1000, I'd probably be able to weather all of this stuff coming through at once and have enough breathing room to deal with a few other ongoing problems in my life like my computer starting to overheat itself to death.
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When it rains, it pours. The building management where I live want to up my rent by $150 come June 1st and I. I don't have any way to cover that kind of increase. Not now. Not any time soon. I barely manage to get by month to month as it is, amd there's just... nothing left to cut back on anymore to cover it.
I... if I could raise enough money to move out to somewhere cheaper, I could get myself into a better position, but... I really need the help even more now. Please.
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yeah so im flooded with medical bills and still kinda need a lot of money to cover them all... so gonna keep this going :(
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Got fired. Still have medical bills. Everything is way more of a fucking problem right now. I... really need this help way more now.
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Toad #27 let me borrow her IPod Nano. It had a lot of songs. I couldn’t believe there are so many songs. It had over 100 songs. Some of the songs had lyrics. I like when people sing in songs.
