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ive only heard the "ppl dont take us seriously" but...why is that the non-CDDs problem? why are they responsible for people in your life not taking you seriously? shouldnt you be more angry at the people fakeclaiming YOU because of what they assume?

and then you do the same things to non-CDD plurals and supporters?? not take them seriously?? fakeclaim them??

if you dont have a trauma-based disorder you cannot understand my experiences. a singlet with ptsd/cptsd/etc will understand what i am experiencing more than any plural without trauma

i dont think your experiences are invalid and i do believe you deserve space and community to discuss your experiences. but the overlap in communities and terms causes confusion, as what you mean when you use a word is very different to what someone with a trauma-based disorder means when they use a word

honestly, if it was two different communities with their own separate terminology, i wouldn't care. but the way things are, two entirely different experiences have been intertwined way too much

You cannot be a system without trauma.

Do you have to know about the trauma ? No. Does it have to be a certain type of trauma ? No. Does it need to be a certain severity ? No. It just needs to have occurred during critical developmental period of the brain. Before the ego states have stitched together, it must be chronic, and beyond the child’s stress threshold, otherwise it will not disrupt the developmental growth. This is different for everyone. The reason trauma cannot be listed as a diagnostic criteria, is because there is no “xyz trauma that causes dissociative disorders”. It’s completely unique to each person suffering from the disorder. And in often cases, the person suffering from the disorder isn’t aware of their trauma. That’s the point of the disorder. This does not mean you don’t need trauma to suffer from a dissociative disorder. Systems are byproducts of dissociative disorders, you cannot be a byproduct of a disorder you do not have.

Endos are not systems. What do I mean by this? I mean that, by definition, that term is not suited for them, and is not meant to describe them. Just like kinning doesn’t mean you’re a system, just like roleplaying doesn’t mean you’re a system, just like religious practises such as tulpamancy isn’t a system. You are perfectly free to do whatever you please, truly. But do not compare it to being a system. You do not share our experiences. You are a different community entirely, and that’s ok.

But please, for the love of god, stop invading our community, and stop spreading misinformation about an already stigmatised and misunderstood disorder.

Not tryina romanticize being persecutors but also mfs got to stop saying that persecutors are all misunderstood, no. Not all of them, I know what I do and I don’t care enough to change.

Like yes. I’m problematic, plainly that.

Also I don’t say ts in “oh evil alter” way. Like. No? We just aren’t fucking perfect?? Like dude. Mentally ill systems are not gonna have all parts be nice and kind and perfect at coping even with therapy and meds.

We went through too many years of self destruction and trauma 4 that. LOL.

Hope ts doesn’t come off as edgy emo alter. I’m just ranting here since I’m not interested in pissy headmates if I say something wrong to whoever they fuckin’ talk to.

for my main protector part i thought she was just a roleplay muse. in the rp community iwas in people would talk about their muses as if they were external forces and i took that too literally

as for my main persecutory part, i thought i had bipolar disorder and was experiencing mania. i tried to get help for that but no one believed me bc i didnt disclose what she'd been doing

i really, really love being around kids. people always tell me how good i am with them (largely bc i treat them as people...). i find kids the most enjoyable social group to spend time with, im very keyed into their emotional states, very concerned for their safety, etc. im also an adult

whenever i try to talk about how much i love kids to other adults ill inevitably get a joke made at my expense about sounding like a pedo, or have someone tell me to be careful saying things like that. i could ruin the night by telling them im actually a csa survivor and i love being around kids bc being able to be a safe adult for them heals something in me. i dont bc i dont rlly wanna disclose, but i find the comments extra upsetting given my history