Oppressed groups, such as women, racialized groups, trans people, disabled people, etc. saying they hate the oppressing group (Men, whites, cis people, abled people) is not equivalent to an oppressor group saying they hate an oppressed group.
Oppressed groups lack the systemic power to oppress their oppressors, which is why they are able to be oppressed lol
Someone can be oppressed along one axis but an oppressor along another axis. For example, trans, Black, and disabled men all experience oppression for those marginalities, while also being part of an oppressor group (men). They cannot experience oppression for being men, as willingly or unwillingly, they remain part of that oppressor group despite further complexities added by their marginality.
As such, an oppressed group saying they hate men, whites, cis people, abled people, etc. is in no way sexism, racism, etc. because these are systemic factors that oppressed groups cannot access within their axis.
And to be clear, when I say āmenā above, I do not mean it in the T*RF dogwhistle way of āreally trans womenā, trans men are men, trans women are women.
Misandry is not real and is not a systemic force. This includes transmisandry, transandrophobia, homoandrophobia, etc. The terms you are looking for is transphobia and homophobia. You are not systemically oppressed for being a man regardless of marginality because misandry isnt real. This is basic feminism.
Racism towards whites does not exist as a systemic force. If you try to say some shit about anywhere in Africa when the entire continent has experienced brutal colonization and imperialism at the hands of whites for centuries, please yeet yourself off this mortal coil.
Bigotry against abled people is not real, and is not a systemic force.
Bigotry against cis people is not real, and is not a systemic force.
If you argue any of the four above points, you are spewing conservative talking points at best no matter how leftist, feminist, antiracist, etc. you think you are.