Lady of War and Heartache

thinking abt how maedhros and maglor spent most of their lives together and were probably very codependent by the end. also thinking abt maedhros being reborn in valinor several thousand years later, just in time for maglor’s arrival from middle earth. and maedhros is expecting maglor to just fit right in, where he’s always been at mae’s side, but by now maglor has lived more years without maedhros than with him

My chemistry teacher threw a chunk of sodium into the lake next to his house (note: this lake is in the middle of the town) one drunken NYE. He claims there was a 20 foot flame.

One popular take on "deconstructions" of children's media I'll push back on is the idea that talking about how fucked up it is that a bunch of kids have to save the world is inherently pandering to adult audiences. Kids love it when kids' media is about how fucked up it is to be a kid who has to save the world – you've just gotta not be condescending about it.

it’s really interesting how the guys that fight against paying child support the hardest are the ones that could afford to do it. these dudes will quit their well paying salaried job with benefits just to avoid their pay getting docked and potentially going to reimburse the mother of their child for buying their kid new shoes. they’ll leave their child without health insurance and work under the table jobs because they really hate their child and former S/O that much.

men who have been conditioned to believe that having kids and caring for them is somehow emasculating

they swear it is a man’s role to provide and protect but they’re going out of their way to deprive and endanger

They believe that their role is to provide and protect the ones they choose to; it's not a responsibility (though they'll frame it like it is to sound better), but a power that they hold over others. Child support is emasculating because they see it as being forced to provide for someone who isn't "theirs" any more. They don't see it as supporting a child that they have ongoing responsibility for because they believe that they should have the right to withdraw that responsibility at any time, that unconditional responsibility for a child is the woman's role. They see it as being financially cucked.

#these men like the power that being a provider gives#they like the idea that you are dependent on them and that they could take it away from you at any moment#but mandatory child support doesn't really give you that choice or any power over the child/ex#you can't leverage it the same way to get what you want