"Your" insecurities are not yours. They are echoes of other people’s toxicity that you absorbed over time. You moved through life like a sponge, taking in their hatred, their flaws, their unresolved pain. These attachments came from exposure, not choice.

Life isn’t linear and trying to force it into a straight path creates stagnation. It keeps you in the same version of yourself. Growth is cyclical. Identities evolve. Desires shift. Real evolution requires pivots, redirections, experimenting, detours. A non linear life is alive and adaptive. It’s how you actually grow instead of staying trapped in who you used to be

Jordan Peterson's advice is great for men... but not so for women. A lot of his advice is about humility and restraining yourself, not externalizing blame, to stop being entitled, not becoming a narcissistic monster. For most women (in the western protestant world) their problem isn't due to these, women are too humble to a fault, over-accommodation and people pleasing, chronic self doubt and self denial, they internalize even blame that isn't theirs to take, and are more borderline than narcissistic.

"But what about <thing that literally kills people>?"

“Actually, watching television and surfing the Internet are really excellent practice for being dead.”

Real bitches, that are getting a bag. Don’t have to prove to the world they got it. The goal is always to get that bag and disappear. Period